You're Pregnant - And They Want to Get Your Healthy Newborn Baby
Today, there is a large market for healthy newborn babies for adoption customers. Adoption "professionals" are promoting "open" adoption and luring mothers in with promises of pictures, letters and sometimes even continuing contact with their child. Adoption scams abound. If your daughter is single and pregnant, you might question whether open adoption is really better than keeping family together.
Open Adoption vs. Semi-Open Adoption
Is there a difference?
Often mothers are advised that they are "choosing" an "open adoption" because they selected prospective adopting people from an agency's listing of "Dear Birthmother" advertisements. Even if they meet them, the true family members may never even be told the adoptive people's real names. This is really a "semi-open adoption" or even a "closed adoption", not an "open adoption".Later, the naive parents may discover that true "open adoption" was originally promoted to benefit the child, by providing contact with his/her true family. In addition to (or in lieu of) actual contact, they could have requested pictures and letters sent periodically, if they had known to ask.
Of course, requesting things and getting them are two different things. The adoptive people do not have to honor the adoption agreement. There is always some legal loophole in favor of the "buyer". Many "open" adoption close within the first few years.
Websites on Open Adoption and "Dear Birthmother" Letters
Opposed to adoption advertising and lies
Some "experts" say that "open" adoption is better than closed adoption, because the child is not cut off from family completely. But who advises a naive mother, father and grandparents to consider keeping their baby instead of entering into an open adoption agreement?
Considering Open Adoption? Risks for 'Birth' Mothers
Open adoption and how open adoption promises, scam more...0 points
Open Adoption - The Truth about Open Adoption
Open Adoption. Facts about open adoption and how o more...0 points
ABOLISH ADOPTION - A Petition by Americans For Open Records
This petition is NOT against adoptees, parents or more...0 points
KeepYourBaby.com - The OPEN LIES of OPEN ADOPTION
Adoption agencies and adoption attorneys are using more...0 points
Origins Canada - Open Adoption 'Options' and Adoption Coercion
Open adoption 'options' - how adoption agencies lu more...0 points
The Sacred Dyad - Mother and Baby
No unnatural "open adoption" - just real moms and their babies
Babies know their mother by her voice, her smell and the sound of her heartbeat. Babies find comfort in their mother's arms. Yet some modern-day "experts" speak of "redefining family". Should motherhood as designed by nature be replaced by the human-made "institution" of adoption, "surrogacy", egg "donation"?
Mother and Baby Geese
Mother and Child Snow Monkey Huddling From Cold... Hot Springs near Nagano, Japa...
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Nature forms us with a natural bond to our true mother
The natural bond of mother and baby
Human mother and baby (endangered)
Before "Open Adoption" Was an "Option"
History of Infant Adoption and the Treatment of Single Parent Families
In the past, single parents were said to be "unwed" and their children "illegitimate bastards". In the 50's and 60's, many adult males were infertile, having contracted STDs during the war. Many couples were willing to pay for adoption "services" in order to get a healthy baby. Maternity homes like Florence Crittenton (which had previously helped mothers to keep their children and find employment) began to encourage mothers to surrender their offspring. "Adoption" was far more profitable than helping family members stay together. In some cases, the mother was simply told her baby died in childbirth. Adoptions at that time were "closed adoptions", the child being completely cut off from any true family. With closed adoptions, mothers rarely knew whether their child lived or died - or whether their child was returned to foster care when the adoption "failed". Books on Infant Adoption and "Unwed" Mothers
The reality of adoption
Some of the following books are fiction. Some are real-life stories of "unwed" mothers, adopted "children" (adult adoptees) and adoption. When the subject is adoption vs. natural family, both truth and fiction can provide great insights.
Baby Brokers: The Marketing of White Babies in America by Lynn McTaggart
Posing as an "unwed" mother and later as more...1 point
The Handmaid's Tale: A Novel by Margaret Atwood
Science fiction novel. Infertility reigns and thos more...0 points
The Giver by Lois Lowry
Young people's science fiction novel. A utopian so more...0 points
A Man and His Mother: An Adopted Son's Search by Tim Green
Adoption - how might it affect a person to be sepa more...0 points
A Death in White Bear Lake: The True Chronicle of an All-American Town by Barry Siegel
An "unwed" mother forced to "give u more...0 points
Beggars and Choosers: How the Politics of Choice Shapes Adoption, Abortion, and Welfare in the United States by Rickie Solinger
White mothers were encouraged to "choose" more...0 points
Adoption Healing... A Path to Recovery for Mothers Who Lost Children to Adoption by Joseph M. Soll
A history of "unwed mothers homes" and t more...0 points
Death by adoption by Joss Shawyer
From a review: Shawyer resisted the date-rape styl more...0 points
Reeder feedback
Open adoption, closed adoption or true family - what's your preference?
Express your opinion. Are true parents who are single just "juvenile delinquents who are all on drugs" and "deserve it" when family members are separated and the "adoptable" newborn babies are "put up for adoption"? Should people be subjected to slick "dear birthmother" ads and lured into "open" adoption? Do all human beings (even true orphans) deserve to know their true identity?
