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  • dosmaster5000 Mar 4, 2012 @ 6:53 pm | delete
    My family is hurting because we are currently being victimized by false allegations of child abuse. What hurts more is that we have a medical diagnosis for our child by the leading expert in the United States. But that doesn't seem to be enough. Child Services can recruit a doctor who has caused mistrials before for lying and losing evidence, yet somehow his word means more then a true expert. Please read my family's story at http://nojusticeinthejudicialsystem.blogspot.com/ and you may understand the trauma we've suffered.
  • Traceeshobbies Jan 17, 2012 @ 3:34 pm | delete
    Sad that this is such an issue we have no control over our children today because somebody will not agree if you discipline and somebody will not agree if you don't!
  • AmericanCitizen Nov 23, 2011 @ 3:27 pm | delete
    A lot of children have died or been abused and injured in foster homes. Often the best home for a child is with its parents... not with foster families. Here in the USA national statistics show that children are more at risk of abuse in foster families than in their natural God-given homes.
  • ajgodinho Aug 15, 2011 @ 2:28 pm | delete
    This is a great resource and debate on the subject of child abuse. It's sad to see that abuse is so rampant in society today. On the other hand, some are false accused of abuse and I think they should be given a chance to defend the charges. **Blessed by a Squid-Angel**
  • Norma_Budden Mar 27, 2011 @ 12:35 am | delete
    This lens is featured at Child Abuse Victim Asks, Why Me?
  • Norma_Budden Mar 26, 2011 @ 11:10 pm | delete
    What a controversial subject - to take a child away or to keep him/her at home. I couldn't imagine being a social worker and having to make fast judgment calls - judgment calls which impact so many lives. You've done an excellent job in presenting your subject and have posed some valid questions.
  • wordstock Jan 5, 2011 @ 10:04 am | delete
    Regardless of country of origin, this is valuable information for all parents illegally accused. Angel blessed.
  • kev Nov 2, 2010 @ 9:13 am | delete
    I'm looking for advice, recently we had our 3 year old to the doctors with a genital rash, dr didn't know the cause so sent mum and child away with a sample pot, and later the same day rang our house telling us to take our daughter to the hospital. On arrival at the hosital the child was examined and a diagnosis of " serious abuse, both front and rear penetration" and the child taken by the social services, we were told to leave our house the same evening by the police who then cordonned it off, and put a guard outside for the next 30 hours. further checks were done on our child the following day including a check for dna evidence. police searched our house and left behind the clothes they'd taken from myself and my son( the childs half brother who was leaving school the next day) as the investigation developed both the social worker involved with questioning us(and the foster carer) both formed doubts on whether abuse had taken place and 11 days later a diagnosis of a condition called lichen slerosus returned, and our child returned the same day with no follow up from the social services.
    when the police searched our house(and broke 2 descktop pcs) the caught me bang to rights with two cannabis plants and the smokeable materials drying, ive been prosecuted for this(i accept its illegal) but no ones looking at the doctor and his inabillity to do his job properly, I'm a diabetic on insulin(an auto immune system problem) and hey lichen slerosus is an auto immune system problem too, instantly diagnosable by a skin biopsy taken under local anasthetic, they swabbed for thrush and yeast infections, and dna
    Busy days these days dealing with a traumatised 3.5 year old who can't understand why she was taken away from her mum and dad.....
  • Desilegend Oct 15, 2010 @ 8:18 am | delete
    Grear resource for falsely accused parents! Well done!
  • andy Jul 20, 2010 @ 3:13 pm | delete
    Myself and my partner recently had our first child together.
    Even though we had an unstable start when she was born with our housing situation we managed to get a council house together in Leiston which is perfect for us to raise up our daughter.
    When we moved in we noticed a small bruise had appeared on her left cheek below her eye and as she was booked in at the local doctors surgery for her 6-8 week check we decided to tell the doctor about it. The doctor didn't seem to know what it was and didn't seem worried and never raised any concerns. Seeing as this was a medical professional we both dismissed it as being anything to worry about.
    This disappeared but not long after another bruise appeared in the same area. As our child was due to get her first immunisations we decided to tell the nurse to get a second opinion. My partner told the nurse about the bruise as we both were worried that people would think that we were causing them ourselves. her exact words were "don't worry about it its not that visible" seeing as we had been told by two people now not to worry we didn't.
