Not good enough - as is
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When who you are is not acceptable . . .
Once I disclosed my low grade depression to a couple of people, well, that was it. Soon I was considered unstable and treated like I had some contagious disease.
Despite being highly treatable (and usually resolves within months) I still was avoided or asked, 'How ARE you?' in a patronizing way.
Intro photo source: Mitya Kuznetsov on flickr see here. / Licensed under Creative Commons
Depression (or dysthymia - what I have, a low grade depression) is considered by mental health professionals as 'the common cold of mental illness.' In fact, some studies indicate that those with these conditions are actually more in tune with reality than the majority of the participants studied. Are depressed people just way too realistic? (One in four people will experience a depressive episode at least once in their life). The most common age range for depression is within the working career of a person; although it is being diagnosed more often in younger people, within the last decade. The very young and very old seem to be the least likely to exhibit signs of depression.
If statistics are anything to count on, then we all know someone who has dealt with this issue. The questions I want to raise to employers and people given the power to make decisions for others is this: are we going to discriminate against someone on the basis that they suffered a depressive episode? Is this stigma still around? Did you know it is against the law to discriminate on the basis of physical or mental disability?
Since the time I admitted I was on medication for depression, my family and others have often pointed a finger at me as 'the one with the problem.' Somehow, even with very high grades in school, glowing performance appraisals and letters of recommendation...I still cannot seem to be considered for a job in some small circles of healthcare. I am labelled as 'damaged goods' now. Sure, I am sad. The person I am, the hard worker I am, is just not good enough, as is.
Strange, eh? What gives? Has anyone else come across this out there? How about taking a poll here for fresh data (and points for all of you fellow Squidoo lensmasters)?
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The DSM
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders
The risk in labeling people with a condition, is the risk that they don't get better. They become the diagnosis; they get used to it; it can have its own rewards (attention, care and concern from family), or they believe they are doomed with it. People do get better, do recover, medication and therapy actually work. For myself, when I find myself unable to concentrate (like reading the newspaper) or sleeping poorly, I know it is time to increase the dosage of my Celexa (anti-depressant) medication. I know when I am sinking and thankfully I have an amazing family doctor who will adjust my medication accordingly. I have accepted this much like a diabetic accepts the need for insulin. It is the way I was made...I still function, a caring member of society and (I hope) a really great mom.
What I am concerned about is that the parameters for "normal" have become narrowed. I think there are wide variations in the human condition, and in fact, it is a very small percentage of mental illness that is difficult to manage. We all have our unique personalities, faults and strengths. The DSM is becoming so full of diagnostic labels; I wonder - will there soon be a "Sousababy Disorder" a "Seth Godin Syndrome" or a "Squidoo Psychotic illness?" (Okay, so admittedly some of us are addicted to Squidoo...but that is a healthy addiction, right)?
Well, let's take a good look at the DSM
Scholarly views from those who have studied it a long time:
DSM-IV and Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissism is going to be eliminated from the new DSM-V in 2013:
Ernest Hemingway quote:
"Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know."~ Ernest Hemingway (1899 - 1961) American author and journalist
Winston Churchill quotes:
"Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm."
"If you're going through Hell, keep going."
Depression is very treatable . . .
Freeing truths to get you through this pain,
my two favorite quotes, short and sweet . . .
"Remember sadness is always temporary. This, too, shall pass." - Chuck T. Falcon, author of Family Desk Reference to Psychology and Psychology Made Easy.
And the finest work from these two authors
My top picks from L.M Montgomery and Chuck T. Falcon . . .
A little poll of everyone visiting this lens . . .
thank you for participating, it is very valuable to have fresh data:
Dear Pollster,
If you voted for the last two options (given above) it is imperative that you seek medical help. Please see your family doctor as soon as possible or go to the nearest emergency department at your local hospital. Feelings of suicide typically last about 24 hours...it is crucial that you have supervision and treatment started during this time frame. You deserve to live and be happy. This is NOT a weakness of any kind. Guess what? I have been there.
Depression AND anxiety often go together . .
A lens from SereneSea which helps with anxiety, naturally:
When I read this lens by SereneSea, I was so very impressed with all the ways she addresses treating anxiety naturally.
If you or someone you know suffers ANY type of anxiety disorder (PTSD or OCD included) have a read of this very healing lens of hers . . .
More to come
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Or, feel free to leave a question, comment or suggestion too:
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DavidDove Dec 19, 2011 @ 7:02 am | delete
- Great stuff, as always. David
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momsfunny Oct 13, 2011 @ 10:05 am | delete
- Nicely done. The information here was a real eye opener for me.
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lollyj
Sep 16, 2011 @ 2:55 pm | delete
- Two big thumbs up. If I could vote twice, I would.
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AddaptAbilities Jul 18, 2011 @ 10:07 pm | delete
- You ask some very good questions and provide some very useful information. Thank you!
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MaxReily
May 30, 2011 @ 11:43 am | delete
- Very informative lens, with helpful advice for anyone trying to deal with depression/dysthymic disorder. You've included great material here, and conveyed a positive message. Thumbs up!
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akumar46
May 22, 2011 @ 1:39 pm | delete
- Great lens....thanks.
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dellgirl
May 13, 2011 @ 1:36 am | delete
- 5 stars for a very informative lens, thumbs up, and favoriting. I really learned something here, thanks for making this lens and for sharing it with us. This is good stuff to know!
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ChrisDay
Apr 17, 2011 @ 12:20 am | delete
- Just came back to say hi!
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SereneSea Apr 1, 2011 @ 4:14 am | delete
- Dear Rose,
It is a pleasure reading about your work related lenses, people have a herd mentality. We all have super brains but we hardly use 1 % in our life time. Just imagine if we find a way of utilizing it more. Your experience in this lens is so real, I can relate with that. People can act differently with genuine concern but they choose not to. Sometimes they just brand you like they did in this lens. I understand and that's the irony of the situation.
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Tipi
Jan 16, 2011 @ 8:51 pm | delete
- Wonderfully done! The greatest value of going through these times is the hand reached out to others.
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