Over 40 and Pregnant

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"Has anyone told you you're old? Don't listen to them."

These are the first words my "high risk pregnancy" physician ever said to me. I must have had a deer-in-the-headlights look on my face as I sat on the examining table waiting for him to come in and give me the results of my first ultrasound at 8 weeks.

This was his way of breaking the ice with me. It worked. He made me laugh, and I relaxed for the first time since I had walked into his office. Everything was fine, he just needed to see me in a month for another ultrasound. I would travel back to his offices 45 minutes away four more times during my pregnancy.

I was forty when I found out I was pregnant with my second child. My regular Ob/Gyn informed me that my pregnancy was considered "high risk" because I was at an "advanced maternal age". I came to find out that 35 and over is actually considered advanced maternal age. So, I wondered if maybe they should just label my chart "ancient" maternal age.

Photo appears courtesy of chepenicoli on flickr via Creative Commons.

Why older women have been labeled high risk:

My doctor told me that many women over 40 have healthy babies all the time. However, statistics are much higher for problems to occur as women increase in age.

High Risk Pregnancy

What are the problems for women over 35?

The most common problem associated with high risk pregnancy is that the baby could be born with Down Syndrome or another chromosomal defect. My high risk physician mentioned Trisomy 18.

There are other complications that more commonly arise in women over 35 during pregnancy such as gestational diabetes and high blood pressure. These complications can also happen to moms of any age.

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A great read for every over 35 mom-to-be

Great Resource for what to expect as a mom over 35 or 40

Written by a mother who did not have her first baby until she was 43, she tells us her story, provides some great advice and useful links. She lets us know that we are not alone in this. She says she hates the terms likes "older mom" or "advanced maternal age mom" and asks one of us (old mommies) to come up with a new name for us. I say "mature moms."

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What is Down Syndrome?

Also called Trisomy 21, is the presence of all or part of an extra chromosome; a 21st chromosome in a fetus. This can be detected by amniocentesis.

What is Trisomy 18?

This is when there is part of or an extra 18 chromosome in the fetus. The presence of this extra chromosome causes problems with internal organs.

Important!

Routine tests taken during pregnancy

In this lens, I hope to share my journey with you as I found out what tests an older woman (and potentially any pregnant mom) is subjected to during her pregnancy.

Your First Prenatal Visit

What are the routine tests?

You will become an expert at peeing in a cup. Just expect to be handed a cup the minute they see you coming. For the first visit you will also provide a blood sample.

As a high risk case, my doctor ordered an early ultrasound. Since it is so early in the pregnancy, a device must be inserted into the vagina. Any discomfort you feel will be outweighed by seeing your little baby on the monitor for the first time.

Your urine and blood will be checked for the following:
  • The presence of the antibody for German Measles and chicken pox. You should have the antibody and if not, you have to wait until after the baby is born to get vaccinated. Your doctor may tell you to stay away from anyone who is sick.
  • Anemia. This can cause you to be very tired and go into pre-term labor.
  • Blood type and Rh factor. If you are Rh negative you will need treatment (an injection of Rh immunoglobin) at 28 weeks and right before the baby is born. It is very important to be screened at every pregnancy, as this sometimes does not show up during a first pregnancy. It can also cause anemia.
  • A urinary tract infection, or bacteria in the urine. This can be treated with antibiotics that are safe for mother and baby.
  • Sugar in your urine. Your doctor might order more tests to determine if you have contracted diabetes while you're pregnant (called gestational diabetes).
  • Protein in your urine. This can be an indication of either a urinary tract infection or a high blood pressure condition. Further tests may be ordered.

    Photo appears courtesy of Daquella Manera on flickr via Creative Commons.

Regular Visits to Your Ob/Gyn

What can you expect to happen at most visits?

  • Check your urine for protein or sugar.
  • Take your blood pressure to make sure it's not too high, usually.
  • Listen to baby's heart with a doppler machine.
  • After 20 weeks your doctor will measure your belly to make sure the baby is growing.
  • At 36 weeks until you deliver, you may have to take the Non-Stress Test (NST) if you are high risk.

    Photo appears courtesy of blinzelblinzel on www.obp.org via Creative Commons.

What to Expect When You're Expecting

The book every pregnant woman should have

As soon as you find out you are pregnant, run out and buy this book (or have your significant other run out and buy it for you!). It explains everything that should happen week-by-week of your pregnancy. This book was of much assistance during especially my first pregnancy.

