What makes you happy? How do you want to look? And what kind of relationship do you want to be in?
Visualize yourself in each of these situations and paint the picture of your next moment. Think about these snapshots as much as you can, everyday. I know, our third grade teacher told us to stop 'daydreaming' in class, but what you may not realize is that those dreams shaped much of our future. Daydreams feel good to us.....they are comfortable and fun. But let's turn our escapism into something constructive. Let's turn those fantasies into realities. You don't have to wander off inside your head and neglect your responsibilities, but when you picture yourself, which we do dozens of times a day, think of the "you" you want to be. Choosing an image of yourself and seeing your life in a different light will begin to change your future. Your body, your world, and your attitudes toward yourself will be how you want them. Tell yourself "I'm beautiful" and visualize how you want to look. Tell yourself "I'm great" and picture yourself as great. Tell yourself "I know that I can do anything" and visualize what you want to do and what you want to be.
Your reality will change accordingly. You are in control of which way your life will turn. That's the real beauty of being human. We have the power of creation.

Hi! My name is Colin.

I have given over 2000 life changing 1 on 1 consultations in 15 years. I have a unique ability to intuitively feel and understand a number of complex situations that we go through everyday. Now I want to bring my unique set of beliefs to you.....to help you understand how you can turn any problem into an opportunity by changing the way we comprehend our realities. You can be anything or anyone you want to be. Let me show you how just a single thought can plant the seed of creation and set in motion a new existence full of opportunities and fulfilled dreams!

Change your core beliefs.....and change your relationships, opportunities, self esteem and life!

Write me today:

Colin Martin
rockstar@winning.com
757.839.0585

Colin with psychic Willow Sibert (L) and Dr. Iris Bell.

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When I was a child, my Mother always encouraged me to be creative. She had an underlying belief that art was a tangible object that we could see, hear and touch, but came about just from the imagination. When I was ten years old, she signed me up for guitar lessons. I was a little nervous at first, but when I played my first concert in front of friends and family, I was amazed that when picked the strings you could hear a song. That song had an effect on those around me and you could almost see the notes in the air. They would hang there for just a moment, and then fade softly away. And there was not a dry eye in the house! When I was a little older, I began to make films. Using what I visualized in my mind I was able to rely on the energies surrounding me: Light, chemicals, and my imagination, to create a tangible cinematic masterpiece that moved people to action, brought about emotions, and was captured for all to see. In my late teens I became a glassblower. Using only heat, glass, and my creativity I made sparkling works of art. My glass pieces touched many hearts around the world, became keepsake items with a little part of myself in each one, and rewarded me and my family financially as well. Now, besides being a speaker and author, I love to design websites. There is nothing more beautifully simple than using my imagination, some electrons, and electricity to create powerful and entertaining media presentations that inform, enlighten, and drive modern day commerce. What a fantastic world we live in! When it comes to our imaginations and the free energy around us, the possibilities of creating masterpieces are endless!

But I want you to think of another art form, created only with our minds and the energies around us: Opportunities.

The Earth is surrounded by energy. Creative energy. Each one of us are so powerful that we can light a city block with just our thoughts. With such an abundance of free and open energy, all we need is our imaginations to create any tangible work of art we can conceive of. Relationships, job opportunities, health, and countless other possibilities at our fingertips. All we need is to see it in our mind's eye. What kind of career would you love to have? Visualize it and make it your painting. How much money do you want to make? Visualize it and make it your song. Who would you love to meet and fall in love with? Visualize it and make her your sculpture. Health issues? Art. Wise choices? Art. Happiness? Art, art, art.

We create art everyday just because we know that we can. It is therapeutic and liberating. It defines our culture and when we are gone, individually or collectively, our art will define who we were. Create your next moment of reality because you know that you can. Leave a legacy of you behind when you are finished with this world. You can have anything in the Universe that you desire now....today. Feel the energies in each of us. Connect with your fellow man and use the energies that they are giving us. Feel the power of the Universe and pull that energy within you. Visualize what your next masterpiece will be. Create opportunities as works of art and let the world see and enjoy them. When they do, the doors to the kingdom will open, and you will step right through. Nothing is beyond your imagination. The energy of the Universe is free. What are you waiting for?

