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WORLDLY LOVE

What is LOVE?
It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind.
We've been given the impression that to define love is near to impossible. Maybe there's a fear that if we define it, it would somehow be less powerful...less impactful...less exhilarating. Maybe we like the mystery of it. But is it really that complicated?

"Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person."
This is how many people approach a relationship. Consciously or unconsciously, they believe love is a sensation (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears.

"The Art of Loving," noted the sad consequence of this misconception: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love."

While most people believe love leads to giving, the truth is exactly the opposite: Giving leads to love.

What is true giving?
1.The first is care, demonstrating active concern for the recipient's life and growth.
2.The second is responsibility, responding to his or her expressed and unexpressed needs.
3.The third is respect, "the ability to see a person as he [or she] is, to be aware of his [or her] unique individuality," and, consequently, wanting that person to "grow and unfold as he [or she] is."
4.The fourth, knowledge. You can care for, respond to, and respect another only as deeply as you know him or her.

When you are in LOVE:
Skippy heartbeat when you think of him/her.
Restless trembling of hands, feet and other body parts.
If someone disturbs you when you are thinking about him/her you get irritated.
Constant smiling.
Absent mindedness, forgetfulness, inability to focus on tasks at work or home.
Frequent or constant sexual arousal.
Weakening of knees and bursts of energy when he/she calls or comes over.
Inability to stop thinking about him/her.
Feeling that you can smell/hear/feel him or her when not in his/her presence.
Chatting with him/her through calls,sms's etc.
Not giving ear to other worldy things.
Laying conditions and when the he/she fails to fulfill it showing your anger.
When he/she lies, ripping him/her apart.
Taking away his/her freedom.
Doubting.
Watching movies and designing your future in a fancy way.
Watching porns or self-pleasures of masturbation.
Jealousy.
Hatred towards your enemy.
Desire to change your partner according to your own likes. etc.......

MY DEAR FRIENDS IF YOU ARE GOING THROUGH ANY OF THE ABOVE MENTIONED THEN, YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE; BUT ALL YOU HAVE IS LUST.

REASONS FOR FALLING IN LUST

The most appropriate reason for falling in LUST is our inner-wounds.

Pain,
Confusion,
Failures,
Humiliation,
Sickness,
Poverty,
Unfortunate events,
Insecurity,
Resentment,
Regret,
Comparison,
Anger,
Resignation,
Unforgiveness,
Love and Hate,
Agression,
Anxiety,
Lonliness,
Longing,
Sorrow,
Emptiness,
Degrading our own looks,
Mental tensions,
Depressions,
Ignorance,
Victim of injustice, etc...
all these are responsible for the inner-wounds in a human life.

If in such circumstances you are falling in LOVE with someone remember, you are actually falling in LUST

LOVE IS BLIND

Some say Love is blind,
Few say Love can see, but does not mind.

Behold, Truely, I say, Love can never be blind; only Lust can be blind.

If you can't forgive the person for the mistake committed by him/her then, how can you term it as Love?
And, how on earth people say I have forgiven him/her for what he/she has done, but don't forget it.

For forgiveness comes from heart; you have to forgive him/her, and you have to forget it.
For even if he/she commits mistake ten times a day and ask for forgiveness each time, I truely say, you have to forgive him/her every time.

GREAT STUFFS

TRUE MEANING OF LOVE

The word Love is itself beautiful, humble like an infant, soft like an ocean, loyal like a sunflower.
Therefore, read the following with a humble and a kind heart full of love.

Love is Understanding,
Love is Sacrificing,
Love is Waiting,
Love must be Steadfast, and
Love must be Unconditional.

He who practices all these in their life Truely, truely I say, their love life and marital life will prosper until their dying days.

When you are in Love:
Everything you look through your eyes seems beautiful and lovable.
Even the ugliest thing on earth would seem to be beautiful, and
Even the most hated person would be loved.
Even your enemies, you will love.
You will not feel of meeting him/her everyday; no need to speak, and no need to text.
Your power of concentration increases.
You start saving even a single coin for the future.

UNDERSTANDING

The best possible word to define love is "understanding".
Whatever begins with understanding is LOVE.
For love can never be felt at first sight, nor by the qualification of the person's looks,nature,behaviour,caste,creed, etc etc..

