Marriage Vows (Singapore)

Review the following marriage vows used at the the Registry of Marriages (ROM). You and your partner may want to adapt it to suit your requirements.

Registrar's Address
Before you are joined in matrimony, it is my duty to remind you of the solemn and binding character of the vows you are about to make. Marriage according to law is the union of one man and one woman, voluntarily entered into for life, to the exclusion of all others.

Do I understand that you __________________ and you ________________ are here of your own free will for the purpose of becoming man and wife?
Couple answer together: Yes

To Bridegroom
Will you, __________________ take this woman ______________ to be your wedded wife, to live together in the legal estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honour and keep her in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to her, so long as you both shall live?
Answer: I will

To Bride
Will you, _________________ take this man _________________ to be your wedded husband, to live together in the ligal estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honour and keep him in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to him, so long as you both shall live?
Answer: I will

The Rings (optional)

Registrar's Instructions
Take this ring and put it upon the third finger of his/her left hand and repeat after me: In token and pledge of our constant faith and
abiding love, with this ring I marry you.

Registrar's Pronouncement
As both of you have given your consent before me to live together in matrimony and have solemnly promised, each to the other to do so, I now pronounce you two Man and Wife.

I have picked my ROM date using the Chinese Lunar Calendar book and have verifed the date with this Very wed website. The auspicious dates which I have verified are in line.

Whether you belive or not, it is always important to pick a good date. Make use of the Very wed website and find your date.

The drawback is, you have to know Chinese or get a Chinese friend to help you with this website.

Only call Mr Chan Kai Yau after you have confirmed the date and time of your ceremony. Over the phone, he would advise you immediately his availability.

If he is available, he will ask you (if only one of you is available is also okay) to meet him at the fountain behind Borders. He will tell you a time to meet but do not worry if you are 5 to 10 mins late because he would be occupied with other couples. Of course it is a matter of respect to be on time and wait for him. As you will not be the only couple there at the fountain so just approach him if he is not with anyone.

Bring along the completed solemniser consent form for his signiture but do not worry if you forgot to bring as he has with him some blank forms which you can fill up there.

He will sign your consent form and ask for your names (both in english and chinese) and he will record your name, along with the venue, date and time in his diary. Ask him any questions which you may have if you have to at that point.

Call him few days before your actual ROM date (though I was told there is no need to call). On that day itself, I was a little afraid as he has no handphone (what if he forgot?). However, he was right on time on that day. So you do not have to worry :)

Note: Mr Chan Kai Yau does not provide you with his e mail address. Sample below is just an idea if you would like to send an e mail to other solemnisers.




Hi Mr / Mrs / Professor XX,

We are holding our solemnisation ceremony on DD MMM YYYY (day of week) at XX hotel / XX restaurant and would like to invite you to be our solemniser.

We have your phone number from the ROM website and would like to call you but not sure when is a good time. We hope you could let us know when is a good time to call or if it is better if we communicate via e mail.

We really hope you would accept our invitation to be our solemniser. We will be holding the wedding dinner / hi-tea reception from 6:30 pm to 9 pm and it would be great if you could help us with our solemnisation ceremony at about 7 pm.

We look forward to hearing from you.

Thank you.

Yours Sincerely
mm & xx

Our handphone number:
mm: 9XXXXXXX
xx: 9XXXXXXX

Now, just hit the send buttom and wait :)
They are ususually quite quick to confirm with you their availability and let you know how to obtain the signiture of the consent form from him/her. I heard some would like to meet face to face, others just want you to fax a copy to them.

I strongly recommend the Lovely Lacey website. My friend lent me the pens for signing the ROM certificate purchased from this website (see above picture of Mr Chan Kai Yau, the pen which he is using) and it was lovely. I only learnt about getting the special pens for signing the certificate and other items I could purchase for the ceremony on the day before my ROM and it was too late! Don't make the same mistake as us and get yourselves prepared!

Few recommendations:
Feather pen for signing the ROM certificate or guest book


Bird cage for placing your rings, I would prefer the cage over the pillow as it can be used to keep your rings at home after the ceremony



Ang Bao Money box