"Knowing is the most profound kind of love;
giving someone the gift of knowledge about yourself."
- Marsha Norman

While we are hard at work becoming more improved individuals, our relationships will improve only when we actually share who we are with our partners. Two souls in love will hunger for the knowledge of each other. Everyone knows that trust is very important in a love relationship, but the trust we expect when revealing our darkest secrets to our partner is unprecedented. It is very difficult to bestow that kind of trust on anyone. It is an important step that has to happen for love to take hold. Realizing that you can tell your lover anything about yourself is liberating and attractive and that's the kind of trust that makes you feel safe and wanted. Each one of us is special and unique with precious experiences that makes us a whole being. Share those feelings with your partner. Explain your beliefs and your values with your partner. Share with them all the things that make up the individual you are: your strengths, your weaknesses, your dreams and your fears. Tell them about your childhood and your spiritual beliefs......share your one deepest secret with your lover that you have never shared with anyone before. If this is a little uncomfortable for you or your partner then there is a reason why.......Fear.

It is a natural human condition that love creates fear. Fear of being hurt and the fear of commitment are strong, but the fear of letting someone in who will know all about us is the strongest. We know that we cannot hide who we are from our lovers in a successful relationship. Our lives are made up of moments that are like puzzle pieces that fit together just perfectly to make up the big picture of who we are. If we hope to be known and accepted by our partners, we have to show them the entire portrait of ourselves. When you make that choice, they will see all the pieces of you. There is no hiding it. Whether good or bad, this is who we are. For true love to exist we have to let go of our fears and self judgments. Every piece of your life's puzzle is a beautiful and cherished moment that you should have no fear in revealing to your partner and they should have no fear revealing themselves to you. Share with your lover the truths of who you are. Let go of the fear. Be yourself. And you will be loved.

When two souls fall in love, they know everything about each other. It's our human side that wants to hide things from our partners. We want to look as perfect to them as we can. We believe that sharing too much will drive our lovers away or scare them off. It's not fair to our relationships to try and keep secrets from our partners that our souls already know about each other. Where is the trust in that? You can't believe that you will be judged negatively by your partner if they are the one for you. If you believe that your partner is so blind and stupid as to never see the real you, your relationship will head for a quick demise. When you meet your soulmate, there will be nowhere to hide. Ironically, we fear judgment by our lovers, but it's somehow OK to judge ourselves as negative or bad. Good or bad is your own perspective........your lover will see something different. You have to unconditionally trust your partner and reveal the entire picture of you to them. Knowing is the most profound kind of love.

You are beautiful. You are precious. Every little piece of your life fits perfectly together. Be the best that you can be and you will proudly stand up to reveal yourself to your lover, your friends, and the world. The picture of you is like no other. It is unique and you will embrace it. Sharing yourself with your partner is the greatest gift of love and respect and trust that you can give. And put that credit card away.......this gift is free.

Are you using your relationships to avoid dealing with your own issues?

Meeting and falling in love with someone close to you is one of mankind's greatest joys. The connections we make with a love interest teach us so much about ourselves, inside and out. There is the chance for self discovery that we are rarely afforded. The gift of uninhibited expression doesn't come along very often, yet just how much are we really looking at ourselves when given the chance? Sometimes, we use getting close to someone as an excuse to patch up holes in our own lives. How often have you involved yourself in a relationship to gain the love and attention that may have been neglected when you grew up? This is a very common human condition that we all have experienced.......that we want a partner to complete us and show us love that we have a hard time expressing towards ourselves. How much stronger could your relationship be if you had already went into it loving yourself as much as you seek the love and approval of another?

Love needs to be a two way street of approval and respect. But not just the two way street we always hear of...... you give to them and they give back to us. The two ways I'm talking about is your ability to give to your partner, and the ability to give to yourself. Can you love yourself as much as you are expecting your partner to love you? When we discover just how delicate and precious each one of us are, think how easy it becomes to share yourself completely with your lover. Too many of us, though, use relationships as a crutch. We yearn for the attention that we may not have had growing up, but using our relationships to fill a void puts an undue strain on the union. Relationships are very delicately balanced and end way too easy when the pressure of "void filling" comes to the forefront. Your partner is not a Band Aid, psychiatrist, or drug, meant to make us feel better about ourselves......that is our responsibility. If we are in need of issue cleansing our lover is not the one who should be doing it. How much can you really give to someone else when you can't seem to give everything to yourself first?

