The Power Of Attitude
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The One Thing We Can Control
The Right Attitude
The formula for a right attitude is nothing but easy to reach and describe. In my life I have found some rules to apply while they completely fail to do so for other people. So each of us should try and find his own personal truths about life, fate, and things in general. As for mine, I'll try to make them clear here, and illustrate them as far as I can.Do You Actually Realize The Power Of Attitude?
-socially excluded for different reasons;
-unlawfully fired from a job I loved;
-unsuccessful in things important to me like getting to study the discipline I want and having to apply three times consecutively;
-being not loved back in relationships to which I have given the biggest priority.
In all of these cases, the one thing that kept me going (after a few adjustments in most cases) was the right attitude.
Know The Power Of Attitude
Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.
The Right Attitude
Don't Procrastinate
"Procrastination is attitude's natural assassin. There's nothing so fatiguing as an uncompleted task"
Are You An Attitude Enthusiast?
Get To It Immediately
If you have decided to start working on your attitude, get to it immediately! Attitude does not bear procrastination. The right attitude does it even less.
If you even have not decided to change your attitude, do so immediately. Nothing else in life can help so much making a real change.
Attitude adjustments can take time. Finding the right attitude is different for each life situation. (Right now for me it appears to be "Keep that head-banging against the walls till they crumble down". This is not the best attitude for all cases.)
Whatever it is- you have to define it first, and then get to fine-tuning- as soon as you can! No delays.
Remember Things Have Two Sides-Or More
Whenever two people meet, there are really six people present. There is each man as he sees himself, each man as the other person sees him, and each man as he really is.
Things Are Multi-Sided
When a thing appears to you unpleasant, strange, awkward, and unacceptable, think about it. Why did it happen? How it came into being? Why this thing which seems so disturbilng to you seems to please other people? What could be the actual benefits of it? Is it useful in some way?We often instinctively dislike things and that becomes a reason to directly turn them away, to give up doing something because it seems time-consuming and efforts requiring . We tend to avoid new things, because they make us less comfortable and make us feel "in muddy waters".
When something like that happens, remember to explore things first instead of getting back into familiar ground and avoiding risk, research, discovery, and acceptance of new sides of familiar things which scare or irritate.
I've often judged people for different reasons. At one specific period in my life I was on my way to lose touch with my sister, who is also a best friend to me. This was at a time when she confronted me for some decisions I made and I thought it was out of ill will. There was a partner of mine of which she apparently disapproved, and I felt really hurt. As times went by I saw she had her reasons- and that specific relationship ended in a most unpleasant way. So an important part of having the right mindset is the awareness that things may not be always what they seem at first, or even when being contemplated for long. They are always changing and evolving, and what's here today will not be the same tomorrow; besides, one person might act differently for different reasons- and more, and more.
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Be a Good Citizen
"A great nation is not saved by wars, it is saved by acts without external picturesqueness; by speaking, writing, voting reasonably; by smiting corruption swiftly; by good temper between parties; by the people knowing true men when they see them, and preferring them as leaders to rabid partisans and empty quacks."
We Are Not Alone On The Planet
Whatever we do we do it interacting with other people. The decisions we make affect our own lives but they also affect other people's lives. We must remember this when planning our own actions. Each decision must be made taking into account the way it will influence the other people around us, our environment, our friendships, relationships, our society at large.The right attitude is unthinkable without payng attention to rules, norms, established traditions in society. It comprises an estimate of how our actions will afffect not only our immediate environment, but later consequences and possible negative effects and downsides.
I also lived through some "teen riot years" when I tried alcohol, bad company and advice, and constant conflict with parents. It must have been terrible for them. I acted always avoiding norms, rules, and chose people who did the same. I felt better understood with them and more loved and appreciated. As times went by I realized that in those rules there is some sense and credibility. I began complying to norms even more especially when my child was born because that's when the way you behave in respect to norms begins to impact another person's life.
I don't mean they should be regarded as laws and that people who don't always live by the rule should be discriminated. I just feel more understanding of the ways the society impacts our lives, and our decisions in their turn impact the society.
Be True To Yourself
"Seek out that particular mental attribute which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive, along with which comes the inner voice which says, 'This is the real me,' and when you have found that attitude, follow it."
Care To Know Who You Are
The one thing we are born with and we can never change is who we are.To reach a positive, healthy life attitude one must know for sure who he is in terms of principles, belief, likes and dislikes, habits and lots more. Take care to know yourself, or you can't be true to yourself.
Spare time alone to appraise how you act in different situations, exploit the reasons for your reactions, find patterns which obstruct your effectiveness and the way you perform. All of this pays off in enlarging your idea about your character, your habits, taste and preferences making it possible to assess and improve them.