Understanding leads to love the person's heart and soul, whereas,
without understanding you fall for the person's appearance or some qualities in him/her.
Therefore, I strongly say, by understanding you stand in love, and
without understanding you fall in lust.

Understanding means meeting the expressed and unexpressed needs of your loved one (specially the unexpressed).

Truely I say, Love is meeting of heart and heart, and soul and soul;
not body and body, nor caste and caste, and nor creed and creed.

SACRIFICING

Many people in personal life hate the word "change" or to sacrifice.
Love is completely based on sacrifice.

Do not sacrifce your life for your love, instead sacrifice your anger, lust, pride, arrogance etc..

What is sacrifice?
Giving-up what is bad in you not only towards your loved one, but also towards all nations.

E.g: If you are prone to anger very soon then, you need to sacrifice your anger not only towards the person whom you love, but also towards your parents, friends, relatives, enemies and all your neighbours.

NOTE: If you give up your anger towards the person whom you love and still show it on others then, remember you are not doing actual sacrifice;
for you are giving-up your anger for your lust, and not sacrificing it for your love.

And for the ones who have the habit of drinking, smoking, self-pleasures, lustful desires etc. if you can't sacrifice these things for your love then, do not justify yourself of loving your partner truely.

WAITING

The most difficult thing on earth is waiting.
We do not have patience for anything, and thus, it spoils our own life.

My idea towards waiting is; understand a person the better you can, if you feel he/she is an appropriate companion for you then convey your love to him/her then, wait until marriage.
You need not have to meet him/her everyday, no need of speaking on calls, no need to text(chat).
Eventually the love in you will raise and touch the heights of the skies, but do not express it, so your career will prosper.

When age comes for marriage convey your love to your parents; they will surely accept it, if you could do all the sacrifices.
For Love will never fail.
Love has never destroyed anyone, it has always shown the way to live a much better life.

Once married you can shower your love which you have kept inside for many years.
The love life even after marriage will be peaceful and will last for lifetime.

STEADFAST LOVE

Love must be Steadfast; it must not cease with time, love for eachother must be new every morning, you are a portion of each other and so is your soul, therefore, you must trust eachother and do not doubt your own faithfulness.

Love must be determined and firm no matter how much of mistakes you commit against eachother.
Love must be unfailing and merciful.
Love must be the strength and refuge when either of you fall weak.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Unconditional love is the key towards happiness.
In todays world, the need for unconditional love is as great as the need for air and food.

So, what is unconditional love?
In early childhood, we saw that when we did all the right things-when we were clean, quiet, obedient and otherwise "good"-people "loved" us. They smiled at us and spoke in gentle tones. But we also saw that when we were "bad," all those signs of "love" instantly vanished.
The instant we do anything at all to win the approval or respect of other people-with what we say, what we do, how we look-we are paying for the attention and affection we receive.

Therefore, Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves.
We can only receive unconditional love when we make foolish mistakes, when we fail to do according to other people, and even when we get in their way, but they don't feel disappointed or irritated at us.
Love alone has the power to heal all wonds even the inner-wounds mentioned above.

MY PROMISE TO MY LOVE

RAY OF HOPE,
I would not promise to love you forever, or my love for you would last for eternity.
But,
Truely I say,
"I will give you a steadfast and unconditional love until my soul parts my flesh".

READER's COMMENTS

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Jun 15, 2011 @ 9:50 am | delete

hey good n perfect article...i like it ...n keep it up

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PassionOfLove Jun 15, 2011 @ 10:07 am | delete

thankyou for sharing your view.

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knit1tat2 Jun 15, 2011 @ 6:52 am | delete

I do sincerly wish every human on Earth could learn this! Well chosen topic and well spoken!

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PassionOfLove Jun 15, 2011 @ 9:11 am | delete

thankyou for your lovingkindness for spending your precious time on my lens.
and yes because of the lack of this love there is no peace on earth.

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padswe1970 Jun 14, 2011 @ 10:42 am | delete

good work

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PassionOfLove Jun 15, 2011 @ 9:03 am | delete

thankyou for your lovingkindness for spending your precious time in reading this article

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Jun 13, 2011 @ 11:00 am | delete

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Jun 13, 2011 @ 10:38 am | delete

Its the one of the best written.. oh wait
best typed and expressed-love-in-true-manner novel, I've ever read.
I have some doubt still but i dont care.. m gonna copy this whole article and i will share it to every person who need to get their angles straight ;)