Mystery VH1 - Stimulate her emotions

The venusian artist uses emotional stimulation instead of rational discourse. As long as it feels right, your romantic interest will invent her own reasons for what is happening. In other words, when you can give her the right feelings, her rationalization process starts to work in your favor instead of against it.

A woman knows how susceptible she can be when she is in an emotional state. Often her solution to this is to avoid becoming emotionally engaged in an interaction where she doesn't feel trust or safety, or where the man gaming her doesn't seem to have enough S and R value. When this happens she will seem non-responsive. Thus, if you can engage a woman on an emotional level, even if it's a "bad"' emotion such as frustration or jealousy, this is much preferable to her remaining non-responsive.
Also, instead of only trying to give her "good" emotions or avoid "bad" emotions, stimulate her with a range of emotions such as curiosity, fascination, fear of loss, connection, indignation, validation and devalidation, humor, embarrassment, happiness, sadness, and so on. The more she is stimulated, the more compelling the experience will be for her. Chapter 5 describes various techniques for this.

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Peacocking

Peacocking is the use of attention-getting clothes to amplify your responses in the field. If you are peacocked, girls will look at you more often, and guys will make sniggering comments. This means that there will be more social pressure on you than you would normally experience.
It is a demonstration of higher value when people perceive that you are accustomed to this social pressure and otherwise unaffected by it. (In other words, when people see that you are congruent with your image.)

This congruence is the critical point. A man with a top hat and a feather boa, with two women on his arms and surrounded by laughing friends, looks like the man. Everyone in the room will notice him and women will whisper to one another that they want to be introduced to him. But the same man sitting by himself in the corner could end up looking like a social reject.
Try wearing at least one item that is cool and attention-getting. It may be used as a lock-in prop (chapter 5) as well as allow women to make a comment, good or bad, if they wish to open or sustain a conversation with you.

For example, one tiling she might do if you are talking to her and she senses that the conversation is winding down, she may suddenly say, "Oh that's a cool necklace." This is her way of continuing the interaction in a perfectly reasonable way, while reserving some element of plausible deniability.
On more than one occasion Mystery has had women walk up to him and tell him that they hate his goggles. He would reply, "No you don't, you're attracted to me."

This is why it's important that the prop be genuinely cool. Otherwise she would look like a try-hard for commenting on it and she'll lose the courage to do so. (Incidentally you also look like a try-hard every time you tell a girl how cool her necklace looks.)

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People tend to form social alignments with one another, wherever such alignments benefit their chances of survival and replication. For example, a primitive tribe is a form of social alignment. Those within the tribe have improved chances of survival they wouldn't normally have if they were alone.
Another example of alignment is a modern-day celebrity entourage. Entourage members enjoy increased access to sex. Even though the entourage member is not a celebrity, he has still improved his survival and replication value through his association with the celebrity.

Can she ever truly be happy? It doesn't matter. In the grand scheme of tilings, her emotions don't have to keep her happy. All they have to do is keep her alive. (And get her pair bonded and pregnant with the right man.)

It's true that sometimes it can be frustrating that her behavior is governed by her emotions. But there is power to be had because of this. Through experimentation, we can discover the mechanisms behind her behavior and through practice we can consistently control them.

Practicing the game is not unlike the movie Groundhog Day, where Bill Murray re-lives the same day over and over again for what seems like years. Each day he tries to pick up the same girl, and her responses are different as he tries new tactics from day to day. Over time his skills improve and he gets closer and closer to his goal.

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The venusian artist uses emotional stimulation instead of rational discourse. As long as it feels right, your romantic interest will invent her own reasons for what is happening. In other words, when you can give her the right feelings, her rationalization process starts to work in your favor instead of against it.

A woman knows how susceptible she can be when she is in an emotional state. Often her solution to this is to avoid becoming emotionally engaged in an interaction where she doesn't feel trust or safety, or where the man gaming her doesn't seem to have enough S and R value. When this happens she will seem non-responsive. Thus, if you can engage a woman on an emotional level, even if it's a "bad"' emotion such as frustration or jealousy, this is much preferable to her remaining non-responsive.

