It's All Parents Fault?!?

HERE'S WHAT I THINK

Raising A Brat Today, A Social Nightmare Tomorrow?

With so many bad news concerning kids shootouts at schoolyards, bullying, fights, etc., but also issues regarding discipline, disrespect and contempt towards other people, isn't it about time that we point to those responsible the most: PARENTS!!!

I've observed parents being kicked, punched, screamed at, called names and talked to with disrespect, and whined half to death by their bratty, spoiled monsters - It's time to say to parents: GET ATTITUDE! SAY NO AND MEAN IT!

TELL IT LIKE IT IS!

Are parents today spineless weenies, raising a generation of selfish spoiled brats?

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Yes, you're right!

tara27oh says:

I say that yes and no, but why can't we spoil our kids, and teach them to earn what they get.Theres nothing wrong with spoiling if its in moderation.I hear people say that oh dont pay attenion to her shes spoiled, and they are only a few months old.TEACH THEM DIFFERENT!!!! IF YOUR GIVING INTO FITS AT THE STORE, then they will expect things everytime.I nipped that in the butt before they became of school age.

Posted November 19, 2009

Minnie says:

Most definitly. Both. End. Full stop. No more comments.

Posted October 04, 2009

Matt says:

H*ll yeah! I don't care for MY parent's generation of kid-spoilers, but our (the current) generation is even worse! But if you look back at our parent's parent's generation! How many grandparent-aged people do you hear about shooting others or even NOT saying "ma'am" and "sir" to other people?

Maybe there's a connection here, I don't know...

Posted August 12, 2009

says:

More and more are.
I'm 27 and when I look back at when I was a kid, the kids in that generation were so much better behaved then 80% of the kids I see nowadays.

Posted March 03, 2009

Margo_Arrowsmith says:

Well, I would say both. They let the kids get away with too much, but they are also too nervous and think they have to be perfect!

Posted November 12, 2008

ElizabethJeanAllen says:

I see it in school all the time. The kids are not held accountable for anything and that stems from the parents. By the time they're 12, the parents have lost control.

Posted November 01, 2008

Ezmerelda says:

I think it's fair to say SOME are, yes. A lot of them feel guilty for working too much, so they try to compensate by giving their children things, instead of time. And a lot of parents just find it impossible to believe that their children could be any less than perfect.

Posted October 31, 2008

naturegirl7 says:

As a teacher for 25 years, I saw first hand the change in parents and parenting skills. In the early years, most parents stood behind a teacher's recommendations and most attempted to discipline their children. Towards the end of the 25 years, many parents were so permissive and gave their children money and material things rather than quality time and limits. To make things worse, some would undermine any attempt at discipline from the school.

Posted October 30, 2008

dc64 says:

I think the parents should take some of the blame, however; once a child hits about 25, they should be taking responsibility for their own actions instead of laying blame on the parents.

Posted October 30, 2008

poddys says:

I think that society and the media have a lot to answer for, but ultimately it's the parents who are responsible for bringing their children up correctly.

To an extent I also blame the lack of religion in schools. Not so much the religious side, but the teaching of morals and the way to treat each other. Seems kids don't understand how to be nice and kind these days.

Posted October 27, 2008

No way, Monkeybrain!

Ohrana says:

I have a 2,3 years old sun, and i think its not triue! Try to found a problem at yoursef first oa all!

Posted December 04, 2009

Treasures-By-Brenda says:

There are a lot of great parents out there along with those that are not great AND a lot of wonderful children who are not selfish spoiled brats.

Parenting is a tough job...it would be helpful if we had a 'village' to support new parents and families. Parenthood is one of the toughest jobs you can do and you receive almost no training!

Brenda

Posted October 26, 2008

Music-Resource says:

No. Firm, yet fair and reasonable boundaries help but parents of today can't be blamed as a whole. It's more of a society thing with the worsening influences on TV and the increasing instant gratification attitude in the air.

Posted October 25, 2008

lakeerieartists says:

Some are but not all. Probably no different than any other era.

