Are you Looking For The Perfect Mate?
Keep reading if you would like some ideas on how to look for that special someone.
I wonder how many people's perfect mate is right now under their very noses, veiled by the word "friend"? You know that exceptional guy that you turn to every time some "hunky dreamboat" or one more has broken your heart, (again) and left you a whimpering, downtrodden mess.
But, we get all caught up in the image of what our dream mate looks like and we forget the truly essential thing: what our dream mate makes us feel like.
If the good lucking guy makes you feel bad, is he really a dream?
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Growing up, we all had our teen idols that we had our first crushes and girly lust moments over, but growing up means realizing that occasionally what is on the outside does not hold a candle to what is on the inside.
Unfortunately, for some of us, that lesson is a hard learned one, and so we are bound to get our foolish hearts broken a time or two while searching for Mr. Hot stuff so that we can turn him into our dream mate.
Got a little secret for you girls: it is not going to happen. Looking for a mate by looks alone is not going to get you nothing but a good looking creep.
Now, there are those that get the guys that are not only handsome, but charming, funny and sweet too.
That's me; I'm Lucky, now you hate my guts!
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- You really have to know what it is that you want out of life before you know who your dream mate might even be.
- You have to know your goals, your temperament and for most of all, you have to know yourself before you throw another person into the mix.
- If you know that you want to be a world traveler for example, you better not tie your dream wagon to a guy that gets car sick backing out of the driveway.
- Either the guy has to change or the dream, so you have to decide what you will and will not give in on.
- Everybody has one or two must haves and can't stands, know what yours are before you even start looking.
For me, a sense of humor is just as essential as having air to breath.
I need to laugh, preferably every day.
I could not live with a seriously uptight; no nonsense kind of man that thought laughing was frivolous.
Right there I have ruled out one whole category of men.
It used to be that I was sure it would be a big, tall, Russian hockey player that won my heart, (okay, so I really did fine tune my fantasy man, sue me).
But my thoughts on that have changed dramatically.
For one thing, there are not a whole lot of hockey players, Russian or otherwise, in my area.
I could either a) move or b) change the dream.
As luck would have it, the dream changed itself for me when I met a fellow hockey fan who is not a tall, Russian hockey player.
He is a web designer! I would not take ten hockey players for him now; my dream mate has totally changed.
Be flexible.
Ease up on yourself.
Know that there is a massive difference between fantasy and a dream mate. A fantasy is the one that will never happen, and you can change it daily.
The dream mate? Well, that one is changeable too, until you meet the one that truly is your dream mate.
I hope you find him soon.
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- AlinaWarner AlinaWarner Dec 6, 2009 @ 2:50 am
- Lovely lens, great pictures! 5 stars
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- TanyaWhaley TanyaWhaley Dec 5, 2009 @ 11:37 pm
- Is there such thing as a perfect mate? I hope so! Nice lens, I really enjoyed reading it! 5*s
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- Tipi Tipi Aug 16, 2009 @ 5:43 pm
- My perfect mate might just be my friend that I like to go do things with. We fly kites, make beads and jewelry together, sit and talk, watch movies, read out loud to each other, go for walks, fix meals for each other, and give warm embraces.
Thank you!
Susie
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- NKenge NKenge Jul 12, 2009 @ 12:40 am
- All of your lenses have good info. Your are making me want to get better at doing lens. I agree we must know who we are and be realistic with our desires, and sometimes they need to be adjusted or changed. (*_*)
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- clembob clembob May 14, 2009 @ 1:32 pm
- I am glad to say that I did find the perfect mate. We just passed our 3rd anniversary and still going strong!
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