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Ultrasound Tests

What is it and who should have one?

Normally, your doctor will order an ultrasound around 16 weeks to determine the due date (and the sex of the baby if you so choose!)

Other reasons that would indicate the need for an ultrasound may be after abnormal bleeding, or you may not have felt the baby move, or your doctor wants to rule out complications. Also, if you elect to have prenatal genetic screening performed, an ultrasound is a necessary part of the screening, as explained in detail below.

In high risk cases such as mine, you may have an ultrasound more often to check for problems.

Prenatal Genetic Screening

My doctor said my test results will show that the risks are high for an abnormality just because of my age

My high risk doctor scheduled an ultrasound to measure the back of the fetal neck, called Nuchal Translucency (NT) to be done between 11 through 13 weeks. I thought I was just going in for another ultrasound and I was confused and worried. The doctor, nurse, and healthcare technicians may refer to this as the first-trimester screening.

After this ultrasound is complete, they take the NT measurement results, the results of your blood test, your age, and your ethnic background and come up with this "number," which is your personal risk estimate. The number tells you how likely it is that your fetus may have Down Syndrome or Trisomy 18.

This test is a screen only and does not tell you definitively whether there is a fetal abnormality. It simply determines the chances that your fetus has Down syndrome or Trisomy 18, and reveals whether those risks are high or low. The results are usually complete within 1 week.

As predicted by my doctor, my number showed my fetus was at "high risk." Looking back on this, if I understood what prenatal genetic screening was (I guess it just wouldn't sink in), I would never have had the screening. We had no doubt that we would not get an amnio because we did not want to take the risk (see the numbers below) .

Photo appears courtesy of geneticnutrition.info via Creative Commons.

Books About Prenatal Genetic Screening

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What to do if your results are positive for high risk?

Your doctor will most likely give you time to consider having an amniocentesis.

Amniocentesis

What is it and who should have one?

During an amniocentesis, a needle is inserted into the uterus to extract amniotic fluid. A lab can then determine with 98%-99% accuracy if the baby has a genetic abnormality or disease. An amnio can also determine paternity and lung development.

The downside of having an amnio is that (according to the Mayo Clinic) the risk of miscarriage ranges from 1 in 400 to 1 in 200. In facilities where amniocentesis is performed regularly, the rates are closer to 1 in 400.

Why should you have one? To find out that your baby is fine, which will give you peace of mind. If you find out that your baby does have a disorder, this can give you time to prepare to care for a special needs child, or you many decide to terminate the pregnancy. You can terminate the pregnancy up to 24 weeks. This is a personal decision.

Bad Mother

Have you ever called yourself a Bad Mother?

The author contends that we have all considered ourselves bad mothers at one point or another. She talks about how society expects every mother to be perfect, but no matter what you do, you feel like a bad mother. She also says that we, as mothers, should give ourselves a break. In this book, she also confesses to aborting a fetus with a genetic disorder.

The Non-Stress Test (NST) During Pregnancy

Why do I have to have this test?

The Fetal Non-Stress test is a simple, non-invasive test performed in pregnancies over 28 weeks. The test is called the Non-Stress Test (NST) because no stress is placed upon the baby during the test. The nurse attaches one belt to the mother's abdomen to measure fetal heart rate and another belt to measure contractions.

For about 30 minutes, movement and heart rate are measured. Every time the baby moves, you press a button. If the baby does not move, it does not necessarily indicate that there is a problem; the baby could just be asleep.

My Ob/Gyn ordered this test at my weekly visit from week 36 to the end of my pregnancy. As I laid back and stared at the computer and machine that perform the NST test, I started to formulate questions. First, "Why am I taking this test; what are they looking for?" My doctor answered that I had to take this test because I'm a high risk pregnancy.

Other reasons for the testing may be that you sense no movement from the baby, or you are overdue. They are checking to make sure that the baby's oxygen levels are normal.

Also, "What do the results mean? Will there have to be further testing?" A reactive non-stress result indicates that blood flow (and oxygen) to the fetus is adequate. A nonreactive non-stress result requires additional testing to find out why the baby is not responding as it should. Low oxygen levels can often be caused by problems with the placenta or umbilical cord, or other types of fetal distress.