Posted September 12, 2008

saraht43 says:

Some may be, but I think a lot are afraid if they discipline their children someone (maybe even the kids themselves) will turn them in to the law. And I'm sorry but I don't think a swat on the behind is going to ruin them emotionally for the rest of their lives and I don't mean BEAT them to death. But kids know when your afraid to discipline them and they will take advantage of the fact.

Posted September 12, 2008

LucyVet says:

I don't think they all are, though some of course are, and it seems like more today than previously. However, parents are not wholly responsible for how their child behaves, especially as they get older - schools also have a role in teaching behavior.

Posted September 12, 2008

says:

The parent's aren't always to blame. It takes a whole society to raise (and mold) a child. I can't answer your question because your question doesn't allow for exceptions to the rule (and there are many exceptions to the rule)...so I'll say "no" for now, for the sake of those parents out there who do still maintain reasonable control.

Posted August 31, 2008

niicki says:

No, not entirely. I think society has made many parents afraid to Parent due to threats from Children's Services to take away kids because of something like spanking. Since that's how many current parents were raised, they aren't properly equipped to effectively Parent in what is a current, socially acceptable way.

I don't think we're spineless weenies - I think many of us are afraid of having our kids taken away from us.

Posted August 12, 2008

The_Homeopath says:

I'm on the fence about this due to the wording. I don't think today's children are any more or less misbehaved than they have ever really been. You can look back in time and see the same arguments about naughty kids over and over again. I think, more than misbehavior, our biggest fault in child-rearing today is making them lazy and inactive.

Posted August 11, 2008

LindaJM says:

A lot depends on the child's inclinations. Sometimes parents will raise several well-behaved children and one that is wild and intractable. Blaming the parents only sets up bad feelings - totally unnecessary. Parenting is a difficult job already; no criticisms are needed as most parents are already well aware of each child's good qualities and faults.

I see you're recommending Linda Popov's 'Family Virtues Guide'. I used the book with my two youngest children, and attended one of her virtues workshops about ten years ago. I believe virtues are learned best when demonstrated in action by the parents and others the children have contact with, but it doesn't hurt to talk about virtues too... it gets people thinking about the best ways to act.

Posted August 08, 2008

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Parents are not kids' friends?!?

Many parents treat their kids more as friends than as parents who are responsible for raising a young person into a responsible, law-abiding, positive contributor to society. You are not there to be your child's giggle buddy.

That means sometimes you are going to have to make decisions that your child won't like. You'll have to say "no!" to things that your child wants to do. You will have to say "no!" when your child wants to go places you don't approve of, wear clothes you don't approve of, or date people you don't approve of. You have to be the parent, and that means your word is law. Establish yourself as the authority in the household.

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'NO' with Attitude

Parents that say "no!" then give in after the child whines and wheedles teach that your word means nothing and that with the slightest pressure, you will bend to your child's will. Giving into your spoiled child's demands, allowing yourself to be manipulated with tears, threats to run away, harsh words ("I hate you!") or other negative behavior means you are a weenie. It also means you need to grow a spine and get in the habit of telling your brat "no!"

Pleading for compliance, using bribes, negotiating, saying "please" repeatedly, or refusing to ever set limits for your child is not parenting, it's begging for cooperation from a mini-terrorist! Stand up for yourself and say "no!" and "stop!"

Are you able to say NO! to your kids?

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Raising a responsible child

Give your child goals to accomplish and daily chores from a very young age so they learn responsibility and feel like they are contributing to your home environment. They will also learn to reach for the stars and roll with the punches if they fall a little short, while you are there to guide them back to the right path.

Establish behavioral limits, household rules and boundaries, and then stick to them without bending an inch. Make sure your children know what you expect from them, and that you make the final decisions about what goes on under your roof. Boundaries help children feel safe, because they know what to expect, what you expect of them, and what their limits are.

And if your child breaks rules or violates boundaries, drop the hamma' with a serious punishment. Do not be lenient or give in when the kids fuss about it or whine about how their friends can go/do it/wear it or how it's not fair. Stand firm Mom and Dad! Do not negotiate or compromise a settlement either.

Start saying "NO!" to your children, and stand by your decisions. Demand that they treat you and others with respect.

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