Also, instead of only trying to give her "good" emotions or avoid "bad" emotions, stimulate her with a range of emotions such as curiosity, fascination, fear of loss, connection, indignation, validation and devalidation, humor, embarrassment, happiness, sadness, and so on. The more she is stimulated, the more compelling the experience will be for her. Chapter 5 describes various techniques for this.
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Persistence
Persistence is another way to alleviate her of any responsibility for what is happening. Of course, don't confuse persistence with begging, arguing, or being pushy, needy, or creepy. All it means is, don't give up too easily. Girls will test you to find out how easily you give up - they want to see how confident you are in yourself. Just assume that she is giving a little token resistance, and continue.

Token resistance
Women will give token resistance - expect it. If she didn't resist at least a little bit, she would feel like a slut - and that's not going to happen.
This can be tricky - an overly aggressive man might misinterpret all resistance as being merely token resistance, and could eventually find himself facing a rape charge. Whereas a man who isn't persistent enough will acquiesce every time she resists, when in many cases she was secretly hoping that he would be a little more forceful

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Stimulate her emotions

The venusian artist uses emotional stimulation instead of rational discourse. As long as it feels right, your romantic interest will invent her own reasons for what is happening. In other words, when you can give her the right feelings, her rationalization process starts to work in your favor instead of against it.

A woman knows how susceptible she can be when she is in an emotional state. Often her solution to this is to avoid becoming emotionally engaged in an interaction where she doesn't feel trust or safety, or where the man gaming her doesn't seem to have enough S and R value. When this happens she will seem non-responsive. Thus, if you can engage a woman on an emotional level, even if it's a "bad"' emotion such as frustration or jealousy, this is much preferable to her remaining non-responsive.

Also, instead of only trying to give her "good" emotions or avoid "bad" emotions, stimulate her with a range of emotions such as curiosity, fascination, fear of loss, connection, indignation, validation and devalidation, humor, embarrassment, happiness, sadness, and so on. The more she is stimulated, the more compelling the experience will be for her. Chapter 5 describes various techniques for this.

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Another example of female intuition

Women often look for the "real meaning" behind what you say. For example, if you tell a story about your "friend-" she will usually assume that you are actually talking about yourself. This can be useful when the story demonstrates higher value. For example, if you don't want to look like a braggart, you could say, "My friend hooked up with this amazing girl and they had wild sex all weekend..."
On the flipside, if you want her to believe that the story really is about someone else (like if it demonstrates lower value) then use a specific name. For example, "My friend Craig woke up last weekend with a condom in his ass and..."
Shell assume you really are talking about someone else if you give him a name.

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The 3-Second Rule

You want to be in a set within three seconds of entering the venue. Just walk right up to the first set of people that you see and open them. This is called the 3-second rule. Remember, you are not only working the set, but the entire room-No one else knows whether you are already acquainted with these people. It certainly seems as if you know them - you entered the venue, walked right up to them, and now they are having a fun conversation with you. You must be a social guy with lots of friends!

Then you move on to the next set, and the positive perception of you continues to grow. You are becoming socially proofed in this venue. Notice the magical ease with which sets will open up to you when you have this level of social proof For this reason, it is important not to be too selective in choosing your sets. It's better to be in a set than to get picky and end up alone when you should be working the room.

Another interpretation of the three-second rule states: Within three seconds of spotting a set that you want to open, you must open that set.

This really adds a natural spontaneity to the approach. The difference in your state of mind is noticeable. A woman can usually tell when a man is working up the courage to approach her, which can lower her perception of his value. But if you follow the three second rule, she will have a feeling like you just popped up out of nowhere. A very nice energy is added to the interaction when following this rule.

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Play Solid Game in the First Place

Her emotional circuitry is designed to select for a high-value man whom she trusts and is pair-bonded to her. If your game is tight, LMR will be greatly reduced as an issue. So examine your basic game:
1. Are you a healthy, ambitious, socially comfortable person?
2. Do you convey a lack of neediness at all times?
3. Have you otherwise demonstrated value, via pre-selection, leader-of-men switch (social intelligence and social proof), emotional stimulation, frame control, etc?
4. Has she chased, and otherwise invested in the interaction?
5. Have you been compliance testing? Do you have kino escalation and compliance?
6. Does she feel that she has earned your interest? (Have you demonstrated your "growing pairbond" for her, using qualifiers and other IOIs?)