Some Useful Links

Concerning pregnancy tests

Information on the NST
Reasons for taking the NST. More information.
Prenatal Diagnostic Testing
Learn more about prenatal tests.
Amniocentesis from Answers.com
Learn more about the risks of the amniocentesis.

Would you be able to be an "over 40" mom?

Do the risks outweigh the rewards?

Do you think 40 or over is too old (and risky) to become pregnant?

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Yes - the risks are too great for me personally.

Sarah Monnity says:

yes

Allana says:

Its a personal choice but if you already have healthy children would you take the risk that you may develop health problems or have a child with health problems. How would you look after your existing children if something should go wrong. If I already had children then I wouldn't do it, however if I didn't then I would take the chance. I guess that puts me on the fence on this one. Good luck to all.

lisa says:

was also at the show when is it airing?

cffutah says:

I've seen how my cousin is a little slower as my uncle and aunt had a surprise child and they were healthy. Just makes things a little harder but I sure feel that you can have babies over 40 and I found this lens very educational, wish all mom's over 40 having babies well being!

No - many over 40 moms have perfectly healthy babies.

Ronetta Jessop says:

No

spelaspela says:

I gave birth to a daughter when I was 20, I gave birth to a son when I was 40, now I'm old 42, my daughter is 22years old and my son is 2 years old, I am incredibly happy and I never thought that I was too old or too young:)

Aquavel says:

The world is not what it was years ago. Many, many women who are over 40 have healthy babies. People are healthier and living longer than ever before. ~ I used to think middle age was at 40 but now I'm sure it doesn't even begin until after 50. ;)

Holly says:

I had given up the thought of getting pregnant since age 27 & being diagnosed with Hashimoto's Thyroiditis. Miracles do happen & here I am almost 41 & 6 weeks pregnant. I do not look my age & don't feel old at all so... It's different for everyone.

karirm says:

I'm 43 and pregnant with a healthy baby ... Always risk no matter the age!

 
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The story of my labor

I needed my mommy!

Two weeks before my baby was to be born, my doctor advised me that I should be induced, and wanted to send me straight to the hospital that day, which was a Monday. Since I wanted to see if the baby would just come on her own, he said we could wait only until Thursday night, and he would have to insert a tampon-like suppository into the vagina, since my cervix was not favorable (meaning it was not fully dilated).

This is called a prostaglandin gel or suppository. I looked into this after feeling that I dropped the ball on the prenatal genetic screening. If the gel doesn't work, in order to further induce pregnancy, the doctor would break your water or use Pitocin, which is an artificial hormone. Thank God the suppository worked on me, because my last encounter with Pitocin was not pleasant.

I was also not ready for what the prostaglandin would do to me. Three hours after the insertion, contractions came hard and fast, one right on top of the other, for about 8 hours. At that point, I was still only two cm dilated. Then, the doctor gave me the epidural I was begging for (I didn't have one with my first baby, but the contractions were nothing like this!). As soon as the epidural was performed, I jumped to 7 cm.

From there, it was about 2 hours before I was fully dilated and the baby would finally arrive. During that time, I had a hard time breathing and I was spent from the overlapping contractions. I was asking for my mommy, so my husband called her and she had the great joy of seeing one of her grandchildren born for the first time, Camille being her 10th grandchild, who was just perfect!
Important!

My Advice to Older Moms:

Get prepared for the birth mentally and physically. Read everything you can about pregnancy and birth. Take birthing classes. Even if you've been through this before, your body is not the same as it used to be. It is older and it has ways of letting you know!
Important!

DR. OZ SHOW FEATURED PREGNANT OVER 40 MOMS AND MORE...

Dr. Oz discussed Moms having babies over 40 and fertility/infertility issues on his show in December 2011.

So, I was on the secondary panel as part of the Dr. Oz Show, but I was not asked to speak. In any case, it was an honor to be a part of the audience that sits on the stage. What an eye-opening experience!

My Other "Over 40" Lenses

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Resources for Us "Older" Moms

Support for Moms Over 40

In Season Mom
Support for first time moms over 35 and 40.
Flower Power Mom
The truth about Motherhood after 40, Celebrate Motherhood Over 40
Pregnancy after 45-years-old
An encouraging site for older parents and all those who are trying to conceive after the age of 40, or who are pregnant over 40, with information on enhancing fertility naturally, a penpals’ facility, articles and shopping links.