Needy is not attractive. Neither is wondering if you are going to get everything you need out of your relationships. There should not be anything you really "need" to get from someone else, especially if that someone is willing to share themselves with you. Offering to share themselves with you is a gift. Are you the kind of person that when offered a piece of cake, eats the slice, then eats the whole rest of the cake when the host is not looking, just because you are still hungry? The hunger for love and attention not given to us by our friends, parents, and ex lovers is very hard to satiate. It's not fair to ask that of a new partner. It looks needy and dependant. Somehow.....someway, it is very important that we show ourselves the love, attention and respect that we need before entering a relationship. If we can't fill our own bellies and fix our own holes in our souls then no one can do that for us.

If you take the time to really think about it, there are so many people who love us. Think about all the friends, lovers and family members that have come and gone in our lives that showed us love. And better yet.......think of how great you really are. Feel the freedom to look closely at yourself and love every part of you. You can't love anyone else until you love yourself first. Practicing loving yourself is the best way to learn to love another and the relationship will be made up of two people with self respect. Understanding why you make relationship choices will free your soul to make better choices in the future. Relationships are not something you take from, for any reason. You have to get beyond the regrets and seemingly empty promises of the past, stop putting expectations on your future, and live and love for the moment. When you enter into a love relationship, give your new partner the freedom to express their love for you without taking it from them. We want our partners to be whole and happy people, so the place to start the loving begins with yourself. This moment is not your past. This moment is not the expectant future. This moment is right now. And right now is the most beautiful and perfect place you can be. Feel this moment right now. Deep down, you love yourself like no other has loved you. You'll never run from yourself when things are just going good, would you? Sometimes, when all we have is us, know that there is no better place we can be at this moment. Love yourself and give love to your partner. That is the liberating freedom we all have to create our two way street.

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You have nothing to feel sorry for....

Growing up, we all learn that forgiving others helps us find peace within ourselves. But how often do we really forgive ourselves? The makeup of our lives have everything to do with how much guilt we carry around. When you think about how you make decisions about critical choices in your life, you'll see that your level of guilt drives your decisions more than any other factor. Are you nice to your neighbors because it is the right thing to do, or are you scared of how guilty you will feel if you treat them badly? Do you spoil your children because you want to "make up" for something you think you did wrong even if the spoiling is detrimental to their behavior? Right and wrong is a perspective. ....everyone has a different opinion on the matter. Right or wrong choices happen in an instant......sometimes completely beyond your control. Does that mean you cast guilt upon yourself like a life sentence? Never really making choices for yourself, but succumbing to the dark cloud over your head that you put there? Think about how clearer your decisions would be if the guilt you carried around with you was no longer a factor.

All guilt is artificial. It is made up in your own head. Even when others have forgiven you, you have trouble forgiving yourself. We tend to hide the guilt away in dark places where most of our friends and lovers will never see it. But we are hiding nothing. It comes to the forefront in every move we make....every decision we make. As real as guilt seems to us, it is an illusion. It can be discarded like an old shoe if we really wanted to. Guilty feelings happen everyday. Without proper soul cleansing it builds and builds to a point of spiritual dysfunction. Even if things are your fault, do you need to punish yourself to the point where you make terrible decisions not based in knowledge or happiness, but just a quick fix to make yourself feel better? The guilt within you needs to be eliminated, not given a daily Band-Aid of worthless niceties to cover up what you believe others can't see. Why is so important that you harbor guilt even if it makes you miserable?

It's not the guilt that keeps us in check. Its guideposts are an illusion. Guilt is like a cancer that festers in our soul.......keeping us from feeling powerful and beautiful. Unchecked and untreated it will destroy us. And it's only in YOUR head.....no one else is casting that guilt in our direction. Others try to make you feel guilty when they are angry at you, but often it is a sign of their own wrongdoing and way to shed their own guilt onto someone else. The circle goes on and on. Only you can put a stop to it. Artificial guilt is not a proper measuring post of how you treat someone. The lessons learned from your mistakes are the only factors that you need to make the clear choices ahead of you. Knowledge is the guiding light in your life, not the dark chaos of guilt. Individuals that are free of artificial guilt can make their decisions based on the lessons learned, give their opinions without bias, express happiness and growth without shame, and love others based on freedom of choice.

If you are full of guilt, you are not doing the world any favors. The world needs you to be free, happy, and inspired. All of us out here want you to treat us with respect and kindness because we have earned it. Not because you cannot fully express your feelings without self castigation. The world needs you to feel good inside. Not a lifetime of hurting. Find your way towards inner peace by forgiving yourself first. Forgiving others when you can't forgive yourself is not doing anyone any good. It is not genuine. It means that you don't understand what real forgiveness is. Being happy will always be an exercise in futility. We don't need that. We want you to be beautiful. It lights our world. Go ahead and forgive yourself.......you have nothing to feel sorry for.

