Did you know that we all have a power within us that allows us to pull what we want towards us? Yet few of us use this power. Instead, we push and shove to reach our goals.

We feel nothing is going to happen unless we make it happen.

To a point, this is true. We can't just sit back and wait for the world to beat a path to our door. "It ain't gonna' happen."

But consider this. If you are the one being pushed, what do you do? You rebel. You dig in your heels, cross your arms, and say "make me" -- or you run the other way.

If you aren't reaching the level of online business success that you want, maybe it's time to take a fresh look at how you're selling your products and services.

Instead of focusing your total attention on external actions -- keyword optimization, email promotions, link exchanges, Adwords, etc. -- why not try turning inward and using that power within you to pull towards you what you want?

Try this -- take a little time each morning and think about what you want to happen that day. Then, instead of plotting out all the things you're going to do to make it happen, try thinking about the results of your efforts.

Think about how you're going to feel when that affiliate check arrives, or you get notification of a sale (or several sales), or that big project you've been wanting finally comes to pass.

(In case you've noticed, this is what "The Secret" is all about. It's using the Law of Attraction to attract the things you want into your life.)

Throughout the day, try to keep yourself in this receptive (pulling) frame of mind. Be aware of your actions. When you catch yourself pushing and shoving to make the sale, take a few moments and use that power within to pull what you want towards you.

If there IS a secret to success, it's in knowing that you don't achieve success -- other people GIVE it to you in return for what you have given them.

This is similar to the idea that you get what you want by giving others what they want, but with a twist that, to me, makes it even more powerful.

Think about it. Other people GIVE us our success. It's not something that we obtain strictly on our own. It's based on what we do for them.

If you just 'sell a product,' are you giving anything to your customers? Not really. You've merely made an exchange of merchandise for money. But what if you were to offer some suggestions or advice on how to best use the product? Or maybe reinforced the customer's decision by repeating some positive comments made by others about the product? What happens then? The customer walks away feeling that you have given them something -- not just sold a product.

When you perform a service for someone, you can just 'do the job' -- or you can give them the very best of yourself. If you're a carpet cleaner, you can just clean the carpet, or you can give your customer hints on what to use on certain spills and stains. If you're a veterinarian, you can just euthanize a family pet, or you can follow up with a sympathy card.

In other words, success is the reward we receive from giving to others. And it relates to everything we do in life, not just our business dealings. I encourage you to think about this statement ... memorize it ... and put it into practice in your everyday actions.