New Years Resolutions Help And Support

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What Is YOUR New Year's Resolution?

It's that time of the year again... And some of us have made resolutions galore. Or not.

Personally, I love New Year's Eve and New Year's Day - it feels like a fresh start, a blank slate, and I can't wait what the new year will bring. And obviously, we have a lot of say in what it will bring...

Either way, most of us are keeping our fingers crossed that 2014 will be a better year than the last one. And we know that what WE do will make a big difference. And I guess that's where New Year's Resolutions come in...

Except, they can also be a straight path to failure if not handled correctly.

So let's take a look at New Year's Resolutions and how we can make the most of them.

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Three Cool Mugs To Help You With Your Priorities...

Here are three (actually four) great mugs that will help keep things in perspective...

1) Be sure to pick goals that make you happy - just to think about them, and the outcome too. Here's a cool coffee mug that'll remind you every time you enjoy your morning java.

2) Enjoy LOTS of laughs, starting with your morning java. As the old saying says - laughter is good medicine. And so is coffee as we're finding out more and more. The stuff is full of some of the most powerful anti-oxidants!

3 and 4) Get stuff done! if you tend to get side-tracked, this one will help you redirect your focus on what matters. Just remember, doing any old stuff won't do. Make sure the stuff you do get done is stuff that actually needs doing!

Staying Focused For The First Month....

How have you been doing. Now that 2014 has arrived, I'm going to reset the countdown every month to remind you to stay focused...

Countdown to February 1, 2014

February 1, 2014: February 1, 2014

Don't Get Carried Away With New Year's Resolutions

business success Here’s how it works…

We have a list of things we’d like to get right this time: lose weight, get in shape, find the love of our life, make LOTS more money, and so on. So we build our New Year’s Resolutions around them.

The problem is that we pretty much doom ourselves to failure.

Just think back to last year… how well did last year’s resolutions work for you? How long did they last? How long did you go to that gym that you’re still paying for?

Did you get that new job, and did you make more money?

Here’s the problem… Every time we promise ourselves we’ll do something and then don’t do it, we let ourselves down. That’s really bad for our self-esteem. We stop trusting ourselves. And every time we do it AGAIN, we’re even less likely to succeed.

So it’s really important that we avoid making resolutions that are hard to keep.

Instead, think of things you can do that will move you in the right direction. Go for a walk or do another exercise 5 days a week. Dancing to some music at home counts. If you think 5 days is a stretch, start with 3 days. No, this is not wimping out. It’s making sure that you’ll build trust in yourself again, after years of eroding it.

There are lots more possibilities…

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The bad news is time flies. The good news is you're the pilot.

Michael Altshuler

New Year's Resolutions Debate

Do You Make New Year's Resolutions?

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Absolutely. It's a civic duty!

bloomingrose says:

I am an eternal optimist.

ProjectResolute says:

Yup, made a lens on it!

Helene-Malmsio says:

I make my goals and then create the action plan. Essential for success.

Helene-Malmsio says:

I make my goals and then create the action plan. Essential for success.

Steve_Kaye says:

I write an annual report that contains goals, plans, and intentions. Instead of resolutions, I seek new habits.

Not really. They rarely stick anyway.

skiesgreen says:

No, I'm to old to fall for that one

ConnieGreen says:

Instead I spend a full day writing down my goals and how I intend to achieve them.

TheApril says:

I do New Year's challenges. It is hard for me to stick with goals.

jen17 says:

No, just try to make every day special!

seleenf says:

I love your lens I like "get shit done" cup, merry Christmas

 
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Goal Setting Vs. Goal Projections

There are really two kinds of people – goal setters and the goal free living people. The goal setters set their goals, and they keep going and they achieve them. Life works beautifully.

The goal free living people, though, tend to run into trouble with goals. Well, not all goals. If they decide they want to earn a degree or something, they do need to set goals and they do. But they also let themselves be guided from one step to the next. They don’t tend to arrange their lives on a linear path, and the most fortuitous events tend to happen unexpectedly, not as a result of goals.

So to allow for more fortuitiousness and inspiration, I would like to suggest to focus more on goal projection than goal setting. Visualize what you’d like to have in your life, focus on the next steps you need to take to get there, and then do those. Don’t try to map out the whole thing before January first, or even IN January. Instead, resolve to continue to meditate and focus on your vision of how you’d like to live your life. And on being happy!

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New Year's Resolutions Success Strategies - Divide And Conquer

I bet you’re quite familiar with this phrase – divide and conquer. But how often do we forget that this is how it works.

Imagine you have a big, intimidating project to do, whether it’s writing a book or losing 50 pounds or filing a huge stash of paper. It seems overwhelming, and in an effort to avoid failure, it sometimes seems easier not even to get started. But that won’t get us anywhere, will it?

Instead, let’s remember that Chinese saying that even the 1,000 mile road starts with the first step. All it takes is one step after another. And even dozens of boxes of “miscellaneous” paper can be tackled one sheet at a time, as in the image to the right.

A similar principle kept the street sweeper in Michael Ende’s novel “Momo” motivated. At one point, Momo asked him how he could face the seemingly endless street he had to sweep. And the wise streetsweeper said, “One sweep at a time.” If he were to think of the whole project, he’d collapse in desperation. But one sweep at a time, ihe can handle it.

And so you too can keep yourself motivated by focusing on one step at a time, one page at a time or even one sentence at a time. And, of course, one pound at a time – or like the folks in AA, one day at a time.

And you will succeed.

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How Do You Approach New Year's Resolutions?

