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Nice Guy's Finish Last?
Are you like many other nice guys that had bad luck with women? Have you ever developed a big crush on a woman, acted like a complete gentleman, even gone out of your way for her but still end up rejected by her for a jerk who you know won't treat her right? In other words, the type of men we refer to as "bad boys", "charmers", and/or "playas". Do women mostly see you more as just a friend or a brother and not as boyfriend material or a romantic interest all because you're "too nice"? If so, don't worry you're not the only guy with this problem. This guide will give all nice guys out there some key dating tips on how to use those bad boy or charming qualities that women love while maintaining your nice guy personality.
What Are Bad Boys Like?
Brainstorm
Take some time and think for a moment. What so appealing about bad boys that most women go for them? Well lets see, they can be unpredictable, fun, mysterious, spontaneous, and most importantly show a lot of confidence. The only rules they obey are their own and they don't let anyone control them.
Be Spontaneous
You don't need to be a daredevil to win women over but try suggesting activities you don't normally do in the heat of the moment. They don't have to be way out there or crazy to succeed. Say for example, trying something new that you always wanted to try with her or going someplace new where you've never been and experiencing it with her for the first time. It's very possible to be mysterious and unpredictable in a good way without breaking your own code or principles.
Try waiting a while before you call her after getting her phone number or after the first date. Let her keep guessing whether you'll call or not. In general, women love a challenge and don't want a man that's too easy for them to catch. If you're always playing it safe and being predictable their won't be too much fun in your life.
Try waiting a while before you call her after getting her phone number or after the first date. Let her keep guessing whether you'll call or not. In general, women love a challenge and don't want a man that's too easy for them to catch. If you're always playing it safe and being predictable their won't be too much fun in your life.
Be The Man
You Wear The Pants
What most women want are men who will be confident, decisive, and dependable to handle things. When you're out on your date, take charge but don't push it. Remember to plan ahead so you can always have a backup plan in case something goes wrong. Always be adaptable to different situations, for example if she hates a certain type of food or she mentions how her favorite band is in town for one night only, be ready for these things.
You don't have to break your bank to show her a good time either. Think of dates that won't cost you too much money without looking cheap but being thoughtful at the same time. These type of dates include a museum, miniature golf, even the zoo. Not only will these dates save you money but it'll also show you that that you don't have to spoil her rotten to win her heart or just show her a good time. If she's really into you she'll enjoy your company anyway.
You don't have to break your bank to show her a good time either. Think of dates that won't cost you too much money without looking cheap but being thoughtful at the same time. These type of dates include a museum, miniature golf, even the zoo. Not only will these dates save you money but it'll also show you that that you don't have to spoil her rotten to win her heart or just show her a good time. If she's really into you she'll enjoy your company anyway.
Be Fun And Generous
Remain lighthearted and upbeat about things or basically be more open. Don't act like a nervous or needy guy (even if you feel that way) when you're on your date the key is to not let it show. The date should be kept humorous and fun while you keep your attention on her. By doing this, you're able to take a lot of the focus off you and this will help you look plus feel more confident.
Of course, it goes without saying because if you're a nice guy you already know to be a gentleman. Basic examples include offering to pick up the tab unless she insists on paying, opening doors for her, letting her go first, etc... you get the idea. However, again don't be "too nice" otherwise you'll come off as desperate.
Of course, it goes without saying because if you're a nice guy you already know to be a gentleman. Basic examples include offering to pick up the tab unless she insists on paying, opening doors for her, letting her go first, etc... you get the idea. However, again don't be "too nice" otherwise you'll come off as desperate.
Pay Attention And Communicate
Nearly all women prefer to communicate verbally and love a good listener this is where most nice guys shine (as long as you remain focused on her). You'll impress her by remembering important things about her for example her favorite color, pet's name, favorite song. If you're looking to meet a woman online, check over her profile to come up with questions you can ask her about and what interests her.
Look Good/Presentable
Work with what you have by making the most of your looks. You don't have to be a pretty boy for this to work but you should dress nice. Look over your attire, accessories, and personal grooming judging yourself fairly. Try to get feedback, ask a friend if possible a female friend for her honest input. You can always get tips from other sources online or from TV as well. Being well groomed and looking good gets a woman's attention.
