Every boy is hardwired to desire the following three things.
1)What are the rules? Boy need and crave structure
2)Who is in charge?
3)Who is going to enforce the rules?

Boys want and need these three things in families. Gangs are a good example of boys trying to be men. They have unknowingly created the above three rules within every gang's structure.

Boys love permissiveness when it comes to structure however, they will struggle internally and often create their own pseudo structures that are often negative.

Why is it that boys create pecking orders when playing on the school yard? Pecking order in the masculine gender is a form of structure. It certainly is not fun being the bottom of the totem pole or the last to be chosen in a game. So as you can see, boys will naturally create structure in all boy relationships without any training.

After the age of 8-9 yrs of age every boy needs a Father to step up and be the man of his life. Teach him a work ethic by working with him. Teach him to love the creation and women, but in healthy ways. Teach him that men have hearts; and women love men who have hearts. Teach him to defend himself, for one day he will have to stand against evil. Teach him to love God in a masculine way. Tell him he is good enough, often. Love him without condition.

Do these things and it is doubtful you will ever see passivity dominate this future man's life. What you will likely see is a man who will make a difference in this world. The world needs more men like this.