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  • Jan 10, 2014 @ 4:45 pm
    My NYR is to love more. Great help tips here.
  • GettingPhotographic Jan 03, 2014 @ 7:25 am
    Sometimes we are as much afraid of success are we are of failure. And the consequences of change can have far reaching effects. Scary stuff!
    Making your dream reality is worth a bit of scare.
    Very inspirational lens.
  • skiesgreen Jan 02, 2014 @ 9:14 pm
    I don't have any. You did a good job here and congrats on LOTD. Well done.
  • Steve_Kaye Jan 01, 2014 @ 11:07 pm
    I consider personal improvement to be a continuous process. So I write a weekly report on my life with a page of goals/expectations for the next week.
  • ArtByLinda Jan 01, 2014 @ 10:41 pm
    Realistically, because I don't like to set myself up for failure.
  • DaisyDixon Jan 01, 2014 @ 8:30 pm
    I can tell you put a lot of time and thought into your lens, great job! It looks great, I liked it a lot! I have made resolutions in the past, but usually forget about them eventually. This year I'm not making a resolution, but am keeping some nice goals in mind :)
  • TanjaCrouch Jan 01, 2014 @ 6:59 pm
    Congrats on LOTD. Good lens!
  • rauspitz Jan 01, 2014 @ 6:29 pm
    Congratulations on getting LotD!
  • nancycarol Jan 01, 2014 @ 4:42 pm
    I approach anything with action; it's imperative to me to "DO" something, not just talk about it. My favorite thing is to take stock of the previous year, and see what I can do better in the New Year. I always want to feel I'm moving forward with whatever the year calls for.
  • gods_grace_notes Jan 01, 2014 @ 1:23 pm
    My approach has changed over the years. I have learned to think, plan ahead, and begin the implementation of my goals by the last two weeks of December. Well, truth is; this is the first year I have actually done that, so it's a great feeling, and very empowering!! I anticipate a happy, productive year ahead... Congratulations on your well-deserved LOTD!
  • calconcrete Jan 01, 2014 @ 12:56 pm
    Going to start seeing my doctor on a regular basis. I'm 66 and have still felt invincible as a teenager would. My body is slowing down and I have recognized that I need some professional medical help to keep it going efficiently.

    Patrick
  • SusanM17 Jan 01, 2014 @ 10:59 am
    Excitement for new opportunities!
  • LynnKK Jan 01, 2014 @ 10:40 am
    More discipline across several disciplines. Maybe one will stick, eh?
  • RinchenChodron Jan 01, 2014 @ 10:03 am
    I'm welcoming 2014 and I'll take it one day at a time.
  • grammieo Jan 01, 2014 @ 9:36 am
    As I said in the debate module, I am making changes all the time, not just New Years Day, congratulations of LoTD!
  • RenaissanceWoman2010 Jan 01, 2014 @ 8:51 am
    I have decided not to do resolutions this year. I'm going to do something more drastic... a New Year's Revolution. Congrats on LotD and Happy New Year!
  • Susan52 Jan 01, 2014 @ 8:41 am
    There's something about it being a new year that makes it almost irresistible to make resolutions. So far, so good for 2014. But the day's not over yet! :) Congrats on your encouraging Lens of the Day!
  • Merrci Jan 01, 2014 @ 8:25 am
    Very well done lens--congrats on the LotD! No resolutions for me but January will be time for setting goals for the year.
  • esmonaco Jan 01, 2014 @ 7:37 am
    I try to go day by day, I know what I need to get done for the day If I don't it just moves to the next day. Congratulations on LOTD!!!
  • dawnraeb Jan 01, 2014 @ 6:51 am
    Congrats on LotD! Lovely lens! I break New Year's Resolutions so i don't make them. I just keep trying to move toward my goals. i'm glad you included the mug you were questioning! That's my favorite one!
  • OhMe Jan 01, 2014 @ 6:23 am
    Congrats on LotD. Enjoyed the visit.
  • Jan 01, 2014 @ 5:16 am
    congrats on lotd ^_^ I don't make one because I start whenever I want
  • The_Kelster Jan 01, 2014 @ 3:02 am
    Really inspiring lens! I don't normally set too strict of New Years resolutions, but I like to take this time to evaluate this year and look at something I could improve on. Like this year, when I look back, I see that I went to fast food restaurants more that I normally would, So I decided that this coming year I would make a more conscious decision to make a meal instead of going out, or if I do go out, to choose the healthiest alternative out there.
  • RoadMonkey Jan 01, 2014 @ 2:27 am
    I don't - I have probably set my mind too firmly against it in the past! However, I do have goals and aims, I just don't set them at new Year!
  • RubyHRose Jan 01, 2014 @ 12:23 am
    I too love self help stuff! I try to pick one thing from the previous year that I want to continue with and go from there.
  • selfhelpguru Jan 01, 2014 @ 1:43 am
    That sounds like a great plan! Thanks for sharing it, and good luck!
  • DebW07 Jan 01, 2014 @ 12:14 am
    I don't make them because I know I will break them. Congrats on the LofD!
  • selfhelpguru Jan 01, 2014 @ 1:42 am
    Thanks for sharing your approach, and for the congrats!
  • sbellis Dec 29, 2013 @ 9:26 am
    I try to start and stick to a least one new habit. The problem I have is trying to do too much and this falls apart. So small thing after another works best.
  • selfhelpguru Jan 01, 2014 @ 1:41 am
    I like your approach - one at a time. There's no reason why we should make all the changes at the same time! Thanks & good luck!
  • vallain Dec 28, 2013 @ 9:16 pm
    I'm trying to make my resolutions very specific this year. One is to switch from cocoa to tea for my morning drink. A little change, but hopefully will result in weight loss and better eating.
  • selfhelpguru Jan 01, 2014 @ 1:40 am
    That's a great way to approach resolutions! Hope it has the desired result!

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