Mean People Suck!
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Dealing With Mean People That You Stumble Upon!
I think the picture speaks more then a million words! Never ever...ever give a mean person power over you! It can actually suck the life blood out of you and if it goes on long enough you might, unintentionally, become exactly like them. Garner the strength, keep your self-respect intact and walk away...this may just put that mean troll right in their place or sad but true, they just may move onto their next 'victim'! Be at peace that you made the right decision for you.
I've Learned From Experience
Tips to help us deal with mean people
Ever heard the words, "Once bitten, twice shy"? If not, in a nutshell it refers to a person who has had a bad experience one or more times and generally will be more cautious when dealing with people. Maybe, perhaps...a mean person just shuts down, cannot get past being bitten and additionally they may not have the tools, self-respect, and or desire to do or be anything else!
Here are a few ideas for those of us working on living a positive lifestyle:
Most mean people have a sarcastic edge....arm yourself with a few funny one-liners that you can use when faced with a negative person.
Don't take what a mean person says personally...it is their problem, definitely not yours!
If you have a friend that has a mean streak and tends to say things that hurt you or others, try saying, "Ouch" out loud and never allow yourself to get sucked into the behavior. Always know it is okay to not continue the friendship.
Don't go running away scared from a mean person, walk away with a stronger sense of yourself, knowing that you made a good decision not to get sucked into the negativity!
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So How Do You Deal With Mean People?
Honestly speak up
**No cursing please...it just degrades the conversation here...thank you!
Fetching blurbs now... please stand byKill em' with kindness by...
pete says:
So, do you need a hug?
Posted February 17, 2012
ann says:
walk away pretend their not there so u wont get in trouble
Posted February 07, 2012
MiddleSister says:
Killing them with kindness if you have to see them. Otherwise, just be polite and minimize contact.
Posted December 29, 2011
FreelancinFran says:
It depends on my mood. Sometimes mean people just make me sad and I wonder what has happened in their life to make them bitter. But sometimes my psycho personality (one of the many) is in charge that day and I mentally think of twisted, funny things to do to them and it makes me smile. Being crazy is not always a bad thing. It can help you get through a lot of stuff lol!
Posted October 26, 2011
JodiFromFlorida says:
At home I usually ignore them. At work I kill them with kindness. And then I thank God that I am not like them!
Posted October 07, 2011
jaye5500 says:
Oh I know this one very well! I have a supervisor that thinks she is very spiteful towards me. What hurts her the most is the fact that I deal with her with utmost respect and simply ignore her (cause she is the type that loves to grab attention)! So every good thing I do or is praised for gets her on her last nerves! That is power right there my friend! lol!
Posted July 19, 2011
KonaGirl says:
My favorite thing to say is, "Is that right." and themn laugh. I am at the time of life where I try not to associate with anyone like that and I just can't take it all that seriously. I try to shine them on or kill them with kindness if forced to be around the person for more than 10 minutes. If the person is a child they are immediately taken aside and corrected. I am too old to care what an inept parent will say about correcting a mean spoiled child. LOL.
Posted July 12, 2011
me says:
It depends on whether or not i can be honest. If they are close to me i try to tell them they hurt my feelings, but they are mean ppl so of course they dont care, lol. If I dont know them well, and they are mean, I dont get to know them, unless of course I have to.... because "mean people suck"
Posted July 12, 2011
I'd get some kind of revenge by...
Mad says:
A mean person called my child a retard and she deserves a beat down!
Posted February 09, 2012
C says:
Act like he's dead.
Posted January 28, 2012
Tara says:
i would tell someone if that does not work ill pour my revenge on them
Posted January 18, 2012
A says:
Oh, you must have forgotten your medication today!
Posted November 14, 2011
Lemming13 says:
I'm afraid I get mean right back, and I was taught how to do it by an expert - my grandmother, the meanest person I ever met. She made junkyard dogs look like kittens. My mum's mother was sweet, but dad's mother was bile on legs. So I give as good as I get. But I never strike the first blow.
