My Husband Wants A Divorce - What Do I Do?

Even if you know your husband wants a divorce, take a minute to read this anyway.

The first thing you want to do is be sure that there are signs that your husband wants a divorce. No one wakes up one morning and thinks to themselves that it's time to end their marriage and acts on it the same day. It's a long process, and thankfully that means that there is still hope to prevent a divorce from ever happening.

So what signs should you look for when you think that your husband wants a divorce? Here's a few ideas to keep an eye out for.

Your husband is distant, and easily becomes irritable or angry with you.

He doesn't open up and talk to you about how or what he is feeling.

Your spouse doesn't spend as much time with you, and likes to be away from home.

He doesn't seem interested in spending time with you alone or as a family with children.

He is not as affectionate anymore. (hugs, kisses, cuddling)

He doesn't wear his wedding ring all the time

If you've noticed any of these, then your husband may want a divorce. Every person is different, so seeing these doesn't absolutely mean that he is ready to break it off, however, these are some of the most common signs your husband wants a divorce.

Here's the thing that most people are unaware of. Your spouse is likely feeling the EXACT same way that you are. No one enjoys the yelling, arguing, and feelings of disconnection.

I guarantee you, no matter how much you two fight, how mean you are to each other, or how much want you want to be away from each other:

You still love each other.

The thing is, one or both of you are acting out of fear. Once you learn calm each others fears, marital stability is sure to ensue. You both need to be ready to compromise to do this.

Every woman wants to know exactly what to do when their husband wants a divorce. There's a lot of pitfalls and mistakes made out of a sense of urgency to take action to resolve the problem immediately, and usually will in the end make things worse.

Here's a couple things you want to avoid when dealing with this situation:

Texting

You want to avoid texting as much as possible. It will only lead to disaster, especially if you're worried that he is with another woman. Many times, the husband will read your message and not reply just because he wants space.

Apologize For Everything

Your husband knows that this is an act of desperation. This doesn't offer a solution at all, which is what you both want. Remember the saying 'Actions speak louder than words'? This is a perfect example of when it applies.

Promise Things Will Be Different

Most people use this more than once, and it doesn't work anymore after this first time (maybe the second if you're lucky). If nothing has changed after you have promised this before, why should be believe it?

Avoid doing those at all costs. Here's the interesting thing: Usually what you want to do is counter-intuitive to what you're feeling you should.

Why is that? Because we're blinding by emotions during this situation. When you're dealing with a delicate situation, you have to keep a calm, clear mind during the process.

So what is it exactly that you should do when your husband wants a divorce? Try this really unusual method:

Agree To The Breakup

I know what you're thinking, "You've got to be kidding, right?" Nope, not one bit. Remember how actions speak louder than words? This is a nice move to start with, because it helps show that things are actually going to change.

People want what they can't have, especially men. This is also a trick that will beg the questions as to whether or not he is making the right decision on getting a divorce.

Crazy idea, isn't it? But think of it this way, has anything you've been doing shown any results?

This is just one step in the process, and I have to tell you, it works wonders. I came across this strategy in a book called The Magic of Making Up by T.W. Jackson.

It's quite fascinating how he describes the things that we try and why they don't work, and how pursuing a more counter intuitive approach can lead to saving your relationship.

More importantly, this book gives you step by step instructions on how to actually save your marriage. It's broken down into these 7 chapers:

Ch.1 Understanding Why Your Relationship Ended - And Why It's Not Over Yet

Ch.2 Don't Panic - Your Key to Winning Back Their Love (Getting Your Head On Straight)

Ch.3 Removing the Splinter in Your Relationship

Ch.4 Re-Igniting the Spark of Passion and Desire

Ch.5 Dates and Lovers - How Other People Can Actually Bring You Back Together

Ch.6 Easing Back Into Your Relationship to Solidify Your Love

Ch.7 Maintaining the Fun and Love Without Dredging Up Old Wounds and Arguments

If things like this are troubling you:

You have feelings of depression

You can't stop thinking about why they really left

You've lost your appetite

You're indulging in your favorite comfort food too often

You lose focus at work or with friends because you can't stop thinking about them

Then I highly recommend you get this book. Your marriage is very important, not only to you, but your husband as well (even if he doesn't always show it), and you can take the exact steps outlined in this book to help save your marriage and look to a brighter future.

Visit The Magic Of Making Up website to get your copy.