Life Is Definitely Interesting!
I created this lens in hopes to reach out to others who might be able to relate. I'd like to share my thoughts and experiences living with a cross dresser, and invite others to share their comments.
A Little About Us
Background details, how we met etc.
I met my husband on the Internet of all places! We got to know each other very well before we ever met. I already knew he was a cross dresser well beforehand. In fact, we not only discussed it at length but both put in hours of research online about cross dressing and trans gender related topics.
We physically met back in October 2005. We're now married and have a beautiful 18 month old little girl, who is by far my pride and joy.
Every day is a new day, and life never gets boring around here!
Karen
We physically met back in October 2005. We're now married and have a beautiful 18 month old little girl, who is by far my pride and joy.
Every day is a new day, and life never gets boring around here!
Karen
Living With A Cross Dresser
My thoughts and feelings on living with a cross-dresser
Some people just don't understand, or refuse to accept that we aren't all created equal. Am I really just a very open-minded individual? Or is it that I love my husband and truly don't care if he has feminine tendencies?
My husband not only likes to wear women's clothing, but he has fake breasts as well. And that's not where it ends... he wants to undergo female hormone therapy. That's another subject entirely though!
Honestly, our day to day lives aren't revolving around what he's wearing. How silly would that be?
For the most part, I never have a problem with my husband's crossdressing. Well, except when he steals MY clothing and makeup.
There have been some trying times in our relationship though, and they've mostly been about letting (or not letting) other people know about his true self. Not everyone understands as we wish they would.
My husband not only likes to wear women's clothing, but he has fake breasts as well. And that's not where it ends... he wants to undergo female hormone therapy. That's another subject entirely though!
Honestly, our day to day lives aren't revolving around what he's wearing. How silly would that be?
For the most part, I never have a problem with my husband's crossdressing. Well, except when he steals MY clothing and makeup.
There have been some trying times in our relationship though, and they've mostly been about letting (or not letting) other people know about his true self. Not everyone understands as we wish they would.
Shopping For Two
At least there's a lot more variety...
One great thing about my husband cross dressing is that there are a lot more choices when it comes to shopping for him. I'm sure you've heard of women complaining that it's so hard to shop for men.
Well for me, it's pretty fun sometimes! I'm not limited to buying him computer games and tools. I often pick him up a bra or camisole, and sometimes a shirt or skirt. Shoes and boots are pretty tough because he has huge feet (ladies size 12 is hard to find).
Sometimes it's not so fun though. Like when I want to buy myself some new clothes, I feel bad if I don't get him something. So I create this pressure for myself (he doesn't). I know it's silly, but it's because I'm sensitive to the fact that he doesn't want to go out shopping for these things himself.
I truly do support him 100%, so I try to help when I can.
Well for me, it's pretty fun sometimes! I'm not limited to buying him computer games and tools. I often pick him up a bra or camisole, and sometimes a shirt or skirt. Shoes and boots are pretty tough because he has huge feet (ladies size 12 is hard to find).
Sometimes it's not so fun though. Like when I want to buy myself some new clothes, I feel bad if I don't get him something. So I create this pressure for myself (he doesn't). I know it's silly, but it's because I'm sensitive to the fact that he doesn't want to go out shopping for these things himself.
I truly do support him 100%, so I try to help when I can.
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- stormchaser179 stormchaser179 Oct 31, 2009 @ 7:45 am
- I met my husband 5 years ago. He did not tell me for a long time, we lived in our hometown and it is very closed minded. He told me that he was bisexual while i was 4 months pregnant with our daughter. She is a beautiful little girl. Shortly after that he told me that he was a cross dresser. I have tried being very supportive. I've helped him buy clothes and it has been a little fun. He has now told me that he has never been happy being a man. He even says that he is ashamed of himself. I don't know what to say to him to reassure him that i love him no matter what. Any advice?
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- dddoodle dddoodle Jul 28, 2009 @ 1:52 pm
- i have been married to my crossdressing husband for 23 years and no this has nothing to do with me,other women, or sex he was 17 when we meet and had crossdressed for years prior to being with me......i think it has some thing to do with the x an y cromazones or something....do most have female offspring?something i would like to no our selves we had 4 daughters.....doc said he had no male sperm?when we tried selective invtrio?does any one no
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- XXXTrannyGirls XXXTrannyGirls Jun 2, 2009 @ 10:27 pm
- I enjoyed your lens, and the blurbs.
I've always wondered how a woman felt if her man started transitioning into a female role.
I've met and enjoyed visiting with quite a few transsexuals, and crossdressers. I find their courage very inspiring.
But I can only imagine how courageous a woman would need to be to stand by her man, if he's taking on a more feminine role, especially if he chooses any hormone therapy, or surgical procedures.
Les
http://www.xxxtrannygirls.com
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- busymama busymama Feb 11, 2009 @ 9:16 pm | in reply to Judith_Smithson
- I am so saddened to hear that you feel so alone. This sounds like something you definitely need to work on in your relationship with your wife. Please don't leave it unresolved. Seek outside (professional) therapy, either individual or couples therapy at minimum. I hope that one day your wife realizes that the person she married is still there, regardless of what you wear or whether or not you feel feminine or masculine at any given time. Seek out support groups for yourself but also for your wife - I believe there are support groups online for the significant others of crossdressers that could help her understand.
