Overcoming Shyness and Social Anxiety

Shyness really is a combination of social anxiety and social conditioning. To overcome shyness you need to learn to relax socially. This enables you to direct your attention away from yourself and gives you the space to practice certain conversational skills.

In most cases, the heightened emotions of socializing when we are young simply condition the sufferer to respond to social events with fear, instead of excitement and pleasure.

Relaxed socializing is so pleasurable, not to say productive, but it is an advantage denied to many until they learn to relax. To start reducing your own shyness right away, take a look at this Overcoming Shyness and Social Anxiety audio hypnosis session.

Audio Hypnosis is by far the most effective treatment when overcoming shyness and social anxiety and it will help you to relax completely as well as reprogram your unconscious mind to react more confident in social situations.

Think about the way you feel and behave around familiar people you are comfortable and spontaneous around. It's that feeling transferred to new people and situations that equates to your emerging social confidence.

Focus your attention away from yourself. Sure, you can think a little bit about how you are coming across, but if all your focus is on your own words and feelings then you might as well be by yourself. Notice what other people are wearing and make a mental note, listen to their conversation, imagine where they might live, make a point of remembering names. Not only does this give you more to talk about, it also 'dilutes' social anxiety leaving you feeling calmer.

Stop trusting your imagination so much! Have you ever had an imaginary picture in your mind of a holiday destination only to arrive and find the reality is different from the way you had imagined? That's how reliable imagination is. Stop imagining what others think - it's just too painful. Besides, what a person thinks about you has a lot more to do with who they are than who you are.

Take your time. You don't have to blurt things out. Ask questions and if questions are asked of you can take time to consider your response (within reason). Don't just blurt out what you think might be the 'right' answer. A slow answer is a relaxed answer.

Self hypnosis is the quickest way to change your instinctive/emotional response to any situation and to overcoming shyness and social anxiety. Only think about meeting others when your mind and body is relaxed.

This conditions you to associate relaxation with being around new people. In fact you'll find that when you relax deeply enough, often enough whilst hypnotically rehearsing being comfortable around others, you'll reach the point where you just can't be shy any more! This is what I call a 'happy inability!'

See for your self how you can use audio hypnosis to relax completely and change your emotional response in any social situation by visiting Overcoming Shyness and Social Anxiety.