No Intimacy In Marriage? - Sexless Marriage Advice

There is always an underlying cause to the reason your lover has become cold and indifferent to your sexual requests. There can in fact be a number of reasons and discovering what these are will aid you in fixing your sexless marriage.

A few of the more common reasons for low sex drives or withheld sex include:

1. Resentment
Having problems in a marriage is normal and often it can lead to a better understanding of each other when they are resolved. Resentment however is the result of possibly years of unresolved issues that have reached a point where they have effected your spouse quite physically in the sex drive department.
This could be a power imbalance in the relationship, a resentment over past infidelities or about money even or a whole range of small things bundled into one. This can build a wall of seething anger below the surface that acts out with the result of being physically repulsed.

2. Physical Problems
Men especially have this issue with performance problems such as premature ejaculation and impotence but women also can have issues such as loss of feeling after childbirth and changes to the female reproductive system than can make sex painful or uncomfortable.
This can manifest in a sense of anxiety or shame as they may think it is their own fault or are somehow sacred to admit it. Luckily these things can be treated medically often.

3. Psychological Illness
Depression, anxiety disorders and a whole host of problems can best people and sometimes you cannot pinpoint when or how it happened. This can be cause by so many things. Sexual assault, loss of job, childbirth and many other things that happen or resurface.
These can be a serious issue and sometimes can be healed with love and understanding but sometimes also need the help of a professional.

How to uncover there things and also how to begin to overcome sexless marriages in general is all about communication

Communication is the real answer to all of these problems but exactly how to communicate these things can be a difficult thing to fathom. In fast sometimes the best communication is by not talking and just doing some things that can open up an avenue for them to open up to you.

Thousands upon thousands of books have been written on communication between lovers, husbands and wives so dissecting this in this lens you not be possible. Also many ways to communicate may not be feasible for your particular situation.

For this reason I recommend clicking the following link to a guide specifically on sexless marriages and how you can turn them around.