The Secret to Building and Sustaining a Happy Family
I can't think of any newly wed who doesn't want to build and sustain a happy family. Marriage is said to be sacred and I agree to that - not from a religious point of view - but from the fact that getting married is a major decision in anyone's life. However, it is also a fact that getting married often leads to problems between couples.
Problems between couples can be solved if they really want to but things often get out of hand when the kids start to get involved. Doesn't matter if the kids are still young or if they're already teenagers, fact is it's hard to deal with marriage problems when the kids get entangled in it.
The secret to building and sustaining a happy family is communication. Proper and open communication. Dealing with a marriage problem when kids are involved cannot be done if only a few can talk and a few can be heard. Remember that all people have feelings and opinions about certain matters - even the kids.
Sitting together in the living room with a pitcher of cold orange juice and a bowl-full of snacks helps a lot in getting the family more acquainted with each other. I say "acquainted" because sometimes, we don't really know "who" we are living with even if they're our spouse, our child or our parent. Why? Because we seldom talk with each other. Taking good communication for granted in a family is bad, very bad.
Building and sustaining a happy family can be accomplished with a few easy-to-do things such as:
I'm sure you can think of more. A happy family starts with a happy marriage. All marriages are happy but they won't stay that way without the proper care and feeding.
Read The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage
Just remember, there is no better solution to a marriage problem than good and proper communication - even when the kids are involved.
Problems between couples can be solved if they really want to but things often get out of hand when the kids start to get involved. Doesn't matter if the kids are still young or if they're already teenagers, fact is it's hard to deal with marriage problems when the kids get entangled in it.
The secret to building and sustaining a happy family is communication. Proper and open communication. Dealing with a marriage problem when kids are involved cannot be done if only a few can talk and a few can be heard. Remember that all people have feelings and opinions about certain matters - even the kids.
Sitting together in the living room with a pitcher of cold orange juice and a bowl-full of snacks helps a lot in getting the family more acquainted with each other. I say "acquainted" because sometimes, we don't really know "who" we are living with even if they're our spouse, our child or our parent. Why? Because we seldom talk with each other. Taking good communication for granted in a family is bad, very bad.
Building and sustaining a happy family can be accomplished with a few easy-to-do things such as:
- Eating together
- Watching TV together
- Going out together regularly
- Taking the kids to school
- Playing together
I'm sure you can think of more. A happy family starts with a happy marriage. All marriages are happy but they won't stay that way without the proper care and feeding.
Read The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage
Just remember, there is no better solution to a marriage problem than good and proper communication - even when the kids are involved.
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Keeping the Children Involved In the Family
The children - no matter how old they - are has to be kept involved with the affairs of the family. Of course problems between couples has to be kept from them especially when they're still young but letting them know what's going on actually helps in making a happier family.Children are a part of the family too! In fact, they're pretty important. I believe this is true because I've seen how the kids have managed to "solve" family problems in different and unique ways. One such scenario was when my second daughter interrupted me and my spouse while we were arguing and said, "Now, why are you fighting again? I thought you said fighting is not good?" The result, me and my wife laughed and ended our argument in an instant.
But will that always work? With the proper mindset, I believe so. If we listen and respect what our kids have to say then we will hear words of wisdom come out of their mouth. Words that we most probably have taught them in the first place.
Read The Creative Family: How to Encourage Imagination and Nurture Family Connections
for more suggestions on how to keep the kids involved.Remember, keep the children involved... they're part of the family too!
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Don't Impose Respect, Earn It!
One of the worst mistakes that I see parents make is that they impose respect on their kids. This is wrong and shouldn't be encouraged.Children are just like adults. Despite their young age and inexperience, they too are human beings who learn and have feelings. And just like with any other human being, we parents must learn to earn their respect as well as this is a better way of nurturing their thoughts and their feelings.
Imposing respect on somebody often results to an outward form of respect wherein the child will bow and follow your every word but actually oppose it within them. This little inner oppositions pile up until they burst in total anger and disrespect. You don't want that to happen do you?
So how does a parent gain a child's respect? Simple. You gain it exactly the same way to gain other people's respect. You show them that you're respectable in every way and they will respect you. But most of all you gain their respect simply by genuinely loving them.
I suggest that you read the book Little Family, Big Values: Lessons in Love, Respect, and Understanding for Families of Any Size
. It gives you lots of information on how to nurture family values, including respect. Save Your Marriage at All Costs
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- MikeLopez MikeLopez Sep 2, 2008 @ 3:51 am
- Hi, This appears to be a very classic example of lack of communication. I think the best thing for you to do is to tell him straight about how you feel but do it in a kind manner so as not to cause him to be angry (which in turn will make you more angry) and make things worst. I don't really know why he's doing what he's doing and that's why I believe that the best solution is communicate more. Also, don't think that this problem can be solved in a single "talking session" because that's not going to work. It takes time to communicate properly and it takes a lot of patience and understanding.
One more thing - when you talk to him, don't do it to fix the problem. I know that's odd but believe me when I say that if you "talk to fix the problem" then you won't be able to fix it because you'll soon "feel tired". So when you talk, just talk for the sake of it. Talk about anything you can think about.
I hope this helps!
Mike
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- AubreyElaina AubreyElaina Sep 1, 2008 @ 6:30 pm
- I just wanted some advice. My husband and I have been married for 14 years. Lately, (for the past year) I seem to be either mad or angry at my husband. I'm not sure how to approach him about this. I know he feels my resentment towards him, but he doesn't say a word. I have even been thinking about divorce. I feel he is ignoring his family. All he does is play on the computer or sleep when he is at home. I'm sure he needs his "space", but for how long? Any ideas on how I should approach this? We do have 4 children involved, but I'm tired of being ignored. His philosphy, if he's happy, we all must be happy. Ugh!