    This bruise eventually faded. Then the day before our child was due a visit from the health visitor a very small bruise appeared on the left side of her face near her mouth. My partner pointed it out the the health visitor who told us that we had every right to be worried as our child was not yet mobile. She asked us if we would like her to make an appointment at Ipswich hospital but we didn't have to go. As we were both worried that it could be blood clotting problems, we agreed. at the hospital after blood tests for blood clotting came back normal they did a full skeletal survey which revealed fractured ribs. Both myself and my partner were physically sick and in shock. We are both going through a terrible time as our daughter has been taken from us. we were told to leave her in hospital alone after the tests. We have experts involved (one of which has stated that he strongly disagrees at how this was handled in the beginning by social services) Myself and my partner have come up with possible explanations for the bruising which are totally accidental and no ones fault but have been told that unless the court validates our reasons for the bruises, that rib fractures wont be tested for medical reasons as it is time consuming and costly! no one seems willing to put an age to these fractures and the amount keeps varying from 3 to 4 then 5 and back to 3 again! We have been going through this nightmare for over 3 months now and after a rough start with a social worker who has been pulled up many times for his attitude and mannerism towards families we are having issues with contact as it seems that the team who supervise contact are making up any excuse for them not to travel (they keep telling us its quite a distance for them to travel)and are constantly moaning about being short staffed! We both as parents have to travel quite a distance but would travel to the end of the earth just to see her.

    We feel that we have been treated very unfairly and spoken to in a terrible manner. No social worker has sat either of us down to speak to us properly about this situation and have automatically pointed the finger at us.
    It seems as though they are driven to place the blame on us without any evidence and even though we both know that there are children out there who need protection from their parents, we can assure you that this is not the case with our child. she was seen by health visitors in the first 3 months of her life whilst she was with us and no one had any concerns. She was even noted by the doctors at Ipswich to be happy, healthy and well cared for. We have just had an update from experts through our solicitor’s that fractues are only as old as 3 weeks, this really doe’s not make any sense as we can recall what we were doing, ie moving to this address, all of our possabilities of what we may had thought that had caused the injuries had also been writtin of by the so called expert’s, we feel that the way the court systems work that it is very 1 sided, its behind closed door’s, it really feels as if every one is working together to go against us.
    I believe that the job of the social services is to re-unite families, but not once in this long agoniseing 3 months has there been any assesments made with us other then our schedual supervised contacts, (which are 100% faultless and has been prooving by their own reports,
    Back to the fractured ribs, our daughter never showed any kind of pain, or even never had any signs of bruising around that area, now our daughter was only 3 months old at that time, she has been seen by many medical profession’s, ie our health visitor, 6-8 week check up and her first immunisation’s,
    We have many friends and family that have been supporting us, and they still trust us both alone with there children which to us feels a very akward and very worried something may happen.
    We are trying to find someone who can help us in this fight to get her back who can advise us properly and help us prevent our child being taken away from her loving parents who are innocent. We are scared that there is something medically wrong with our daughter but no one will carry out the necessary tests as it "costs too much" and are both petrified that our daughter will grow up in someone else's care not knowing who her real mummy and daddy are.

    We know that this may be a long shot in getting help from you but we are both desperate in doing anything it takes to get her returned to us
  • FinancialPlanner Jul 9, 2010 @ 10:09 am | delete
    I can't begin to imagine how a parent must feel if falsely accused of child abuse. On the other hand, so many adults seem to have been abused as children and have said nothing. Above all, the children must be protected.
  • BooJeeBeads Jun 27, 2010 @ 3:48 pm | delete
    While some accusers have good intentions many agencies are too quick to take kids out of their homes. These things need to be carefully investigated so that nobody is falsely accused. The turmoil is is just as hard as the supposed abuse.
  • vallain Jun 20, 2010 @ 7:05 pm | delete
    I've read recently of cases, like teachers, who have accusations falsely placed against them by their students. Scary, to think of someone trying to defend themselves in this circumstance.
