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Exactly what is stress? Well, it is defined as 1) physical or mental pressure, tension, or strain and 2) a mentally or emotionally disruptive or upsetting condition occurring in response to adverse external influences and capable of affecting physical health, usually characterized by increased heart rate, a rise in blood pressure, muscular tension, irritability, and depression. From this definition we see that if stress is not dealt with, major health problems can occur.

If we lived somewhere by ourselves (like a deserted island) or become a recluse, most of the mentally or emotionally disruptive or upsetting conditions could be eliminated, especially the physical or mental pressure, tension, or strain that comes from interacting with people. But, we know that does not happen in the real world where we live.

So, what can be done about that? Or, can anything be done at all? Well, emphatically yes! By learning the characteristics of each personality, we can 'manage' potential stressful situations and keep our stress levels much lower. You might be thinking - I tried learning personality types before and can't remember what personality goes with which of those hard to spell and pronounce names.

Well, I have good news for you. Without taking any profile tests, there is a better way you can very easily understand who you are and all the people in your various networks, whether you have just met them or have known them forever. When we understand the people in our lives we are better able to manage many of the stresses created by the personalities of these people.

There is a simple system called "Color to Success" which explains the four personality types. We all have basic personality traits that dictate who we are and affect how we relate to each other. Although there are many factors that influence these interactions, such as family background and culture, there are still dominant traits inherent in us from birth which affect our adult behavior. Knowing this simple color system helps us in all our relationships in all of our networks.

So, what are these colors?

They are four basic colors --- yellow, green, blue and red. For each of these color personality types you have to respond differently. The problem is, since we usually don't know someone's "color" (and usually don't even know our own), we respond to everyone in the same manner which, of course, is a BIG mistake. That is why there are so many "stressful" relationships. But, when you learn the habits, traits and characteristics of the four personalities you can become a chameleon and respond to them according to their personality color, not yours. What a great stress management tool especially when you come to know your own dominant color and why you are the way you are. Knowing this can help you develop your strengths and to find ways to overcome your own weaknesses that have caused stressful situations for you in the past. Isn't that liberating?

Understand this. Everyone is a rainbow of these four colors and sometimes we emphasize a specific color when we are in a situation that requires that personality trait. Nevertheless, one color is always our dominant color; the basic traits inherent in us. This is the color that represents our true personality and the traits and mannerisms that define us.

So, how can this help you in business?

If you are a "network" marketer as I am, you can use the knowledge about personalities to build better professional relationships. As a business coach, it can help you guide by helping them stay on track. This knowledge can also help you improve your relationships in your home and family network, your work network and all the other networks because you will now understand why each person is so different and why they do what they do. The "Color to Success" training teaches the strengths, weaknesses, likes and dislikes of each personality. The training is so simple and life-changing that you can learn within a few hours how to quickly identify each personality. The "Color to Success" training, which consists of a CD and the "Powerful Networking Secrets" Ebook, was a wonderful breakthrough for me in interacting with people in my different networks. It has certainly reduced a lot of stress in my life and can do the same for you.

You can obtain more information on this "Color to Success" training that will help eliminate some of the stress which comes from interacting with the people in your many networks here. In addition to the "colors" technology, free mentoring, training and coaching is offered which will help you develop the skills to be successful in network markting. So, don't hesitate to download the ebook Success in 10 Steps. This is the best way to start receiving your business coaching because it is 100% FREE.

You have nothing to lose - except of course some of the stress in your life.

The following article, written by my mentor, Michael Dlouhy, explains the value of knowing the personality colors.

When you're networking, it's important to see the picture from the other person's viewpoint. If that person is to achieve their dreams, if they are to become a more effective networker themselves, then you need to help them get better but don't kill them in the process.

There are a lot of ways to skin a cat. Even though somebody else takes a totally different approach from yours, it may well be just as effective or more so. You certainly want to encourage that.

On the other hand, it may not work at all. THEN what do you do? It's important to get them going on the right track, but you can't publicly embarrass them or put them down. That discourages them. So you must be able to see the situation through the other person's eyes. You want them to see you as a coach they can learn from. Talk about what they are doing right, as well as what improvements they can make.

You've got to do 2 things at the same time - move the person off their "failure-path" AND build them up, so they can feel the joy and the belief. If a person has no belief and confidence, it doesn't much matter what path they are on. They aren't going anywhere. So when you coach a person, you must walk that fine line of BOTH bolstering their confidence AND changing their direction. It's not easy. But that's why network marketing pays so well.

Michael Dlouhy explains further the value of knowing the personality colors.

One thing network marketers do is we wonder why other people do the things they do. Some of that stuff really seems irrational, doesn't it? Selfish, mean, nuts? It's frustrating just to think about someone doing those crazy things. Why can't they be normal? Like like like US for instance!

And do you know what the height of this lunacy is? They look at us and think exactly the same thing!

Since they are so set in their crazy ways, maybe the smartest thing for us to do is to be a bit less bothered by their nuttiness.

One way to do this is to look beyond their behavior and into their soul. The vast majority of associates and prospects and family members aren't being devious. They are just doing what they believe in. If you can look at the other person and see the innocence behind their behavior, then you can have compassion for them.

One area where others seem to often "go too far" is in their idea of how quickly we should be doing some pretty weird (probably unproductive) action, to help them in their MLM business. To them, it's urgent. You, on the other hand, have 27 things on your list more urgent and more likely to produce good results. So just think of the frustration you feel when a project is urgent to you and you have to depend on someone else for the next step. That may make it easier to "feel their pain" and not be so bothered by their behavior.

Can you clearly see how knowing the personality colors can reduce your stress? Not only that, learning the colors can be fun and exciting, it can build your confidence and, you can strengthen your relationships in all of your various networks.

Here's wishing you "Color" your way to success.

Be empowered to prosper!

Irma White
A Mentor With a Servant's Heart
Mentoring For Free