Overcoming fears of rejection

Different men have different cause to be afraid of being rejected. The most common causes being a lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. Let us examine this twin source of fears of rejection, being able to understand the source of these fears will help us in overcoming fears of rejection:

The source of lacking in self-confidence arise mainly from the physical factor:

• Not being tall, dark and handsome.


• Being too thin or too short, or both.


• Having physical deformity.


• Not being able to converse properly. Some men just feel that they do not have he 'gift of the tongue'.


• Self-defeatist nature. Always carrying the 'it's too hard' and 'i don't think she will like me' mentality.

The source of lacking in self-esteem arise mainly from what's in the mind:

• Not earning a high income.


• Not being highly-educated.


• Not aggresive enough in your career, in other words not a high performer in your job.


• Peers and colleagues have all leap-frog you in their career, and probably you are still stuck with the same position for the last 10 years and drawing a meagre increment every year.

So is there help to raise your self-confidence and low-esteem?

YES THERE IS! And it comes from the source of particular man called Mike Pilinski who wrote a very interesting e-book titled:

Without Embarrassment:
The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System

I remember being in a bar once with all my buddies (who were at the point of almost having to drag me along since I had come to hate the whole scene) and this cute girl slid over and stood next to me. I could sense that she wanted me to strike up a conversation, but at this time in my life I was simply unable to do so because of the immense burden of other (largely bullshit) concerns that were crushing my brain to the point of paralysis.

Does the above scenario seem familiar to you? You felt just like a social outcast, not being comfortable where you were. And you missed the chance, the opportunity to say a simple 'hi' and break the ice with that cute girl. The consequence of this missed opportunity would be self-recrimination that follows. In the words of Mike Pilinski again:

And the price of failure was always brutal self-recrimination.
I was under the influence of a tyrannical consciousness that refused to give me any sort of break -- which meant that everything had to be made as difficult for me as possible, or forget it. No floundering around, no acting like a bumbling rookie allowed. Ashamed to reveal how inexperienced I was at social interaction and yet incapable of giving myself permission to practice and fail and LEARN, I was stuck in limbo. I had to pretend that I was "too cool" for the whole game and simply couldn't be bothered to participate at all. More like stuck in hell I guess.

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You are with a bunch of friends and one of the girl in the group caught your attention. Oh mine..she's not just any other girl, she looks just like the right kind of girl for you. You admire how she speaks, how she makes her every gesture. She would be the kind of dream girl you have always wanted to know, and the one you wish to cultivate a relationship with. You made eye-contact with her but you quickly shift your sights away from her, not confident enough to look at her directly. You stayed rooted to the ground, hesitant, nervous, worried and sweating..fears of rejection piling up within you in those few arduous minutes of time. Many thoughts float in your mind as you stood rooted in a helpless manner:

- Why can't i just go up and say 'hi' to her? She looks friendly enough. Look..she's smiling so sweetly when she's talking with the rest of the group.
- What if she snubs me off when i approach her? Wouldn't that be very shameful for me? Wouldn't everyone in the group laugh at me?
- All the guys in here are tall, handsome and humorous. I am short, thin and inward. I don't think she will have a good impression of me. I would just be making a fool of myself if i approach her.
- What should i say to her to break the ice between me and her? I'm literally feeling weak with the tension and nervousness that's building inside me now.

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So on..and on..you start creating all kinds of doom's day scenario and build up culminating fears of opening a conversation with the dream girl that you HAD the opportunity to befriend. These are the fears of rejection. Fearful of the consequences of failing to achieve a positive outcome after approaching the opposite sex. Fearful of being looked on as a loser, and fearful of being shamed in public. The group disperse and you can only lament an opportunity lost to know the girl of your dream. You pulled your hair and wonder how you can get help in overcoming fears of rejection as another opportunity slips you by.

Of course, the same thing could happen even if you are not with a group of friends. You might be alone with the same dream girl just steps in front of you. Without any leering glances from any outsiders, you can still feel the same tension and nervousness building within you. You hesitate, you get tongue-tied, rooted to the ground you stand on and just watch the girl leave the area.

The big question is: what can you do to overcome these inner fears? Can anyone help to convert you into a confident guy who's cool about initiating conversations with any lady that you fancy? Is there any such help around?