Posted October 23, 2011
dj says:
"merh" Unfortunately, I'm passive agreesive.
Posted August 01, 2011
OhMe says:
I have been most fortunate in that I have not run into many really mean people in my life and am almost shocked when I do
Posted June 28, 2011
Sidther says:
It depends on the context. If they are being mean about anyone with a disability I let em have it, big kid words, science, and as much as I can get in to make them think about what they have said or done. If they are mean to me about clothes or something else I usually don't notice, I do my own thing no matter what. If upon reflection I realize that they were mean, I do not go out of my way to talk to them again.
Posted February 24, 2011
BLA says:
Shoot em then bring them back to life and ask them how it felt
Posted February 07, 2011
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Let's Face the Mean People
Arming ourselves with effective words!
When you are faced with a mean person sometimes it's hard to say what you mean on the spur of a moment. Mean People Suck because of what they say, how they say it and how they can throw us off guard! We are going to help each other out here - cool huh?
Arming ourselves with the right words in advance of any given situation empowers us to be proactive instead of reactive. Your reaction is what a mean person thrives on - let's squash em' like a bug!
How to submit your powerful word or statement:
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- Add your word or statement with a one or two sentence suggestion on how to use your idea.
- Let's refrain from cursing because that's just fuel for a mean person's ego anyway!
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What Charm School Did YOU Go to?
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Walking Away With Grace
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Wow! That was really mean!
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Will Someone Please Hug Me?
Tuning in
There are mean people that just do not know how to contain their emotions and it spills over to their meeting with you...not that you even caused it, you just happen to be the 'lucky one' in the mean person's path.
Take a step back from the situation, don't take it personally and think for a second or more what exactly that person may need from you. If you have the energy and know them well enough you could offer them a hug. An alternative would be to sincerely listen, maybe even offer up an apology for 'them' having a bad day! Key here is to not be phony, syrupy or insincere...sometimes just saying nothing at all and excusing yourself from the situation is the best. Run down the path in the opposite direction if you must, with your self-respect intact :O
Let the Mean Ones Know They Suck!
Wear one of these t-shirts with a smile on your face.
If All Else Fails
Send 'em a bouquet of black roses
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Read more about the meaning of rose colors.
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MareeT
Feb 16, 2012 @ 4:22 pm | delete
- I like this assertive and take-control lens!
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Joan4
Feb 12, 2012 @ 9:13 pm | delete
- I totally avoid confrontation at any time. So when I have been stuck in a job with a mean supervisor, I just simply found another job. I have never been around a mean person on a consistent basis, thank goodness. I learned how to walk away.
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flicker
Feb 5, 2012 @ 2:15 pm | delete
- I try to avoid people who have been mean to me. I rarely have the presence of mind to respond to them at the time they're being mean. Maybe I can learn...
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bunny
Dec 14, 2011 @ 4:02 pm | delete
- It's really hard to deal with what mean people have done. Thanks for this lens, it'll help down the road to recovery. :)
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Bunny
Dec 14, 2011 @ 4:05 pm | delete
- P.S. I love the kitten picture. Fits perfectly.
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Keith
Nov 23, 2011 @ 9:11 pm | delete
- What do you do when your married to a mean person? There is no escape. Just as soon as you think things have changed. BOOM they hit you again (not physically) with mean words.
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thesuccess
Oct 25, 2011 @ 6:31 am | delete
- The problem is that I am caught off guard by mean people, it's only long after that I think of the smart reply!!
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FreelancinFran
Oct 26, 2011 @ 6:40 am | delete
- Haha! I agree. Sometimes I can think of the most witty comebacks ... but they are hours after I have encountered a mean person ;\
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MarK
Oct 24, 2011 @ 2:12 pm | delete
- Great article. But sometimes you cannot escape from Mean People! They are everywhere! I'm quite sad now. Best regards.
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JodiFromFlorida
Oct 7, 2011 @ 7:04 pm | delete
- Loved your lens! MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!!!
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