I know that where I am right now in my life- searching for a better professional position, as a self-employed consultant, is where I was lead by previous decisions. I am perfectly aware now that I am unfit to work in large groups- I am not the kind of person that is friendly and likable to all at the very first meeting. I know I need time to create, develop and maintain deep relationships and meaningful contacts- something which is impossible in an hectic office environment. This is why I chose to work from home, helping people who search their direction like I do.
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Create Your Perfect World
"Each of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit."
Live It To Believe It
The right attitude should include beliefs and principles making it easier to accept life with its changes and difficulties. Those should be personally experienced, felt and accepted in order for them to be able to act and impact the actions, decisions and outcomes on a personal level. What I mean is that you may know what your ideal attitude should be like, but you might as well fail to act in accordance with it, if you are not deeply, truly and sincerely convinced in its power.To give you a concrete example, you might know that in order to be fit you need to jog for 15 minutes a day. Knowing it is wonderful indeed; failing to do it is what determines the outcome of your decision to become and stay fit.
For each of your beliefs, inner truths, and principles find an activity, or action representation. Define how exactly you shall live it to believe it. Write them down in a list and check back do you keep doing the things you want to live and believe.
I do every day something to get me closer to my goal. I read, learn, study, practice the things I've learnt constantly in search for better ways, and better understanding of what things should be for me here and now.
I joined Squidoo to find a place to share, connect with people who feel like me- or differently than I feel, and bond with them. I write each day a piece of my life's book here. To some it may seem unimportant, insignificant, and ordinary. That doesn't worry me. Each person has his own life, and his book is different than mine. That's how it's supposed to be.
Accept Personal Responsibility
When things become frustrating, unpleasant, boring, or even hurtful, remember who's in charge. Is it your boss who makes things the way they are? Is it your spouse? Is it your lover? I bet they rarely are.
The one and only person who has brought you where you are and who can take you out is you.
Each of us should remember that the next time when we try to find fault with someone else than ourselves.
To be more concrete- do I blame my ex-boss for firing me for no reason at all? Of course I do. But I would blame only myself for falling down, starting to complain and hold grudge against him, refusing to stand on feet again and move on. Though it's hard, almost impossible, and devastating, I know it's all up to me and no one else to take action, find a better solution and get doing it- as painful, time-consuming, complex and unbearable it may seem.
Nobody is the master of your own universe but you.
Our partners, masters, bosses, freinds can make decisions for our lives. But they cannot make decisions for our attitude. So when they fail to act the way we expect, or want them to, we have every right to be disappointed. But we have no right to use this as an excuse not to take action.
The power of positive attitude is that it accepts the personal responsibility for our own lives and never denies or underestimates it.
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Accept Responsibility:
"Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does."
Respect Yourself
Self respect is the main ingredient for the right attitude. One cannot be positive about anything if he is not positive about himself.
It does not mean you should not admit to have any personal faults. We are human, and we are imperfect.
Respect means being able to look over the imperfections and be able to see more of the good things.
In order to respect oneself one should act according to his principes, remain true to his values, create and promote goodness and appreciation in his immediate surroundings and in his relationships to friends, family and society.
To keep a positive self-image one also should not too often compromise with his decisions for the sake of other people's opinions.
Respect for yourself means also respect for other people's dignity and rights.
The last life-changing and significant experience in my life was the firing, and that's why I refer to it so many times. I don't try to create the impression I'm too deeply affected by it- yes I am, who would not be? But what's more important, I'm getting over it. Gradually, slowly, each day a small step ahead, but I'm working to get my life back to normal, to acquire the independence I need and the security and stability which my family needs. I'm doing it with the deepest conviction that I deserve to live as free and as independent as all people deserve.
Don't Be Obsessed With Big Things. Stay On Earth.
"I am done with great things and big things, great institutions and big success, and I am for those tiny, invisible molecular moral forces that work from individual to individual, creeping through the crannies of the world like so many rootlets, or like the capillary oozing of water, yet which if you give them time, will rend the hardest monuments of man's pride."
Keep Your Head In The Clouds, But Your Feet Down On Earth
Stay on earth by all means! People too often escape reality and live a dreamlike life till something unexpected, sudden and equally terrifying happens to bring them down to earth. Life consists of small, almost invisible things which mount to create a chain of logically consequent events. None of them is larger than a word, a gesture, a smile when needed and a helping hand in time of personal hardship. We forget too often about that and compete with time towards better job openings, better status, higher salaries and more prestige. People who have been there and done that rarely disagree that success is sweet, but simple things are totally within reach for everyone of us and give as much pleasure to the most humble men as to the most prominent.
