Long Distance Relationships
There is no better feeling in this world than being a part of a warm and loving relationship with someone that returns your offer of unconditional love, regardless of whether it is as a part of a conventional or long distance relationship. Love is, after all, what makes the world go round.
It is a universal fact that no relationship can achieve a measure of longevity without a lot of hard work and dedication from both parties involved, and that is often put to the test when partners live miles away from each other.
5 Tips To Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work
- Make plans for your future together. A long distance relationship can work, but only for a limited time. Plan a solution and take action so you can be together again.
- Visit eachother regularly. This is very important, do it whenever you have the chance.
- Contact eachoter daily. Use video chatting, email, skype, cell phones, letters, ...
- Send gifts to eachother.
- Keep a positive attitude. This is important to every aspect of life, don't give negativity a chance.
Love Can Be Hard Work
Long distance relationships require an inordinate amount of work to ensure that they survive beyond their fledgling years. One of the most common reasons cited when a relationship that pushes the boundaries of travel breaks up is that it was too hard.
It can be extremely frustrating living away from eachother, but if feelings are strong enough then it should endure until a viable solution can be agreed upon.
It can be extremely frustrating living away from eachother, but if feelings are strong enough then it should endure until a viable solution can be agreed upon.
The Statistics
The general consensus of modern society is that long distance relationships simply do not work. However, various studies that have scrutinized relationships with physical distance and found that the statistics generally do not match this view.
There are between 2.5 and 3 million long distance marriages worldwide and another 4 to 4.5 million non-marital relationships. Don't forget that partners can be located only 100 miles away to constitute long distance.
Around 50% of military personnel conduct long distance marriages and engagements and yet society does not seem to class these as long distance relationships because they do generally work. This just goes to show that a successful, loving partnership is possible when conducted in different time zones!
There are between 2.5 and 3 million long distance marriages worldwide and another 4 to 4.5 million non-marital relationships. Don't forget that partners can be located only 100 miles away to constitute long distance.
Around 50% of military personnel conduct long distance marriages and engagements and yet society does not seem to class these as long distance relationships because they do generally work. This just goes to show that a successful, loving partnership is possible when conducted in different time zones!
The Reasons
The main reasons for having a long distance relationship are usually based around the circumstances in which a couple met or work commitments resulting in relocation.
- Couples that met on vacation in an Internet chat room or through a dating service very rarely live in the same town.
- Similarly, couples that have lived together in the past may be separated by a change in employment, military service or one individual going to college.
Breaking Down The Barriers
Any couple that has a successful long distance relationship will tell you that the key is frequent communication.
In this era of technology, there is no reason not to keep in touch:
Some couples have regular talk times to catch up on each other's news. They set aside an hour a day or call at a certain time and thus are still spending time together.
Regardless of how you communicate, you must always communicate effectively. Remember never to hold anything back. If you are feeling insecure then say so because it will be more detrimental to your relationship if you don't.
In this era of technology, there is no reason not to keep in touch:
- The Internet: chat rooms with or without video, email, online games
- Cell phones and text messages
- Snail mail letters: these can be a refreshing change. Snail mail letters are a surprise, we're not used to receiving them anymore.
- Gifts: everybody loves gifts and it gets even better when you know that they passed through the hands of your lover
Some couples have regular talk times to catch up on each other's news. They set aside an hour a day or call at a certain time and thus are still spending time together.
Regardless of how you communicate, you must always communicate effectively. Remember never to hold anything back. If you are feeling insecure then say so because it will be more detrimental to your relationship if you don't.
Qualities Required For Endurance
There are several qualities that a couple must have in order to make a long distance relationship work.
1) Trust is the first and most important quality is . If you do not fully trust each other then no relationship, no matter how much you love each other, will work. Trust is an integral part of the foundation of all lasting relationships, regardless of distance and separation. You must learn not to take that trust for granted because that may lead to betrayal.
2) Honesty is another essential quality. It is extremely easy to ignore the signs that a long distance relationship is beginning to break down but, if you are honest with each other, you can avoid the otherwise inevitable break up. Telling the whole truth, no matter how negative, will enable you both to strengthen your love and thus form a much more enduring relationship than ever before.
1) Trust is the first and most important quality is . If you do not fully trust each other then no relationship, no matter how much you love each other, will work. Trust is an integral part of the foundation of all lasting relationships, regardless of distance and separation. You must learn not to take that trust for granted because that may lead to betrayal.
2) Honesty is another essential quality. It is extremely easy to ignore the signs that a long distance relationship is beginning to break down but, if you are honest with each other, you can avoid the otherwise inevitable break up. Telling the whole truth, no matter how negative, will enable you both to strengthen your love and thus form a much more enduring relationship than ever before.
Conclusion
It is an acknowledged fact that a significant physical separation can make or break a relationship. However, there is no miracle solution that can make it work.
Every couple is different and needs to find their own way. Most long distance relationships are only temporarily in that state so there is always something to look forward to and they can actually generate a lot of positives. If you succeed in conducting it over a period of time then you will both learn to appreciate each other more and gain more emotional security than you ever thought possible. Just keep it all in perspective and your long distance relationship may just stand the test of time!
Every couple is different and needs to find their own way. Most long distance relationships are only temporarily in that state so there is always something to look forward to and they can actually generate a lot of positives. If you succeed in conducting it over a period of time then you will both learn to appreciate each other more and gain more emotional security than you ever thought possible. Just keep it all in perspective and your long distance relationship may just stand the test of time!
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- JusmeDaLoveGuru JusmeDaLoveGuru Mar 1, 2009 @ 12:34 am
- I wish I had this lens when I was in my long distance relationship.
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- RelationshipRepair RelationshipRepair Nov 25, 2008 @ 5:14 pm
- You have some really good long distance relationship tips here. Trust and keeping in touch are very important if you want to keep things running smoothly. A visit every once in awhile is good to keep the connection strong.
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- Feb 1, 2008 @ 2:03 pm
- No, you do a great job! In fact, a lot of what you say has to be done in relationships that aren't long distance. If there going to be successful.
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- flkrh flkrh Dec 5, 2007 @ 9:28 pm
- this is my first one ever. and we are learning as we go.need some advice, tips.