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  • RetroMom Sep 30, 2011 @ 8:42 am | delete
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  • bercton Sep 20, 2011 @ 12:26 pm | delete
    Great and informative lens!
  • SereneSea Sep 19, 2011 @ 11:40 am | delete
    Well, if it is first time pregnant, it is better before 30; but with all the technological advancement of medical science, I think women will start becoming first time pregnant even at 50.
  • whiteskyline Sep 13, 2011 @ 3:34 pm | delete
    I wonder if the statistics are improving, being 40 is the new 30, it would make huge difference for women in labor over 40 to be told something really reassuring.
  • Runnn Sep 7, 2011 @ 6:37 am | delete
    Wow pregnant at the age is very tough. That's why I respect women!!
  • alwaysjules Sep 5, 2011 @ 7:48 pm | delete
    What a terrific lens, and it is terrific for pregnant women of any age. I also loved reading about needing your mom. I felt the same way! This is a really informative lens, and the personal glimpses into your life made it a very endearing read. Thank you for your courage, and isn't motherhood AWESOME! :)
  • aj2008 Aug 14, 2011 @ 3:30 am | delete
    Geriatric pregnancy is how I felt I was being viewed by my Doctor, when I had babies aged 42 and 44. Fortunately I had a very supportive Midwife and we agreed I would have my babies at home - so that I would not feel like a Lab rat as the Doctors wired me up to every machine possible during labour.

    I'd had two babies previously and once tests were done to ensure that baby and me were fit and healthy, those two home births were just as good as it could get.

    Sending warm wishes for you and your baby.
  • LissaKlar Sep 6, 2011 @ 2:35 pm | delete
    Mature mom, geriatric mom, yes that's what I feel like sometimes when I go to do things with my almost-two-year-old that I can't do now but could do perfectly well with my other daughter 10 years prior.
  • happynutritionist Aug 9, 2011 @ 10:08 am | delete
    I hope you are doing well with your pregnancy. I had my children at 29 and 31, which was later than many of my friends, that was 28 and 30 years ago. Some tests here are the same as they were, some new. Both of mine were born C-Section. I think the thing that felt most uncomfortable to read is that you can choose to terminate a pregnancy if tests come back that their's down syndrome, etc., at about 6 months...that is a completely developed child. That is a personal choice that I wish didn't exist. JMHO:-) I do wish you the best with your pregnancy, I loved being pregnant and miss those years that seem like yesterday but were so long ago. Enjoy!
  • terrapin719 Aug 8, 2011 @ 1:07 am | delete
    This lens is very well done and full of great information! ~*~*~*I strayed a little from my Needlework Neighborhood and left a little angel dust here because it was well deserving!*~*~* <3
  • Jun 27, 2011 @ 8:03 am | delete
    The number of females getting pregnant at 40 is steadily rising. The simple truth is women are in college as well as finding their place in the working society when in their 20s. Before we know it, the women will be in their 30s and just starting to find the right man.Needless to say, as the ladies get older, the race against the biological clock accentuate.
    CRGH
  • writywrite Apr 3, 2011 @ 1:45 am | delete
    intresting lens well done, thanks for sharing..
  • ryanita Mar 14, 2011 @ 1:10 pm | delete
    ooh it's very informatif lens thank's for your share