Stand Up For Yourself
Develop a backbone and continue living your life don't let her control it by becoming her puppet. Dating a woman doesn't automatically mean you have to stop doing what you love like hanging out with friends or enjoying your hobbies. You never know how long a relationship will last so just be yourself. For example, if you already planned on going out with your friends and she wants you to do something with her instead its okay to go out with your friends. For us nice guys saying no can be difficult but if she truly likes you she'll only respect you for that kind of decision and come to appreciate the time you spend together more.
As an alternative to this, you could always suggest doing something together some other time in the near future. For example, offering to take her some place where she's wanted to go or do something together with her that she's wanted to do for a while now.
As an alternative to this, you could always suggest doing something together some other time in the near future. For example, offering to take her some place where she's wanted to go or do something together with her that she's wanted to do for a while now.
Is She Really For You?
Where would you rank her on a scale from 1-10? Keep in mind, you have the right to rate her too its not all about the woman in a relationship. Ask yourself is she worth going out with again? Would she really make a good girlfriend? Just because she's smart, classy, and attractive doesn't mean she's right for you.
Does she treat you right? Does she have a kind heart? What about her self-esteem? Is she generous? If its a long term relationship you're going for can you still see yourself together with her in 10-20 years? What about after her hot body or pretty face aren't as attractive anymore? Will you still want to be with her?
Does she treat you right? Does she have a kind heart? What about her self-esteem? Is she generous? If its a long term relationship you're going for can you still see yourself together with her in 10-20 years? What about after her hot body or pretty face aren't as attractive anymore? Will you still want to be with her?
Conclusion
Hope
As women get older the good news is that they're more likely to want to date nice guys. Especially if they've come out of a horrible relationship with a bad boy or just had bad experiences with them and learned from it. Build a list of the good qualities you have to offer women and just keep improving yourself. Believe in yourself and realize how good of a catch you are then act like it.
Recommended Dating Books/Guides
Dating Guide Reviews
These are a few guides that I've bought and read online which I'd recommend for additional dating tips that have helped me out. I've listed them in order with my own pros and cons so you can make up your own mind. I'll continue add more guides to this list that I feel are worth reading. Be sure to visit these websites and sign up for the free newsletters and mini courses to see what they have to offer.
- Guy Gets Girl
- What I really love about this guide is that its written by a woman so she naturally has a very good idea on how women think (obviously haha). I'd say the 3 things I enjoyed most about her guide was how she explained what women are thinking about we approach them, how to tell if a woman is really into you or reading her body language, and what women truly want from a guy the most. The only problem I detected from this guide is that it doesn't fully grasp how men think but comes close but that seems to be the only downside which is a small one.
- Art Of Approaching
- Now this guide is definitely a favorite of mine that teaches nice guys like myself out there how to overcome fear of rejection from women and more importantly how plus when to best approach them and it really does work. What it doesn't do is go in depth about what goes on in a woman's mind like a few other guides I've read have done. However, it does teach you how to read women's body language to make up for that.
- Conversation King
- I actually got this as a bonus with the Guy Gets Girl Guide and its well worth it even on its own IMO. Plain and simple this book breaks it down how to talk to women and the topics they love to talk about the most. This is a guide that really goes in depth about what and what not to do when talking to women which you really need to know. The best part about this guide is that this is another guide that's written by a woman which helped me to see things from a woman's point of view. However, this guide doesn't exactly favor the shy guys out there who aren't willing to open up. You definitely have to be brave enough to talk to women for her advice to work.
- Instant Dating Success
- This guide helps you not only with women but with yourself and how to improve your self esteem which is what I really like about it since I could relate to that issue the most. I'd say the bad thing about this guide is that since it's written by several people not all of the techniques mentioned will work for everyone. Still, for me its proven to be a good helper for my dating life and has given me some additional dating advice that I never knew about. These guys definitely know their stuff thats for sure.
- Creative Date Ideas
- It's a pretty good book that gives you some great ideas to use when dating especially when you're trying to be creative and fun. It's a well written and easy to understand guide that basically just goes down the list of things you can do to help improve your dating life with fresh ideas. However, the downside is that not all of them will work for you obviously since everyone is different and has their own style of dating. At the same time, that's the great thing about this book that it gives you so many creative options which lets you decide what you're comfortable with doing.
Favorite YouTube Dating Videos
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- thepspmaster thepspmaster Apr 11, 2008 @ 6:14 am
- Great tips for guys!
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