An important aspect of being in a relationship is the ability to be part of a team.

Anyone who has ever been married or been involved in a long term relationship knows what being a team player is like. Big decisions are understandably made together when things such as money, kids, or emotions are involved....objects of importance that both parties have put into the mix. But often, even the most trivial of decisions are made between the couple and it feels quite natural to do so. It feels this way because we all want to be part of something greater than ourselves. It brings a sense of accomplishment and power and comfort to know that we are not always alone in our lives, dealing with the pressures of everyday living.

We experience this in other ways as well: the football team you played on when you were a kid, the family unit we grow up in, and even the corporate businesses we work for all give us a feeling of importance and the feeling of being accepted by others.

1+1= something alot bigger than 2.

In a relationship we are never just two persons. The sum of two people in love is something almost untouchable, where almost any situation can be dealt with easier and more quickly than it could all by ourselves. How is this possible? Our significant other is not necessarly smarter than you or I. We handle quite alot of issues on our own with good results, don't we?

The answer lies in the emotional power of the union of two souls....not just two brains. When we are in love with someone, that union of the souls creates a tangible force that we all can feel. We want to be part of someone else's universe. It's a sense of discovery, of safety, and of being the center of our lover's attention. Being in love, we create a reality quite different than we would create on our own. We've all been there..... the Us and Them mentality:

* Us against the wife's irritating boss at work
* Us against the bully picking on our kid
* Us against the neighbor's dog barking all night
* Us against the tax office, the bad drivers, the politicians, and the gas prices.
* Us against the world.

In your relationship, how good a team player are you? Do you still feel that sense of Us and Them? Over time, some relationships can start to feel the strain of too much togetherness. One partner or the other begins to feel that they are losing their identity. It's usually when you feel that you can no longer count on your partner to "be there for me" that most people see that their relationships may have problems. Of course, everyone needs their space, but i'm talking about when we no longer feel that sense of enormousy as a unit. With no longer a feeling of Us and Them, one or the other partner begins to take sides.....

The power of the union of souls is unwaivering. It is not a variable that moves up and down like the temperature. The problem lies in one of the partners not feeling whole within themselves. For the team to function properly, both partners have to be whole individuals.

1/2 + 1= problems.

There is a popular saying "there is no 'I' in the word team". But in a love relationship, in the union of souls, each "soul" has to be a complete, stable, and functioning entity. We have to enter into a willingly with our individuality intact. Love cannot work if we are half a person.....looking for love to fill a personal void. How can we keep our individuality complete and intact while being asked to give everything to the team?

It's easy...
....read on.....

As children, were are all taught that one of the most important things in life is to be an individual. To think, dream, and plan our life around our goals. After all, who knows us better than ourselves? Every thought we have is our own......no one elses. We create a reality all our own for us to exercise all the freedoms that we have to enjoy. Being an individual means that we take responsibility for every decision we make, whether good or bad. Deep inside, we all know this to be true. The greatest gift your life can give you is self realization and self worth. No one can ever take that from you.

individual - to be whole and undivided. to be a complete and perfect piece of a greater entity.

As I mentioned earlier, being a whole individual is what makes our dreams come true. It's when we feel complete within ourselves that it is easier to share our lives with others. It's OK to think about you, you, you. Be selfish for a change! The stronger an individual you are, the greater the impact on your relationships......and not just the romantic ones. In every relationship you have, people are counting on you to be whole, capable, happy, and dependable. Your friends and your lovers, your children, your neighbors...... your parents, your boss and even your employees......and most of all yourself, want and need you to be all that you can be. When we concern ourselves with our well being, everyone wins. We want to be happy. We need to be able to take care of ourselves. We should realize when we are in need of repair.

Think back to when we were children. Remember all the care free times? We played.....we dreamed.....the future was wide open. Often, we would envision what we would be like as adults. We saw ourselves as firemen and doctors, inventors and discoverers, space travelers and the President. We saw ourselves as superheroes. Being the best we could be. Happy, with the man or woman of our dreams.......having babies and living in cozy little houses. I know you remember. Why are children able to see the potential of everything they can be? Why as adults, do we have such a hard time realizing the exact same potential? How much of your childhood visions of yourself have held true? Are you who you thought you would be?

Each one of us is truly a superhero.