    ryanita
  • globedancer Mar 2, 2011 @ 1:19 am | delete
    Congratulations on your baby! I am certain that not only the 40+ moms will benefit from this lens but all soon-to-be-moms.
  • capriliz Feb 27, 2011 @ 9:57 am | delete
    I am so glad you wrote this lens. So many women are deciding to have children when they are older. And there are so many advantages in doing so. I was 38 when my daughter was born and the entire pregnancy was very different from my sons who were born when I was very much younger.
  • Tipi Feb 26, 2011 @ 10:45 am | delete
    I love that you share your story here...and the final results were: A Beautiful Baby Girl!!!!
  • hayleylou Feb 23, 2011 @ 3:58 pm | delete
    **Blessed** by Pregnancy Squidoo Angel and featured on Squidoo Angel for Pregnancy lens
  • scar4 Feb 17, 2011 @ 8:43 pm | delete
    It's not so easy for wowen to become pregnant over 40 and have healthy babies, fingers crossed for all mum-to-be!
  • RickBasset Feb 15, 2011 @ 9:48 am | delete
    My Wife had our Boys at 38 and 40 and both were uncomplicated pregnancies (easy for me to say!) I think that Women having babies in later years has become the norm rather than the exception these days. Great work on your lens!
  • Nenkai Feb 14, 2011 @ 9:20 pm | delete
    I'm an older mom, too. My 3rd came when i was 42. Quite the journey. I couldn't love a person more, no matter how tired I get! Or how many times I fail 2nd grade math!!!!
  • partybuzz Feb 9, 2011 @ 8:36 am | delete
    This is a very helpful lens. My daughter-in-law is 41 and contemplating another child.
  • LauraMarie Feb 8, 2011 @ 5:20 pm | delete
    Great lens!! Women are definately having babies much later now.
  • sandyspider Feb 8, 2011 @ 1:08 pm | delete
    Wonderful lens. So many women are having babies at a later age. I will lensroll this into my Pregnant Over 40? lens.
  • wawancash Feb 7, 2011 @ 10:29 pm | delete
    nice lens
  • tiff0315 Feb 3, 2011 @ 11:55 pm | delete
    Thank you for the information! I just experienced the non-stress-test not too long ago and I was wondering the same things!
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:32 am | delete
    Yes, it can be scary and intimidating! Good luck to you.
  • thrivingmom Jan 24, 2011 @ 8:58 pm | delete
    My third baby was a high risk pregnancy and I was only 33. My sister in law is 39 and about to have her second and she's been doing fine. Some women have less problems with their pregnancies in their 40's than other ladies have in their 20's. It's more important to be ready emotionally to be a good mom than it is to be pregnant when society thinks you're young enough to have babies.
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:33 am | delete
    I agree:) Thank you for your input.
  • Mujjen Jan 22, 2011 @ 5:34 pm | delete
    Also had my baby when over 40, all went well! Nice lens!
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:34 am | delete
    Congratulations! Thankfully, everything went well with mine also.
  • mysticmama Jan 18, 2011 @ 4:05 pm | delete
    My Mom had my youngest brother when she was 41, I was 18 at the time & we were pregnant together, which was very interesting lol...my son was born 3 months before my little brother, so the family joke is that Travis is older than his uncle lol :)
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:35 am | delete
    I love hearing stories from the older siblings. It makes me feel like everything will turn out ok for us. Thanks for sharing!
  • GonnaFly Jan 18, 2011 @ 12:39 am | delete
    Just recently I was talking to a grandmother of a downs syndrome girl who said that some doctors are saying that age is not really a factor since many downs syndrome babies are born to young women. Interesting. Congratulations on your baby!
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:35 am | delete
    That is interesting - I didn't know that. Thanks:)
  • tssfacts Jan 17, 2011 @ 1:54 pm | delete
    Well done. Couldn't have said it better (retired surgical and OBGYN RN). You stated the information so that it was easy to read for a non-medical person. Great job.
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:36 am | delete
    Thanks for visiting here and leaving input:)
  • Blessedmombygrace Jan 15, 2011 @ 3:16 pm | delete
    Great lens. I have had 4 babies in my 40's. Now I am 47 w/ a 5 month old.
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:36 am | delete
    Ain't life grand!! I love my baby - I couldn't live without her! Congratulations!!
  • hayleylou Jan 13, 2011 @ 2:52 am | delete
    Congrats :)
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:37 am | delete
    Thank you - thanks for visiting:)
  • skiesgreen Jan 10, 2011 @ 10:51 pm | delete
    Great lens and wonderful story. Three of my grandsons were born to older women, one was actually 44 and the other 42 the third was 39. All arrived with no troubles and very few dramas. They are very healthy little boys and yours will be too. Featuring this on What Do Genes Do and top marks
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:37 am | delete
    Thank you for visiting and leaving those comforting remarks. I'm honored you would include my lens. Many thanks!
  • javrsmith Jan 8, 2011 @ 7:39 am | delete
    Congratulations! I'm very happy for you!
  • LissaKlar Feb 8, 2011 @ 11:38 am | delete
    Thanks for visiting!
  • BigGirlBlue Jan 2, 2011 @ 2:32 am | delete
    I always thought I would be younger and I'm amazed how the thinking has changed for 40+ new moms. It's great if you can do it.
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About LissaKlar

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Camille was born Oct 23, 2009

Since the countdown used to be for my due date and that has passed, it is now my baby's birthday. My bundle of joy will be two in October.

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