Maternity Care

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Where to find help and support as a new parent?

Becoming a first time mom or dad is one of the biggest life changing events there is. All the cliches are true. Your life will never be the same again. The relationship with your partner gets a new dimension. From now on, together you are responsible for another human being. You don't have a clue yet, what you're supposed to do....

In the earlier days of extended families, first time moms and dads had the support of their own parents, neighbours and sibblings. Nowadays, lots of new parents, who never had a newborn close to them before, are on their own after a few days in the hospital. They come home with all their worries, insecurities and questions, like 'does she drink enough?', 'why is he crying all the time?', 'is it normal that she breathes so irregular?' and 'how do I get him to sleep at night?'...

My job as a maternity nurse is, to answer all these questions, provide information and help building up confidence in first time moms and dads during the first week after giving birth. After 12 years of doing this, I still feel privileged when taking care of a new family. I love my job.

Picture: as a maternity nurse and a proud aunt I bathed my 2 days old niece in the tummytub - picture provided by my brother Bram Loose - all rights reserved

Parenting from day 1 - a platform for parents.

It takes a village to raise a child ...

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Surveys tell us over and over again, that help and support are most important when raising a child. Yet, modern society lacks spontaneous support systems like extended families and village life more and more.

I am building an online platform for maternity care and parenting questions, together with fellow lensmaster Hannie Mommers. So, not every new mom has to struggle alone. Let's build a community on the web!
Parenting from day one
We launched our platform for maternity care on the 31th of December. Every month we will be adding valuable articles and links to our site.
Hannie's personal story about her grandson in Spain
Spain is one of these countries with very little maternity care. So we texted a lot with her son and daughter in law, about babycare....

Carried babies are calmer babies

Comfort your baby handsfree!

All babies cry a lot, with a peek during their second month, it is not your fault. They need the reassurance of your touch, when they are upset. Carrying your baby in a sling will calm them down more easily. And you can do something else than just rocking your little one...

Calm down, you will be OK

When you’re worried about your little one and start searching the internet, you can get even more anxious and confused, while what you need most is to stay calm and trust your own instincts.

I spend a lot of time, ensuring parents that babies do cry a lot during their first months and it is not their parents fault. (And telling them that this rare disease they found on Google probably has nothing to do with their upset little one…)

The best you can do when your child is upset, is calm down and hold your crying baby.
The crying will pass eventually.

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Dutch Maternity Care

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wrapping a baby girl after her bath - Klaartje Loose In The Netherlands we have an excellent maternity care service, for all mothers.

As a maturnity nurse, I spend 8 to 10 days with a family right after their new baby is born, ensuring that they know everything they need to know about breastfeeding, crying patterns, safety in the house, and general babycare.

When I leave, the parents are confident enough to take care of their baby and trust their instincts. Plus, they know where to go for extra support and information in the coming months.

At first it didn’t occur to me, that parents in other countries were lacking this kind of support.

Then friends and family got pregnant abroad.
I traveled extensively and met dozens of first time moms (and dads) during my travels. Last but not least, I was the maternity nurse of many expat families in the Netherlands, who kept on telling me that this service was missing in their country, and could they please fly me in during their next pregnancy?

Over the years, this resulted in a constant stream of mails, text messages and phone calls from friends and family from former clients, who had specific questions about babycare. Or sometimes just needed to vent their worries and hear from a professional that this was perfectly normal and they were not alone.

Searching online for parenting advice

Of Course or a No-Go?

Do you go online when you're desperate or worried about your little one?
Where do you get your advice, if you go online?

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Yes, Google is my co-parent...

ItayasDesigns says:

I wish the internet had been available when I was a young mother. There are so many informative resources for mothers now.

pamala-mitchell-7 says:

ilike it for my baby to have for them all the time

d-artist says:

One needs to use common sense and be rational. Internet searches can be helpful but be logical and ask a professional nurse or doctor.

StephenJParkin says:

It is like everything you need to research with a healthy air of cynicism and check on the credentials of the source before trusting it!

discountcopiercenter says:

Yes, I go on-line when I am desperate and worried about my little one. All my parents are helpful with there advice and suggestion.

No, it only makes me nervous...

jennifer-lawyer says:

I would always prefer a living, breathing human being who can empathize and calm my nerves. I love technology, but Google is not always my friend.

says:

i feel that Google gives too much information and too much scare mongering... in the end of the day someone experienced is better

DebW07 says:

There was no internet when my kids were babies. If I had a medical question I always called our pediatrician. All other questions went to my mom, sister, or sister-in-law. They had lots of experience.

 
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  • Charito1962 Mar 19, 2014 @ 1:00 am
    Beautiful lens! Thanks for your parenting tips!
  • klaartje-loose Mar 19, 2014 @ 5:28 am
    Thanks for your visit and your compliments Charito1962!
  • Steve_Kaye Dec 19, 2013 @ 3:50 am
    Congratulations on receiving the LOTD.

