Proactive Parenting: Stopping a Tantrum before it Starts

Tip #1: Don't let the child get bored: A temper tantrum can simply be an over-reaction to boredom or lack of attention. If you keep your child busy and occupied, a tantrum will be less likely to occur. Simple games or conversation can help; whether you are going to a restaurant or shopping for metal wall planters, take along some games, coloring books or toys and engage your child in whatever is going on. For example, in a restaurant, you could stroll out to the lobby after ordering and make a game out of naming objects in the room that start with the same letter as your little one's name.

Tip #2: Healthy snacks and treats: It's a good idea to have some healthy snacks with you at all times. Sometimes, when children are bored they interpret their boredom as hunger and having a snack to offer might be helpful. Choose from easy-to-carry snacks like raisins and dried fruit, pretzels, cereal or popcorn that are appropriate for the child's age.

Tip #3: Provide choices: Having choices will make a child feel like he has more control and it can help avoid an unpleasant confrontation. For example, instead of saying "It's time to take your bath", you can ask, "Would you like bath crayons or bubble bath in your bath tonight?" This will take the child's mind off the bath and on the fun choice. If you present the choices before the child has a chance to make an inappropriate demand, things will go more smoothly. For instance, if you offer the choice of a sweater or sweatshirt on a winter's morning, she won't have the option of picking a sleeveless tank top to wear.

Tip #4: Choose age-appropriate socialization: While you want to socialize your child by exposing them to different social situations, be reasonable. A quiet restaurant that caters to adults and fine dining is not a great choice for a small child; choose a more family or child-oriented restaurant or get a sitter. Don't expect a toddler to sit through a movie or art gallery showing of abstract wall art if there is nothing there to keep his interest.

Tip #5: Maintain a routine and be reasonable: Keeping a daily routine will eliminate unpleasant surprises that may make a child feel uneasy. Knowing what is expected and consistency in meal times, bed times, play time and interacting with parents and siblings will go a long way in keeping a child contented. When you do vary from your routine, be reasonable and don't expect too much of a young child. A four-hour car trip is too much without a break and activities to keep your child busy.