1. Have you built comfort and trust, and a sense of connection, over seven hours and several venue changes? Do you have jealousy?

Nearly always, if one is self-critical, it's possible to trace back to one of these points and determine what is causing the LMR.

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Cat Theory

"Why do you suppose we only feel compelled to chase the ones who run away?"
~ Vicomte De Valmont, Les liaisons Dangereuses
Cats don't take orders, but they can be tempted to chase. If you tie a feather to the end of a string, and use it properly, YOU can get a cat to
perform acrobatics. But isn't it interesting that if you put the feather down in
front of the cat, she will turn up her noser
Cats are always curious, especially about shiny new tilings such as the ball on a rubber cord, the catnip, the treats, the feather on a string, etc. She can be easily distracted but once she is invested in tiling to catch something, it can become her single-minded focus.
There is a lot to learn from cats. If you push a cat off of you, she jumps back into your lap. If you want to hold her, then she wants you to put her down. If she is feeling nasty she might bite or scratch. She craves attention and she gets jealous of other cats. Sometimes she'll just rub against you and purr with contentment - you can really tell when a cat likes someone.
A cat sees the feather from across the room, but continues about her business. Then the feather slightly moves and her gaze is drawn. When the
feather jumps once or twice more, she starts to steadily creep in its direction.
Jerk the string at just the right time, and the cat suddenly goes crazy, running circles around the worn, flying over furniture to catch that feather.
As the venusian artists proceeds with a pickup, he keeps validation and attention just slightly out of her reach. If he is too easily acquired, then she will quickly grow bored and lose interest. But likewise if he is completely unattainable, then she will also lose interest and give up.

Cat Theory

What are some other examples of gaining compliance?

Getting her to invest. (She goes to retrieve a drink for you, she spends some money on you, etc.)

Getting her to move with you or bounce to another location.

Locking her in. The longer a girl wears an item of yours, the more compliance you have. If the girl removes your item, she is defying.

Social pressure. Get one of her peer group to tell her to be nice to you, or to give you an accomplishment introduction, and you will immediately gain much more compliance from her.

People generally comply if it results in more fun, or gaining some benefit. We are inherently selfish.

People will also comply if there is a threat A man with a gun gets more compliance than one with a hose.

Of course the venusian artist will never actually pull out a gun. But there are ways to make her feel slightly threatened if she fails to comply.

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Compliance Threshold

When choosing to align with people, we comply with their requests to a certain threshold. The more value that you represent to a woman, the more she wants to align with you - the more leeway you have when escalating. By using IODs to punish defiance, and IOIs to reward compliance, a venusian artist can quickly bring a woman to the compliance threshold.
The compliance threshold is the point of the interaction where she realizes that she has more fun if she complies! Once this happens, you have established control of the frame and she will follow your lead. This should happen in A2 or A3. If in C1 you are still getting defiance, then you are not really in C1 at all
Do not be afraid to overestimate your value. If you waste time trying to build value that you already have, when you should instead be compliance testing, you could blow yourself out of the set by creating negative compliance.

One venusian artist used to have a problem with Southern girls, because they were so nice that he felt he wasn't sparking attraction, so he would over-neg to the point of obnoxiousness. Later he realized that those sets were already on, and all he was doing was creating resistance to his compliance tests by punishing inappropriately when he should have been escalating.

Compliance Threshold

Compliance Threshold

When choosing to align with people, we comply with their requests to a certain threshold. The more value that you represent to a woman, the more she wants to align with you - the more leeway you have when escalating. By using IODs to punish defiance, and IOIs to reward compliance, a venusian artist can quickly bring a woman to the compliance threshold.
The compliance threshold is the point of the interaction where she realizes that she has more fun if she complies! Once this happens, you have established control of the frame and she will follow your lead. This should happen in A2 or A3. If in C1 you are still getting defiance, then you are not really in C1 at all
Do not be afraid to overestimate your value. If you waste time trying to build value that you already have, when you should instead be compliance testing, you could blow yourself out of the set by creating negative compliance.

