Polyamory

Some people ask me if I think everyone should be polyamorous. The simple answer is no.

The more complicated answer is that every relationship requires work, and a poly relationship requires even more work. It requires constant communication, a great deal of trust, and constant communication. It also requires a great deal of communication. I also might have left out that it requires communication.

But seriously, a polyamorous relationship can take a great deal of effort that a lot of people aren't willing or able to put into it. Poly relationships can suffer from jealousy, the same as any other relationship. Only through that communication I mentioned earlier, are poly people able to work through those jealous spots, and move beyond them, and grow stronger.

Let's face it. The positives of being in a polyamorous relationship are pretty obvious. Some people may not understand completely though, so let's go over them.

Firstly, there's the joy of knowing that you are in love, and are loved, by more than one person at a time. Being able to say "I love you" to more than one person, without the guilt or stigma of having to hide it from the other, is very uplifting. To be told "I love you" by two or more people, in an open manner, can fill your heart with joy.

There is the financial aspect to consider as well. With more than two people contributing financially to the household, bills can be paid with less worry, savings can be built up more easily, and any children in the relationship have more parents to help raise them.

And, without going into too much detail, the intimate aspects of the relationship can be much more fulfilling as well.

Admittedly, like any relationship, polyamory can have its negative aspects as well.

Firstly, without a great deal of communication, a poly relationship can cause jealous feelings to build. While poly people speak volumes about the joy of having a jealousy-free relationship, this can only be achieved with a level of communication that most two-person relationships never reach. In many poly relationships, however, jealousy seems to be different. In most cases, it's caused by time management. If two people in the relationship have more time together than the other, time jealousy can be a huge problem.

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