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My life has become scream free, February 23, 2006
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Buy this book... Don't even hesitate. I bought this book last week , and I haven't finished it yet. Amazing that how it has changed the way I deal with my child this past week. This book is even helpful for your relationship with other people. I admit that I have matured as an adult by reading only 70 pages of it!! So, if you are frustrated of yelling and screaming at your kids, just read this book!
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Mother & Baby covers pregnancy to 2 years with articles on health, fitness, nursing, nutrition, behavior issues, and a wide range of related parenting issues
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In Positive Discipline, Jane Nelson helps us understand that misbehaving
children are discouraged children who have mistaken ideas on how to achieve
their Primary Goal: TO BELONG. Mistaken ideas lead to misbehavior. Address the
mistaken belief rather than just the misbehavior.
Jane goes on to tell us to use encouragement to help children feel a sense of
belonging so that the motivation for misbehavior will be eliminated. Focus on
improvement rather than on mistakes.
A great way to help children feel encouraged is to spend special time being
with them, doing something you can enjoy together. With younger children (0-4)
this could be 15 minutes a day. With older children, it could be an hour once a
week. Alternate who chooses the activity. Schedule the time on a calendar, so
your children can look forward to it.
Start a bedtime ritual of sharing the "saddest" and "happiest" times during
the day. Share first and invite your child to join in. You will be surprised
what you learn. Listen, do not fix.
Give children meaningful jobs. In the name of expediency many parents and
teachers do things that children could do for themselves and each other.
Children feel a sense of belonging when they know that they make a real
contribution. Change your approach regularly. Make it fun.
Decide together what jobs need to be done. Put them in a jar and let each
child draw out a few each week. Then no one is stuck with the same chores all
the time. Parents and teachers can invoke children to help them make the house
and class rules and list them on a chart entitled, "We decided". Children have
ownership, motivation, and enthusiasm when they are included in the
decisions.
Get children involved in creating a solution to a problem or situation, and
in the creation of routines. Again, children feel a sense of belonging when they
know that they make a real contribution.
Most of important, make sure the message of love gets through.
"I care
about you! And I care about what happened. Let's work on solving this together."
Give lots of hugs!
And a big hug to you Jane Nelson for all these great tips!