Relationship Advice: Breaking Up from Relationship Advice - Love Advice - Dating Tips

Relationships are so complex. On one hand, it's the most wonderful thing you can imagine when you're with somebody special.  On the other hand, it can get downright ugly at times too. And when it does get ugly, we often times say things that we really don't mean... such as, "I hate you!" or "You're such a loser!"

The thing about breakups though is that when they occur, somebody ALWAYS HAS THE UPPER HAND.  It always seems as though one of them is ready to move on right away, find someone new and start all over again, while the other party is sitting there twiddling their thumbs -- just waiting for the phone to ring with an apology and hopes to get back together soon.

Throughout my life, I have witnessed this first hand many of times in my younger years -- and while I always knew what my role was, I have always been amazed by the roles of others -- both men and women. So, as a whole, what gender do you believe consistently has the upper hand in breakups and why do you believe this?

Which Gender Has The Upper Hand?

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He Said

diggyisking says:

um...i made a post and it disappeared?
its so sad that men are such wussys, they should be the ones in control and choosing the woman, not the other way around. And its possible, i know this, being able to walk into a club and make-out with a hot girl within 5 minutes and then taking her home,,, why do guys give away their power?hmmm

Posted October 03, 2008

diggyisking says:

Haha beempa...yes its so sad how so many man have submitted to the fact that they cant get women, and that its the woman choosing the man. Its ridiculous really, and im trying to help as many guys as possible to get over that point and just be able to walk into any bar, make-out with a woman under 5 minutes and take her home. It all depends on the attitude and the confidence:)

Posted October 03, 2008

bba says:

I say it's traditional in our culture. The Man Rules:

http://www.squidoo.com/themanrules

Posted July 26, 2008

richgerman says:

yeah thats true its a case to case situation.

Posted July 09, 2008

Tom says:

It depends on the situation. Remember, women can fake orgasms, and men can fake relationships!

Posted June 28, 2008

poddys says:

I think it's good to share that role. Sometimes let him take the upper hand, and sometimes her. A good relationship built on trust and sharing is the best - and of course true love...

Posted June 23, 2008

beempa says:

Men have the upper hand. Women would if they didn't make things so darn complicated all the time. Men like to keep things simple. If we want to paint the room green, we paint it GREEN. Ask a woman to paint the room green and she will shop for DAYS trying to locate the right shade of "Chartreuse." Get with the program ladies -- it's friggin' GREEN! :)

So back to my point... taking the scenario above, a woman will spend days on end wondering "what happened? why isn't he calling? when will he apologize? why won't he realize I'm perfect for him?" Meanwhile, a man goes to a bar, meets his friends, grabs a beer and says "Yeah, we broke up... it kinda sucks too because -- WHOAH! Who's THAT over there? She's hot!" (LOL!)

Posted June 22, 2008

She Said

beempa says:

Women, simply because they are more desirable by nature than men. After the break up, a woman can waltz into any bar, have a drink and take a man home with her. But most men do not have this type of power, even if they are drop dead gorgeous or have a ton of money. Yes, there are some men that do have this power too, but not nearly as many as there are women who have this power.

Posted June 21, 2008

 

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