Keep an account of your own actions. Make sure your goals and ambitions are high, but meanwhile stay sane and don't lose touch with reality. We are all only human, having one life to live and always accompanied by owr own death- as Dr. Wayne Dyer has put it.
I am the kind of person that reaches the goals slowly, painfully and with enormous effort. It took me three years to be admitted to the best university- but I got there. It took me 35 years to find a man to support me and start a family with me- but I did. I don't know how long it will take me to reach the independence I need- yet I know I'll get there. And it doesn't mean I crave things like traveling around the world, having an unthinkable society status, a gigantic salary and ultimate superiority. I just think of things small, trivial and ordinary- like being able to live a calm and secure life with my family.
Don't Get Entangled In Mediocrity
The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.
Mediocrity Is Scrutinizing Unimportant Details
When you aim for perfection everything seems important. There are lots of things to do, tro finish, new ones to start, and all seem equally important. It's easy to lose your perspective and start scrutinizing and comtemplating each small imperfection as a main roadblock to your success.
It's quite normal for some people to try to make things better, better and better. They are never satisfied with the result, and always go for the new and improved way of doing things. They just don't see the simple fact that no matter how many times you do an old thing in a new way it stays the same old thing. This way they waste lots of time, which unfortunately is not only their own but every so often someone else's, too.
There's a saying, "If you don't succeed try, try again". I like better the other one- "if you don't succeed, then quit." Making the same mistakes repeatedly can not result in anything new.
Persist In Your Actions
"Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action. "
Persistence
One of the things I have always admired the most in people is the power to persist in pursuing their goals. Most good things don't happen overnight. Success is only one of them.
Whatever the things one sets as his goal reaching them without persitence is highly improbable. People who settle with the less and fear setting high goals stay at one place for long and keep themselves from reaching their potential.
On the opposite, people who dare to dream, set high goals and persist in attaining them go through enormous development and change and transform each day into a better, stronger and improved version of themselves.
Persistence makes it possible to go one step at a time distances and heights which may have seemed insurmauntable.The one thing we are born with and we can never change is who we are.
Don't Give In To Stress And Misfortune!
"The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another."
Stress? Bad Things Happening To Good People?
We've all bee there and seen it. People suffer from unexpected illness and disease, die young, deserving recognition stay unnoticed, injustice happens to undeserving it persons. Most of the time it affects us in a subtle, barely recognizable way. We speak to ourselves," if these things happen where's justice?" "What have I done to deserve that"? Asking this and loooking for the fault leads to nowhere. The moment we realize that is the moment we turn from empty speculation with words to decisive, constructive, change-provoking action.Bad things happen all the time. Anyone can be in an accident, suffer a loss, lose a job, go through trial, be in a bad relationship. What makes us different is the right attitude of non-complaining, trying to assess the situation, find a way out of it if it's an unacceptable one or change it to better if possible.
Embrace Change
"To change one's life:
1. Start immediately.
2. Do it flamboyantly.
3. No exceptions."
Do You Need Change?
At one time or another everyone needs change. Sometimes it comes with no warning out of the blue, takes us by surprise and gives us no possibility to react at all. People tend to fear it, avoid it, procrastinate instead of bring the change in, and escape in memories and fantasies.Sometimes we need change, accept this and act to make it happen; other times we do not recognize the need of change and try to keep things the way they are, making concessions and unnecessary sacrifices for fear of what's coming.
Change is an instrument of the future. Tomorrow loves change; yesterday tries to escape it. People who try to live in the past dislike change and see it only as a destructor to their routines and old ways of doing things. People who look ahead to the future see and recognize the need of new things to come, of new ways and understanding of old constructs and concepts.
For all things on Earth I am most grateful for change. Where would I be now if it wasn't for change in my life? Sudden, unexpected, all out of the blue change has always left me unable to act at the first moment. But then again. as the first moment's surprise begins to fade, I enjoy tremendously feeling that surge to make the next step- and move ahead (well, sometimes backwards too). Change is pain- but life is pain too. There's no life in a statue remaining the same and at the same place for ages.
Speak Up!
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reasonablerobinson
Apr 8, 2012 @ 3:01 am | delete
- Our attitudes are essential. They are the mental maps that we use to guide our way through life, the container of 'heuristics' our rules of thumb. Therefore if our attitude is impoverished or mistaken in some way and we govern our lives by it then our lives will be too.
Thats why attitudes and attitude change are the targets of all influencers and persuaders, because changing an attitude can lead to changing behaviour as Hovland and Yale explained.
