Main Causes Of Divorce

One of the main causes of divorce is lack of time. Specifically, finding a good balance between work, family, and personal. Spending too much time on one of the 3 can lead to huge marriage problems.

Say that the husband is a very successful lawyer, but works 14 hours a day as a result. He creates a stable financial foundation, but by the time he gets home, he might be too tired to spend quality with his wife.

On the other hand, there might be a husband who has all the time to spend with his wife, but doesn't have a high-paying job that creates a secure financial situation for the both of them. Financial struggle is one of the biggest causes of divorce that could ultimately break up the marriage.

Your marriage will be negatively impacted if you don't find a way to balance the time between all of life's priorities.

Let's go over one of the other big causes of divorce: Sex (or lack of)

The number 1 complaint of most marriages is the lack of sex...after you get married! Most couples get bored, and then look externally to satisfy their urges, leading to infidelity.

It's no wonder that lack of sex is one of the main causes of divorce.

Over time, it's natural for couples to feel that they've "been there, don't that." After all, you might have been sharing the bed with the same person every single night of the past 15 years.

Knowing this, it is very important to keep the excitement alive in your marriage. Mix things up. Romance each other like you did when you first met.

There's a reason that the two of you had great chemistry, and it's up to you to remember how to revisit that every single day you are together.

Let's go over one of the other big causes of divorce: Money

The biggest cause of divorce is money. Period.

Financial struggles place such a huge burden on a relationship because it affects every single aspect of your lives. The roof over your head. The food on the table. Everything.

Knowing this, the two of you have to be on the same page when it comes to finances. The both of you must share the same outlook on expenditures and saving. If one of you likes to go on shopping sprees while the other one cringes at the thought, there is going to be issues.

Keep reading below to find ways to address each of these 3 causes of divorce.

Sometimes you need some help to solve problems in your marriage. There are a number of resources out there, but the best book I've found is The Magic of Making Up. The strategies and topics covered in here are geared directly at those who are having problems in their relationship and want to fix it.

You'll learn how to get the "magic" back in your relationship, no matter what happened. Even if infidelity occurred, The Magic of Making Up will help the two of you work past that incident and get back to having a happy marriage.

Of course, there are many more topics that are covered in the book, so it's definitely worth checking out.

If you want, you can watch this video below, where the author himself goes over one of the strategies in the book.

In the video below, TW Jackson himself discusses the first thing you should do if you want to prevent the two of you from breaking up!

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So you need to find a good balance between all of your commitments, while maintaining a happy relationship. Here is a great way:

Designate a "Date Night."

Set aside a particular day of the week that the two of you go on a date. It could be a fancy dinner, going to a movie, or just hanging out in front of the TV watching your favorite shows.

The purpose here to is create a chance to bond. A main cause of divorce is not spending quality time together, which can easily happen when the two of you become too busy to remember.

Let's look at ways to keep the excitement alive, even if you've been together for years.

Some couples look at familiarity with each other as a bad thing. Wrong! This should be an advantage. Think about it like a mattress you've had for 10 years. Over the year, it has conformed to your body and nothing else feels better. You wouldn't trade it for anything.

That's how sex with your spouse should be. You know exactly what each other likes, and if you want to try something new, you are comfortable enough with each other to say so.

Communication is the key, and if there is something you want to try, speak up! And there's no reason to be bored. Like they say, there are a million ways to skin a cat. No pun intended.

How do you solve this? Simple, make a budget and stick to it. It is very important that you make the budget TOGETHER.

Take a piece of paper, and list out all the monthly sources of income on the left side. Total those numbers. Then list out all of the monthly expenditures on the right side, and total them up. Hopefully, the number. If not, then you have some work to do.

Take a look at the expenditures and see if there are some that you can cut out. Having a $5 Starbuck latte every morning might not look so good anymore.

You might find some other things you can do without, which is the purpose of this exercise. And remember, you should both agree on every decision. Otherwise, it won't work.

There might be some things you NEED to have. That is up to the both of you to compromise on. Once you have come to a point where the both of you are comfortable, take another look at the budget and be realistic about it.

The reality of it is that you might have to make some sacrifices.

But if it means that you have created a stable financial environment, it will go a long way to having a happy relationship.