Dealing With Mean People That You Stumble Upon!
I think the picture speaks more then a million words! Never ever...ever give a mean person power over you! It can actually suck the life blood out of you and if it goes on long enough you might, unintentionally, become exactly like them. Garner the strength, keep your self-respect intact and walk away...this may just put that mean troll right in their place or sad but true, they just may move onto their next 'victim'! Be at peace that you made the right decision for you.
I've Learned From Experience
Tips to help us deal with mean people
Ever heard the words, "Once bitten, twice shy"? If not, in a nutshell it refers to a person who has had a bad experience one or more times and generally will be more cautious when dealing with people. Maybe, perhaps...a mean person just shuts down, cannot get past being bitten and additionally they may not have the tools, self-respect, and or desire to do or be anything else!
Here are a few ideas for those of us working on living a positive lifestyle:
Most mean people have a sarcastic edge....arm yourself with a few funny one-liners that you can use when faced with a negative person.
Don't take what a mean person says personally...it is their problem, definitely not yours!
If you have a friend that has a mean streak and tends to say things that hurt you or others, try saying, "Ouch" out loud and never allow yourself to get sucked into the behavior. Always know it is okay to not continue the friendship.
Don't go running away scared from a mean person, walk away with a stronger sense of yourself, knowing that you made a good decision not to get sucked into the negativity!
Will Someone Please Hug Me?
Tuning in
There are mean people that just do not know how to contain their emotions and it spills over to their meeting with you...not that you even caused it, you just happen to be the 'lucky one' in the mean person's path.
Take a step back from the situation, don't take it personally and think for a second or more what exactly that person may need from you. If you have the energy and know them well enough you could offer them a hug. An alternative would be to sincerely listen, maybe even offer up an apology for 'them' having a bad day! Key here is to not be phony, syrupy or insincere...sometimes just saying nothing at all and excusing yourself from the situation is the best. Run down the path in the opposite direction if you must, with your self-respect intact :O
Behaving Badly
An occasional 'flip' to the wild side!
Ever laughed so hard you thought you were going to pee your pants and or felt kinda giddy? This video, with the instantaneous thought, reaction, and the woman's laughter was downright infectious.
Shared by a friend on Tagfoot, I just had to add it here!
So How Do You Deal With Mean People?
Honestly speak up
Fetching blurbs now... please stand byKill em' with kindness by...
Marutu says:
A few months ago I saw a child... about 2 years old. Since the first moment I saw him and until he disappeared he only had this pure magic smile. And guess what was the message on his shirt? Mean People Suck!
That's about the main reason I'm writing this here.
Humans have problems. Many problems. God left us on Earth with about everything we needed to have the best possible life. Still, we decided we "need", and "deserve" more; more than that and more then the others around us. Now I'm glad I discovered peoples who don't find that the most important thing in life. Being kind with peoples you've just met can bring so easily a smile on their faces, and automatically on yours
Posted November 16, 2009
24websurf says:
I usually smile at them, raise one eyebrow, and say "I'm not the person you want to play this game with. I'm better at it than you." Typically, they leave, in a hurry.
Posted June 29, 2009
julcal says:
I recently had a friend who started jabbing at me out of jealousy over my recent successes. she used to brag about my talents, even my I.Q. points. that was all fine until it got too close to stepping on her toes. (against my better judgment I said "yes" when she asked if I would partner up with her in the direct-sales of Alfa PXP. I've become a bit of a "star" within the company, have made quite an organization for myself, while she, as is typical, flounders)
The way I decided to deal with it, since I knew if I dealt with it directly (she has very little self-awareness and her telling me I was being too sensitive would have been devastating to me - it's a real hot spot to me) was to get her name better well-known in the company, let her ride on my coat-tails - but at least people know who she is. I also complimented her efforts every chance I could when she came up with an idea about how to approach the business "her way." I'm good at being supportive, it comes naturally to me, but I really put it on.
It worked. She quit jabbing at me. Until....I found the place I'm going to move in Chicago. I'm selling high in NJ and buying low in Chi town. I'm going to be able to buy a place in an area whose values will go way up some day. I'm not big on the status thing, but I am big on making money on my investments. My friend is huge about the status thing. When she heard where I was buying it threw her over the edge. She started jabbing at me again.
I had no choice but to try to talk to her about it. As I predicted, she accused me to being overly-sensitive. My hot-spot. Our friendship will never be the same.
Posted June 29, 2009
TopStyleTravel says:
Sometimes persons are mean to intimidate others. It is a challenge, but don't let anyone take away your happiness and confidence. When you did not do something to deserve bad treatment. Maintain your dignity and self respect without a word, just smile. If you must deal with mean people regularly, ask for mutual respect. Some persons don't have outgoing personalities and take longer to get to know. Today many suffer from social disorders. Try to look at each situation and handle it accordingly. None of us need evil in our lives.
Posted May 26, 2009
I'd get some kind of revenge by...
Pookie says:
I just call them on it. They don't like that.
Posted November 17, 2009
Spook says:
Perhaps because of my life. I just have thick skin and it goes in one ear and out the other. That is face to face and doesn't bother me in the slightest. However things which are not face to face and include backstabbing and innuendo and downright meanness. Then I'm at a loss how to handle that.
Posted August 06, 2009
Animals Are Intuitive to Mean
This kitty sure knew what to do :)
Sometimes our animals know best. Something going on between the UPS guy and my Lab. If I am not home, I will find my package wrapped up nice in a plastic bag sitting in the middle of our driveway...hmm?
How-To Deal With Mean People
Great reading resources
If All Else Fails
Send em' a bouquet of black roses
Black Rose Bouquet
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The black rose symbolizes the old hag, the wise lady of death. It represents the death of ideas, thoughts and beliefs. It can also signify a major change or the renewal of physical or mental strength or energy in the future. The promise that you will soon know something you didn't know before. Some see it as a bad omen. The black rose can say "farewell".
Read more about the meaning of rose colors.
What is Your Take on This Subject?
Be mean and I can hit delete :)
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- mukunda22 mukunda22 Nov 6, 2009 @ 12:20 pm
- Mean people have bad vibes, pre and simple!!
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- Spook Spook Aug 6, 2009 @ 11:59 am
- I've already said my piece. I just dropped by, as you are the featured Giant today and chose this lens. All the best.
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- mbgphoto mbgphoto Jul 22, 2009 @ 2:57 pm
- Wonderful lens. 5*
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- 24websurf 24websurf Jun 29, 2009 @ 9:02 pm
- Love the lens! People need to realize that they are in control of who they allow to disturb them.
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- GrowWear GrowWear Jun 29, 2009 @ 8:15 pm
- Exactly like lakeerieartists said...let it go over you and around you. It truly is the mean person's problem.
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