YES!

THERE"S HELP IN OVERCOMING FEARS OF REJECTION!

So WHO is this dating guru Mike Pilinski? See that little picture of the man on the right? That's Mike Pilinski for you. Mike is author of the non-fiction titles "Without Embarrassment" and "She's Yours For The Taking", an education for men in the fine art of meeting and dating women. Mike overcame an incredible case of rejection phobia by learning how to mimic certain key behaviors which high status males seemed to naturally possess. The success he experienced now forms the basis for the methods that he teaches.

In Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System you will discover dozens of unique strategies that you can begin using immediately to create exciting new romantic connections with sexy women everywhere. These techniques and specialized knowledge will improve your game at every stage -- from the moment you first catch her eye to actually turning her into your loving sexual partner.

You will learn how to defeat the DEADLY TOXIC SHAME that lies at the heart of all your rejection sensitivity... breaking the destructive cycle of rejection / self-castigation, over-thinking and other self-defeating behaviors that have been holding you back socially forever.

In addition, Mike Pilinski's highly-acclaimed new book will guide you in creating the perfect High Status Male Attitude for yourself. You will witness a near magical improvement in your ability to passively attract women once your apparent status goes up a few notches in their eyes!

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Here are more highlights of what this wonderful e-book will explain and educate you:

* How the root of all your shyness lies buried in deeply held feelings of shame that have become secretly linked to your natural and very human desire to be loved...

* How your behavior -- your invisible 'vibe' -- affects your attractiveness towards women far more than any aspect of your looks or body style possibly can...

* Complete strategies to manage the self-destructive aspects of your ego that are holding you back from having a full and active social life...

Never again stand by helplessly while your brain "blanks-out" at the worst possible moment whenever an opportunity to cold approach a cute girl appears. Learn how to make fantastic first impressions in less than 3 minutes. Converse with a purpose to get the date or phone number that you're seeking... NO senseless blathering!

Bottom Line: It's time for you to STOP being the nice guy who always ends up being "just friends" with women, and START getting laid like a real Man.

Begin your own grand romantic adventure by visiting Mike's site today...

From: Patrick McCann
Cornwall, UK

Hi Mike,

I haven't had any success with girls my whole life (my last girlfriend was 3 years ago, and before that... never! ). But I chanced across your material, read it over on a Friday and Saturday, went out Sunday night and guess what?... I had girls begging for me! Picked up this hot babe, walked along the beach for a while, fooled around then went to her place... Anyway, as we are walking into her apartment her ex-boyfriend happens to be driving out, (first girl I pick up in 3 years, and on the way back to her place we come across her soon-to-be-ex, can you belive that!!!!!!!). So this chick freaks out and obviously everything is now fucked up, right?

Anyway, she still seemed keen... so I played it cool and used the knowledge that you outlined in your book and it worked like a charm! She was soon saying shit like, "you're so different than any other guy I've met", etc. Maybe this was all a big coincidence, but after reading HALF your book (I'm only up to page 144) when I go out now these birds are all over me :) !

Even if I don't get any more from this bird, I sure learnt a lot from my first field test. Hey, maybe this stuff is not that hard after all!

From Rick Z.
New York

Your advice on fear and shame is worth far more than the price of this e-book -- it is life changing. I am transforming before my own eyes and I can't do anything to stop it!

I don't want to stop it! ;-)

And from Amazon.com

One of the biggest problems I've had with most self-help material on women is that they typically brush off the past as insignificant. But for most people who have extreme difficulty with women -- as opposed to those who at least have occasional success -- truly understanding our inner working and how we came to be this way is paramount to overcoming the obstacles. How can you defeat fear if you don't know where it comes from? Well, maybe some people can brainwash themselves, but not lonely, introverted, critical thinkers. And that's where this book stands out. The author offers keen insight into fear and shame and how they evolve throughout our lives, and in particular, in those early formative years. In fact, the first few chapters of this book may as well have been my autobiography! (Although he hardly mentions religion, which in my case, was a significant contributor to my self-defeating attitude and behavior.)