One venusian artist used to have a problem with Southern girls, because they were so nice that he felt he wasn't sparking attraction, so he would over-neg to the point of obnoxiousness. Later he realized that those sets were already on, and all he was doing was creating resistance to his compliance tests by punishing inappropriately when he should have been escalating.

Comfort First telegraphs sexual interest

Simply by approaching her and being nice, women of beauty assume you want something from them. If she doesn't think you are selling something (or begging for change), she'll reason it's because you want to win her sexual favor. Even if you aren't interested in her sexually, she'll assume you are, just because you approached her in the same manner as the last half-a-dozen nice guys did that night.

Him; Nice boots
Her; I have a boyfriend
Most men mistake these short-term defenses for long-term personality flaws. This quite often turns men off and it is for this very reason that these strategies work. From them, it's better to allow a bunch of men she doesn't have attraction for to think she is a bitch than to have to sit there and listen to them all.

Him: What's your name? Her: Get lost
Some woman may tolerate mildly entertaining nice guy dialogue, but once the conversation begins to grow mundane, she'll excuse herself. Persistent nice guys will meet greater resistance as she becomes weary of his prolonged presence. Although playing a bitch can become a form of entertainment for some, most women with protection shields use them for good reason and are otherwise very nice people.

Him; Hi, how are you?
Her: Look, I'm not going to have sex with you.
If you don't take the time to attract a woman first, you won't give her a reason for her to want to even have a conversation with you. This will force her to raise her shields. Keep comfort building to mid-game, and don't prematurely begin in the middle.

Comfort First telegraphs sexual interest

Sample Negs

YOU: "I don't think we should get to know each other." HER: "Why not?"
YOU: "I think you are just too much of a nice girl for me."

If your target says something even slightly rude you say, "You don't get out much do you?"

If a girl isn't into anything active, use that as an opportunity to neg her by saying, "Get with the program. I'm into living life. Don't you care about staying fit? just cause you are thin doesn't mean you are toned you know. You have to consciously plan activities. That's it... I'm your success coach ... and we are going roller-blading (or rock climbing) this week."

If your target interrupts you, say, "Hello, I'm talking, geez" or, "Excuse me... may I finish my sentence first?" You then say to others in the group, "Is she always like that?"

If you are asking a question to two women and the target answers you say, "I didn't ask you. silly."

Sample Negs

What are some other examples of gaining compliance?

Getting her to invest. (She goes to retrieve a drink for you, she spends some money on you, etc.)

Getting her to move with you or bounce to another location.

Locking her in. The longer a girl wears an item of yours, the more compliance you have. If the girl removes your item, she is defying.

Social pressure. Get one of her peer group to tell her to be nice to you, or to give you an accomplishment introduction, and you will immediately gain much more compliance from her.

People generally comply if it results in more fun, or gaining some benefit. We are inherently selfish.

People will also comply if there is a threat A man with a gun gets more compliance than one with a hose.

Of course the venusian artist will never actually pull out a gun. But there are ways to make her feel slightly threatened if she fails to comply.

What are some other examples of gaining compliance?

Here are some examples of compliments:

"You seem like someone who really knows what she wants, I admire that."

"You really care about your friends. I bet you will make a really good mother."

'You have a good energy."

"I notice you're the leader of your friends. Why is that?"

"You're a great conversationalist."
"You're a very classy girl. What are you doing in a place like this?"

"Wow you seem so confident with your friends, like you're kinda the leader of your peer group. I just love your energy... -> Are you close with your family?'" [Going into next routine.]

"You have such an expressive personality ... That's a valuable thing in the entertainment industry. There are a million women who are beautiful; I just came back from Florida, but how many do you think have an outgoing personality like yourself? I'm telling you, that's a very attractive quality and a valuable asset."

Here are some examples of compliments:

"Baby, we've got to slow this down.."

