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Be yourself and change the world! The holidays only come once a year, so give yourself permission to be joyful and have fun instead of letting old resentments get to you or letting yourself feel bogged down with details and commitments. Indulge A Little.

That's what friends and family are for. Remember when you can. Cherish The Moment. Don't let hassles become roadblocks.

Go With The Flow when things don't turn out how you expect. Say No to commitments, events (and foods) that don't nourish you or enrich your life. Make time daily to relax and rejuvenate so you look and feel your best. Put Your Well-being First by making self-care a priority. Sleep Enough each night so you'll be sure to make good decisions about what you're eating and how you're spending your time and money.

Here are my top ten tips for surviving the holiday season to manage your appetite and keep your energy up. It's that time of year again where our bodies want to slow down and sleep more, but our schedules and to-do lists get bigger and bigger.Jane Greenway helps wellness councilors thrive in todays world.She can be reached at Male Menopause

Many people think confidence is something you either have or do not have. It is not that simple. Even highly confident people have times when they lack confidence or privately worry about their ability to keep on achieving good results.

Thankfully, we can all become more confident and take charge of this valuable emotional state. It is easier than you think!

Here are a few quick tips on how to have confidence:

1. Know your best time of day

Are you a morning person? Or are you more dynamic later in the day? Access to our personal greatness depends to a large degree on our physical well being. Pay attention to when you tend to be at your very best and where possible use those times to get involved in the activities that require you to have confidence. For example, if you want to ask your boss for a raise and you are not a morning person then wait until later in the day and catch her when you are both in a good emotional state.

2. Forget about perfection

Confident people know they can handle whatever happens and they believe this even if they do not always produce perfect results every time. You can do the same. Decide that you will do the very best you can in the moment. Aim to give 100% but do not demand perfection. this attitude frees you to get things done and to keep learning and improving. Those people who aim for perfection live very stressful and demanding lives. And ultimately their confidence will suffer because they never quite live up to their high expectations.

3. Build confidence in unrelated activities

Confidence is simply a feeling. This is good news because it means you can develop greater confidence in yourself outside of the activities where you sometimes lack confidence. If you lack confidence meeting people but are good at sport, for example, then spend more time playing sport to get used to feeling confident again. You could also play this sport before you go out to meet people. The confident feelings you enjoy playing sport will help you later even though meeting people is an unrelated activity.

The key then is to spend a little time each day on activities that flex that "have confidence" muscle until feeling confident is your normal state of being.

Now, go and play with these simple tips. You know how to have confidence. With a little time you will find yourself feeling confident more and more often until it becomes second nature.

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