I also appreciate his approach to courting women (as opposed to "picking up" women). Most other programs advocate manipulation ("negs" or "cocky-funny" etc.), sneeking under the radar ("ask her opinion on something" or "talk to her friends while actually ignoring her a bit" etc.), and other "techniques" that basically only work in crowded, trendy bars and strip clubs, because they ignore the essential nature of the mating game -- we present ourselves, they choose. This is a powerful perspective because it is universal among organisms that reproduce sexually. This perspective is in stark contrast to the banter that most other pickup artists employ that only describes certain limited social characteristics of certain species. Consequently, while other programs advocate gimmicks to "beat the system," Pilinski acknowledges the hard truths (like the shortcomings of being short, or the fact that you will not bed every chick you hit on no matter what Mystery-Cocky-Funny-Hypnosis-whatever methods you use) and instead focuses on the natural dance of courtship. For example, most guys still struggle with women when using the aforementioned methods because these methods all skip the fundamental first "step" -- eye contact. Sure, they give you "rules" for making eye contact, like "don't look away until she looks away" or "move in on the third look." But then they drown you in "approaches" that have you butting into other people's space uninvited. Hence the shenanigans.

This is not a book for the so-called "average frustrated chump" (or AFC in geek-speak) who's looking for that 100%-fail-safe-money-back-guaranteed method.

This book is for guys who are grounded in reality, not kung-fu pickup artist fantasies. This book is for the highly intelligent, creative, wonderful guys out there who find themselves paralyzed by shame and fear and thoroughly naive and ignorant in the mating game. This is for guys who simply want to feel like human beings, not pimps.

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Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System will lay out strategies that you can use to develop a keener understanding of how male status operates in your own life and most importantly, how to assess your own critical weaknesses and begin correcting them. It will improve your odds of successfully making a connection with a women at every step along the way -- from that moment you first catch her eye to actually turning her into your loving sexual partner.

The idea is to have you making up for wasted time lost in "shy-guy hell" after only a few short hours of study and finally get your own "personal status pointer" moving in the right direction!

You will be able to:

- Create the perfect High Status Male Attitude for yourself and see immediate improvement in your ability to attract women...
- Break the destructive cycle of rejection, self-castigation, over-thinking and other self-defeating behaviors that are holding you down...
- Learn how to manage the shame-fueled anger and stubbornness that prevents you from developing long term intimate relationships with women...
- Develop a gentle, seductive intelligence that an amazing number of women will find absolutely charming!
- Get her daydreaming about you when you're not around... an essential but little understood aspect of seduction...
- Kiss her like she's never been kissed before! The critical First Kiss seals the deal and sets you on a glideslope to the bedroom IF YOU DO IT RIGHT... otherwise it can become the ultimate deal breaker. Learn a masterful "how-to" technique that will knock her panties right off!
- Stop Being Friends with Women, and Start Getting Laid!

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Life is not fair, we are all born with different features. Some of us have all the good looks, good charisma and others just inherit all the not so good stuff. Like me...

Yes ME! Did you think i was going to be good-looking? Charming? Tall? Dark? No one has ever described me in any of the above adjectives. A more likely list of adjectives for describing yours truly (which is me by the way) would be:

- short
- thin
- humpback

I am not deprecating myself by using these descriptions. I AM all these! From the age of seven, i found that i have an arthritis condition known as ankylosing spondylitis. This disease causes inflammation to the joints and to the lower back, affecting the curvature of the spine. I am not able to turn my neck sideways at all due to the long-term effects of this condition.

You can imagine how 'easy' it would be for me to date girls or strike a conversation with the opposite sex, or even think about having a wife!

I finally got a wife of course, by overcoming my fears of rejection on my own. I defeated all the negative monsters of the mind and leverage myself in a position that improved my position amongst other competitors for the girl of my dream.

However, this triumph was not easy. It was fought with a lot of unknown, i did not really know what would happen if i did this or that. I was scared, apprehensive and nervous. The only factor that helped me was that i had more initiative, more willingness to succeed, and more guts than my competitors. I do not wish for you to be as unprepared or lost as i was, and miss opportunity after opportunity before you decide to take that first step. You owe it to yourself to take action right now!

Equip yourself well and put yourself in an advantage when it comes to beating the competition to get the girl you want. If not for the competition, do it for yourself and marvel at your new-found confidence and realization in attracting girls of the opposite sex. Be the man you have always wanted to be!

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