Some people think that it's the man's job to escalate, and the woman's job is to resist. Instead, think of it as if it is the man's job to do both. If you are constantly thing to get more kino, like getting yards on a football field, it telegraphs far too much interest and deprives her of the hot/cold, push/pull energy that she finds so compelling.
When you pull in close to a girl, there's this tension in the air. At some point, if she feels too much discomfort, she will pull away. This isn't what you want - you don't want to condition her into a behavior of constantly pulling away from you. Rather, you want her conditioned to chase after you.
So, once that tension has been created, it's now time to push her away. This might be physically ("get off me, geez") or emotionally, such as using a backturn, false disqualifier or some other IOD. You might frame it as though you are the prize and you're not going to let her get anywhere with you tonight 'cause you have work tomorrow.

One effect of this is that it spikes attraction when you push her away. She will respond more playfully to you now. Another effect is that comfort is created. She doesn't feel like you're trying to get something if you're constantly pushing her away. This allows her to feel safe while having fun with you. She can allow the emotional stimulation to escalate instead of having to shut it off in self-defense. And the push makes it that much more stimulating for her when you do pull her back in.
For this reason, toss her hand away after thumb-wrestling or palm-reading. Devise a kino routine where you embrace her for a few seconds of role-playing, and then push her away. Mix signals.. .draw near to her saying that it would never work out between you, but stroke your finger down her cheek at the same time. Then turn away. Use body rocking m conjunction with IOIs, IODs, false-disqualifiers, role-playing, stones, and so on.

Someone could easily spend weeks or months playing with these ideas in the field. There is so much to explore.

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Style's Kiss Tactic

When sitting arm-in-arm with your target, lean in and smell her hair and say, "You smell so flacking good, Fin trying so hard not to kiss you right now..."

Then, push her off you and say, "Now get off of me." At this point, do a slight freeze out/IOD and wait for her to give you an IOI. If you did everything correctly up to this point, she will give you an IOI by re-initiating kino with you. After she does, lean in and kiss her.

You'll know that she is ready to be kissed after she IOIs you, because you verbalized that you wanted to kiss her, and her IOIing you is a way of accepting this verbalization.
The above routine is a very good example of many of the principles of MM (kino escalation, compliance, punishment/reward, etc.) working in conjunction with one another. See how the woman enjoys this process when it unfolds?

When you lean in to smell her hair, you are giving her an IOI, but you also do not want to make her uncomfortable by escalating too fast. Therefore, you push her off of you. This in turn makes her uncomfortable. She notices that she is more uncomfortable not having kino with you than she was when she had kino with you, so she re-initiates kino. Then when you lean in to kiss her, this is an IOI Thus you are rewarding her good behavior (her kinoing you), and encouraging more such behavior as tilings progress.

This is how a venusian artist uses the one step forward two steps back principle to get the girl to chase him.

Style's Kiss Tactic

The Music Game

This game is very simple: share with each other those tilings that you like. For example, name a band you enjoy, and then say "your turn."
She may not play along: "I don't really like that band."

You: "Just making conversation.'' (Turn away a bit.. .slight freeze-out.)
Her: "So.. .what else do you listen tor"
You proceed: "I like.. .Pearl Jam.. .it's my favourite band of the nineties. I really like that song 'Garden,' I remember making out with my high-school crush to that song.. .but I digress. Ok, now it's your turn."
Her: "Ok.. .I like.. .Ray Charles... I've always loved 'Georgia on my Mind.' Did you see that movie about him?"
You: "Yeah I just saw that the other night in fact. He has one of the most beautiful voices I've ever heard. Wow I'm kind of impressed; Ray Charles. I totally gave you insufficient credit. You have good taste in music."
Her: "Why, thank you."
You: "Ok my turn.. .I like.. Tool."
Her: "I love Tool! I've been into them since their first CD."
You: "No way, you like Tool? Not too many girls are into them. You know, I remember when their last CD came out. I was..." (Tell a story.) ".. .So I never saw that girl again, but I still have that seashell she gave me when it rained. Ok... now it's your turn.

The Music Game