Mind you there is also the potential for changing behaviour first which will lead to an attitude change.
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Wordwinder
Apr 1, 2012 @ 9:33 am | delete
- Know this, O worthy and diligent lensmaster;
With accomplishment you've earned a tryster.
As a token of immense appreciation expressed,
A squid angel leaves this lens heartily blessed.
On a rendering that is sparkling in its own right,
Propagating an appealing thought well and quite;
If you were to notice a slender shimmering crust;
From the angel's wand, it is a spill of stardust.
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JJNW
Mar 17, 2012 @ 9:27 pm | delete
- Interesting stuff. Thanks for sharing.
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ajgodinho Mar 1, 2012 @ 3:37 pm | delete
- Just back to bless this wonderfully positively motivating lens. It was great to come back and re-read many portions of this lens. It was a nice refresher and reminder. A positive attitude makes a big difference. Stay positive and blessed! :)
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thesuccess
Feb 27, 2012 @ 5:58 pm | delete
- Just dropped in to give your attitude a little Angel Dust!
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Cherish Support
"Wherever you are, it is your friends who make your world."
Show your friends your appreciation
As already said we are not the only creatures on the planet. And thanks God we are not!
There are here and there people who can live all by themselves. They have no friends, no family, no meaningful connections. It's all right, and at one phase of my life I've also been one of them. I was completely happy and self-sufficient that way, yet I felt I need someone by my side if not at present at least for the future (I guess I have some type of fear of aging alone).
Everyone needs support, love, understanding and warmth. We receive it from different sources, but most often these are our friends and family.
Friendship is one of the most valuable assets one can have in life, and the right attitude includes high appreciation of friends' support and makes it apparent and known.
Attitude Prediction
I predict this lens will make your attitude lighter and brighter for the year ahead!
moonlitta predicts:
collettehrock predicts:
Well I can't say that I predict you will win a purple star because you have, but I predict that if people read the lens they will go away feeling a lot better
Ranger08 predicts:
I predict that the right attitude will maximize the Law of Attraction because the better you feel the more good things will come your way.
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goo2eyes predicts:
that you will attain what you have hoped for in your life. hope that this prediction is not double-sending. i wrote down something a while ago but it was not registered. it went missing in limbo.
goo2eyes predicts:
that you will finally attain what you are hoping for in life.
Quickcutters predicts:
I predict that is sure will get me reading more and really thinking about how life may change for the better with my daughter and i.
Great lens
What's Your Favorite Thought?
All citations in the black boxes of this lens are words and thoughts of William James, a famous psychologist and philosopher. Which one of them you find most appealing to create a right attitude?
being true to yourself
"Seek out that particular mental attribute wh more...5 points
The power of attitude
Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of t more...4 points
The many facets of things
Whenever two people meet, there are really six peo more...2 points
Choose your attitude
"The greatest weapon against stress is our ab more...2 points
What counts and what does not
The art of being wise is the art of knowing what t more...1 point
Action for its own sake
"Action may not always bring happiness, but t more...1 point
Did this lens give a boost to your attitude?
Or it did not?
Did you find this advice useful? Can this type of reading boost your attitude for better life?
Can this type of reading boost your attitude for better life?
Yes it is useful though not enough!
allenwebstarme says:
Yes absolutely it boost my positive attitude, you all most cover all points, nothings left. Wonderful lens, wonderful lines, wonderful sayings.
Zut_Moon says:
Sure did and I am featuring it in my lens Attitude, Perceptions and Understanding Yourself
leeleon says:
Nice lens. We must be positive every day. So, we will more happier.
collettehrock says:
I always believe in positive things, and that comes with the right attitude
goo2eyes says:
yes, it helps change our attitude towards ourselves and towards others. make ourselves first priority
No. These things do not work for me
karmicchristian says:
Na. Let's get grounded enough to have some semblance of a balance. :)
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Time Is Ticking Away
What did 2011 bring me?
Today, on December 29th, just two days away from the end of the year, I find life so changed for me and my family!
What are the things that changed and I wouldn't think they would be when I wrote that?
- 1Getting a better job. Yes, I got a new, and a really great one, too. I t happened after I got a second master's degree in Business Administration. You see, I said before I really do have to sweat to get things happening in my life.
- 2Getting better at the Squidoo thing! In fact, it's not just a question of "being good". I guess I also had some luck, but I made it to Giant Squid status, and getting in the top 100. (Actually, I never thought I would!)
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3Finding security. Having done the previously mentioned two things I feel much more confident and calm for my own future and my family.
I think all these things happened because of my tremendous change of attitude on January 1st, 2011. How do you think?
Happy New Year!
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