    People need more guidance on being a parent. So you're providing a very important service.
  • Miratex Dec 19, 2013 @ 2:19 am
    Very Nice!
  • FreshStart7 Dec 19, 2013 @ 12:12 am
    Congratulations on winning Lens of the Day!
  • rauspitz Dec 18, 2013 @ 8:04 pm
    Extremely useful lens. Congratulations on getting LotD!
  • MSchindel Dec 18, 2013 @ 1:04 pm
    I'm not a parent, but I can see how valuable this information is for new parents! Congratulations on the well deserved Lens of the Day.
  • jennifer-lawyer Dec 18, 2013 @ 11:55 am
    Congrats on LotD! This is a wonderful lens...as a mother of 4 (18, 17, 5, & 2 1/2), we have had a lot of adventures. My advice: relish every moment. It seems to fly by so fast...even the painful moments!
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 12:26 pm
    Wow, you sure have a lot of advice for other women, with your experience! The painful moments of the present often become treasures in the future...
  • Katyma Dec 30, 2013 @ 9:24 pm
    So true! My children are 9, 4, and 19 months; when everything seems to be chaotic, I remind myself that they will only be little for a short amount of time and to cherish this time.
  • d-artist Dec 18, 2013 @ 10:08 am
    Congratulations on LOTD! I knew nothing about babies when I had our first child, but my helpful husband who comes from a Large family showed me the way. We had a colicky first born and an allergic second born, but I never panicked I just used common sense...no computers in those days, but a phone call away from a professional ....
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 12:19 pm
    Wow, how great that your husband could be your support system, what a wonderful way to bond as a family! Thanks for your visit.
  • RenaissanceWoman2010 Dec 18, 2013 @ 9:19 am
    I would love your job. What you do makes such a difference in helping babies and new parents thrive. Every country needs a system that provides this type of support for babies and their families. I appreciate the peace of mind you are giving as a gift to those you serve. Congratulations on LotD!
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 12:20 pm
    It is a very special job indeed; I am with a family in their most precious and private moments. I love the contribution I can make to their lives. Thanks for your visit!
  • jen17 Dec 18, 2013 @ 9:00 am
    Great lens - congratulations on LOTD!
  • StephenJParkin Dec 18, 2013 @ 8:58 am
    We did not succeed in our attempts to have children, but considering that relationships and having kids is essential to keeping the World working it is amazing how little attention is paid to this topic in our education and Health Care systems around the World. This is a great LOTD and wonderful initiative. I wish you every success. Bravo!
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 12:23 pm
    Thank you so much for your comment. It is a very important topic indeed, both for the lucky ones that get babies and the grieving ones who have to let go of their deeply felt wish to become parents. I admire you for seeing the bigger picture, even though you didn't become a dad yourself.
  • chrisilouhoo Dec 18, 2013 @ 8:27 am
    This is great, I'm going to forward to some mothers and moms-to-be that I'm sure will appreciate it.
    Congrats on getting Lens of the Day - you deserve the recognition!
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 12:24 pm
    Thanks a lot, both for the compliment and the forwarding of this lens. It means a lot to me; this way I can reach more parents and contribute even more to good maternity care around the world.
  • Dec 18, 2013 @ 6:36 am
    congrats on LOTD. and I feel modern families are losing out because we used to grow up with aunties and cousins and it was great!
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 7:51 am
    I agree, it helps a lot to have a circle of experienced parents around you when you're a first time mom!
    Thanks for your visit.
  • DebW07 Dec 18, 2013 @ 1:56 am
    I had lots of questions with the first, but by the time my second baby came I was pretty comfortable with being a mommy. Great lens, klaartje-loose! Congrats on LotD!
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 5:31 am
    That's the advantage of getting your second one, you already have lots of experience!
    Thanks Deb, I am over the moon with happiness about my LotD....
  • discountcopiercenter Dec 18, 2013 @ 1:39 am
    Thanks for your experience on this lens. Being a parent is the happiest moment of anybody's life but with it also comes the responsibilities for your young ones. And best parents are those who hold their nerves at the time of worries, fears and trouble and enjoy the families with solution, knowledge and happiness..... Congratulation for the Lens Of The Day.
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 5:32 am
    staying calm and trust your own instincts is very important indeed!
    Thanks for your visit!!
  • RoadMonkey Dec 18, 2013 @ 1:27 am
    I think additional support for new parents is essential. Looking after a new baby can be very stressful without having to do it all by yourself. The internet is available 24 hours a day and it's possible for there ALWAYS to be someone on line from somewhere round the world, it makes 3.00am a lot less lonely!
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 5:33 am
    Oh, yes, the dreaded 3:00 am with a crying baby... Parents can feel desperate and all alone during one of those nights!
  • tmadeira Dec 18, 2013 @ 1:17 am
    My wife and I have been thinking more seriously about having children and I found the information you provided very helpful. Thanks for sharing your expertise!
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 5:34 am
    May you soon be a first time parent then ;-)
    (Did you pick up my free ebook for the first 2 weeks of parenting?)
  • grammieo Dec 18, 2013 @ 12:05 am
    Love this lens, congratulations of LoTD! Well deserved, blessings on your goal to helping mothers and fathers become more capable and less worried parents. It's the hardest job in the world.........
  • klaartje-loose Dec 18, 2013 @ 5:35 am
    and it can be the loniest... But I really want to change that, both by sharing my expertise and by providing a platform for fellow parents.

 

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