  • bengriston Nov 29, 2009 @ 5:52 pm | delete
    I hear of parents being falsely accused often. For me this is scary since my step-son is a really clumsy kid. Just this weekend he gave himself a bloody nose and cut on his head inside a inflatable jumper. I always fear being accused for his accidents.
  • BevsPaper Oct 22, 2009 @ 6:45 am | delete
    This is a tough situation, indeed. Although, I would hope that a falsely accused parent would be able to clear themselves and get their child back; my worry is for the innocent children who are being harmed. I feel that it is better to protect the child first and not take the chance that they will be harmed further while an investigation is taking place. Too many times here in the US babies are beaten to death by the very person who swore their own innocence or knowledge of abuse by some family member or significant other. Children have the right not to be abused. Parents need to protect that right by removing them from that abuse whether it is from their own hands or someone who has access to the child.
  • spirituality Oct 11, 2009 @ 11:52 am | delete
    Great lens - you've been blessed by a squidoo angel :)
  • Treasures-By-Brenda Oct 7, 2009 @ 2:31 pm | delete
    You've written an impressive lens here on a very moving topic.
    Well done & blessed by a SquidAngel.
  • meahdreamer Oct 4, 2009 @ 9:48 pm | delete
    I am a mother of a beautiful blue-eyed 4 yr. old son. A year ago he accidently ingested meds that I didn't know about until it was almost too late. He was hospitalized for 5days where I never left his side. The Cps made allegations that it was done on porpuse. Which they never even investigated. They just took him from me. I even had to leave state because the case worker threatened to take the baby that I now carry. My life has been a complete nightmare ever since this horrible event. I just want my son back. I constantly worry about him. My boyfriend and I have suffered alot of torment because of all of this. I desperately need my son safe in my arms to make it right and to know that he's alright.
  • Ryansmommy09 Oct 3, 2009 @ 3:26 am | delete
    My boyfriend and I are in a position right now where we could lose our son..This is our first child and we were both very excited and happy when we found out I was pregnant..We have done everything parents are supposed to do to care for their child..I have been overly cautious about him getting sick and not knowing anything about illnesses with infants..I have taken my son to the doctors tons of times every month when anything happened..Whether it be a sickness or a stuffy nose..And the doctor that we switched to,had the nerve to call DHS on us..My son has been in foster care for 6 months now and we have been going through hell ever since..We have done nothing but care for him and be good parents..I have never felt so much sadness in my life..I just can't wait for this to be over so we can get back to our life as a happy family..Please pray for us,we REALLY need it
  • mukunda22 Sep 28, 2009 @ 5:28 pm | delete
    Sounds like the rules are stricter in the UK than the US for taking children away from their parents. It's a tough call.
  • Rebecca Sep 20, 2009 @ 5:28 am | delete
    I am in the middle of a nightmare at the moment. I painted a blue heart on my daughter's face with cheap makeup and it stained her skin. This has resulted in a heart-shaped, bruise-like mark on her face. At pre-school they asked my daughter , who is 3, what had happened and she said "mummy did it". The police and social services were called, although nobody tried to contact me first, and I am now having to prove that I have not hurt my child. The blue is turning greeny, yellow as it fades, but the doctor says that this is what a bruise would do. He acknowledges that there is a heart shape, but says that he cannot say 100% it is not a bruise. I am desperate to protect myself and my children and I am terrified that I might not be able to clear my name. Nobody asked my daughter how it happened, but several people have asked "Does that bruise hurt?" This is the worst and most unfair thing that has ever happened to me. Does anyone have any advice?
  • aj2008 Feb 22, 2009 @ 8:51 am | delete
    As Mortira says, there does not ever seem to be a happy medium. I know of someone who was falsely accused and then seen the other side of it when the school refused to listen when it was obvious that the child who was bullying my daughter was very disturbed for some reason. We all knew it was because she was being bullyed at home.
  • Mortira Jan 26, 2009 @ 11:18 am | delete
    It's seems like there's never a happy medium when it comes to child welfare. It's either kids being removed for false reasons - often ending up in foster homes that are worse - or kids aren't removed when they are clearly in danger.

    It makes me wonder how these women ended up being investigated in the first place.
  • spirituality Nov 21, 2008 @ 3:49 am | delete
    Great debate.

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