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- Judith_Smithson Judith_Smithson Feb 11, 2009 @ 2:48 pm
- I'm a 40 something married crossdresser. wife learned about it after marriage. As I did actually, I had repressed it for so long. When it percolated back up it was not good. Wife does not understand really has no conception and is all about the public humiliation of it for her and our children if it were to get out. A reasonable concern indeed. But I am so alone.....Your husband is so lucky to have you.
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- Judith_Smithson Judith_Smithson Feb 11, 2009 @ 2:48 pm
- I'm a 40 something married crossdresser. wife learned about it after marriage. As I did actually, I had repressed it for so long. When it percolated back up it was not good. Wife does not understand really has no conception and is all about the public humiliation of it for her and our children if it were to get out. A reasonable concern indeed. But I am so alone.....Your husband is so lucky to have you.
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- busymama busymama Oct 2, 2008 @ 9:52 am
- You can decide one of two things. To say something to him, or to not say anything. What do you feel inside? If you are losing sleep and not eating then you have something you need to express and until you do you aren't going to feel any better. But on the other hand if you're able to let things rest for awhile and continue to see how the relationship develops, you might feel comfortable with bringing this up down the road.
I guess it really depends on how you feel. How new is the relationship? I really feel for you and wish I could offer more help. Even fully accepting my husband's cross dressing doesn't make it easy all of the time. It's still difficult to this day to truly understand how he feels. I should update this Squidoo. There are so many facets to cover and yet I find myself avoiding thinking about them. Not good. Thank you for (indirectly) prompting me to update my thoughts here, I plan on doing that soon.
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- busymama busymama Oct 2, 2008 @ 9:48 am
- Sounds to me that you have to come to terms with this yourself as well. If it's difficult for you (not eating, not sleeping), how difficult do you think it might be for him? Try to remember that if he does avoid answering you, or is dishonest, that it's not likely due to him not wanting to share this with you. It's likely due to him not wanting anybody at all to know. He might not even be able to accept it himself. I think the best thing to do is approach the subject sensitively. If he isn't open to discussing it, let it go (completely). Just let him know that you're there for him and when he's ready to talk about it, you'll be there to listen without judgment.
Don't try to force anything out of him, remember he may be embarrassed or depressed about it. The best thing you can do is just make sure he realizes that you care about him, and that you are willing to be open minded and non-judgmental.
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- dl201980 dl201980 Oct 1, 2008 @ 11:12 pm
- Also, I am starting to chicken out about confronting him about it. What do yout think the disadvantages would be to not saying anything at all? Thanks again.
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- dl201980 dl201980 Oct 1, 2008 @ 4:53 pm
- Thanks busymama. I don't think he's ready to come clean because within the past year I have actually asked him about something related to it (I found some clothes and thought he was cheating on me) and he said that he promised he wasn't but couldn't tell me and didn't have an explanation for what they were. I think I have decided that I am going to confront him and ask him about it this weekend, but I am afraid that he won't be honest with me. If I ask him about it point blank I am sure that he will feel cornered and pressured and not know what to do. If he can't tell me the truth, lack of honesty is a bigger relationship breaker for me then what he is trying to hide from me. I don't want to hurt him but at this point I haven't eaten in three days and I'm not sleeping well so at some point I need to think about myself. Is there an easy or gentle way to bring the subject up?
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- busymama busymama Oct 1, 2008 @ 7:34 am
- Hi dl201980
Why do you say he isn't ready to come clean? It could be that he's worried about how you would react, or maybe he hasn't even come to terms with it himself yet. If he hasn't accepted who he is to himself yet, he might feel embarrassed or angry about his feelings of crossdressing. I'm no expert at any of this, but my gut instincts tell me this: If you think he's someone you want continue developing a relationship with and he's important to you, then find a way to broach the subject. I believe that it's much better to get things out in the open. This might sound cheesy but you can consider writing him a letter explaining what you found but emphasizing (early on in the letter) that you want to learn more and sit down and talk about it. If you can bring it up in person that might be better, but make sure to do it in a private setting and when the 2 of you have some time alone. If you ever want to chat outside of this Squidoo page let me know.
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- dl201980 dl201980 Sep 30, 2008 @ 10:45 pm
- My boyfriend hasn't admitted to it, but I found fake breasts and women's undergarments in his closet and an ad he looked at for a "cross-dresser companion". I don't feel that there is any way I can confront him about it and I know he isn't ready to come clean either, so I'm not sure what to do. I think I can adopt the idea of being with him and supporting him, but if he ever intends on becoming a transexual and having operations, that's an entirely different matter that I would have a problem with. I feel he is someone I could be with in the long term, so I'm not sure where to go from here. Any advice?
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- tiggereyes2008 tiggereyes2008 Jul 3, 2008 @ 4:59 am
- lv been wiv my hustbund for 2 years and he a tv but it dont bother me to be honst its mad our marrige stronger . lv cryed my lonny tears but l will allway suppoert him no matter whot
What's Your Opinion?
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Does It Bother You If A Man Wears Women's Clothing?
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wildtranny says:
if it makes you happy then do it. I am a MTF crossdresser and I absolutely love it.
Posted October 14, 2009
EelKat says:
nope, in fact I refer men who wear women's cloths... I love cross dressers and if that makes me weird, than so be it.
Posted July 12, 2008
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