We can be the very best we can be. We have the ability to reach the stars. The key is being a whole individual. Physically, mentally, and spiritualy. You have to know that you are the most special person on Earth. Your self worth has to be in the forefront of your mind. There is a light that shines from the inside of your soul that is brighter than one million suns. It is a powerful force that nothing can extinguish. All of life's problems and stresses, unpaid bills and childhood traumas, may damage the ego but cannot touch the essence of who you are!

The superhero always wins.

Until you truly feel you are the superhero, entering into a love relationship will have it's issues. Is it clear to you what two whole, complete and perfect individuals in love can be like? That love can move mountains. You have to fill whatever void you may have in your soul before you can love another. Love yourself first. Make it a number one priority to find closure with your issues. Make it a priority to concern yourself with yourself first. We all have the responsibility to visualize ourselves being anything we want to be. Create for yourself a world of your dreams.....where anything is possible. Allow someone else in your world only when they deserve it and have earned it.

You are special. They have to earn it.

Make sure your potential mate is not half a person. You are not a hospital. The Love Boat was not a rescue ship. Love will have a hard time flourishing when you are pulling bucket loads of your life's essence to mend the holes in the soul of another. I may not know what love really is, but dependancy is what love is not.

Feel free to contact me for speaking events and seminars.

Colin Martin
rockstar@winning.com
757.839.0585

Let's break down negative core beliefs and open up our receptiveness to positive thinking! Thinking happy thoughts are not enough....you have to know deep down just how special and powerful your life is. Can you change the long standing beliefs about yourself and pave the way to realize that YOU are the higher power?

Absolutely!

I have delivered over 2000 personal, life changing consultations and I want to help you any way I can to see you live the life that's possible and live the life you deserve!

It's amazing what kinds of behavior we will put up with in the name of love. I get letters all the time from people asking me how to change their spouse's bad habits. From husbands collecting a pretty girl's cell phone number to wives who act haughty in clubs in front of other men, the list is endless. When tackling the questions as to why a spouse would behave with such disrespect to their significant other we have to again look in the mirror towards ourselves. What is inside of us that makes us put up with that kind of behavior? When someone asks the question: "Why would my husband treat me so badly?" the answer is "because he can." Because you let him.

The level of your self esteem is apparent to almost everyone you meet and especially so with someone you are close to. Your level of self esteem, how good you feel about yourself, is the one factor above many in how others are going to treat you. People with low self esteem are treated with limited respect and sometimes even taken advantage of. Often people with low self esteem can only gain personal power by stealing power from someone else they believe is "beneath" them and treating them with disrespect. It's a powerplay of sorts. Instead of looking within themselves for empowerment, they crush the feelings of ones they love to feel stronger about themselves. And the low self esteem partner lets him get away with it. Looking inside yourself can be daunting. Being mean is easy. As you can see, this is a recipe for disaster in a relationship.

Then why are so many partnerships rampant with disrespecting behavior? How do we put a stop to the bad habits? Once again, the responsibility is ours to change the situation. When we address our lack of self appreciation and feel more empowered the abuse will tend to stop. It's called standing up for yourself and believing you are great. Yet you ask, "But Colin, how can I feel good about myself when I am being treated like crap all the time?" I know how hard that is. What you feel about yourself is truly in your head and you transmit those feelings to others. You are the only one with the power to change how you feel about yourself. You are in complete control of what others think about you. If you believe you are strong and great, society will have to believe it as well. The feelings you transmit are all other people have to go on to make their judgments. To control what others think of you and to dictate how they are going to treat you, you have to control yourself.

When I was a child, my parents told me I had to stand up to the bullies in class to stop from being picked on. Good conversation and reasoning were not going to help. I had to make a powerplay. Of course I was scared, but when I told the bullies "no more", it worked. I found the strength to be me. I was only going to be treated how I wanted to be treated......nothing more.....period. But the powerplay I made to make this happen wasn't against the bullies, it was towards myself. The real bully was how I thought of myself......my low self esteem. I let my low self esteem push me around more than all the bullies in every year of school combined. My own thoughts of myself were the real enemy as it is with everyone. Any unfavorable situation you find yourself in is our responsibility to correct. Abuse happens when we refuse to go into our own heads and say "no more....I am better than this. I am a special person and I am not going to let myself think lowly of myself ever again."

You can make it stop. You have all the power in the universe to change how you are treated, change how others think of you, and change how you feel about yourself. I want you to go and look at yourself in the mirror. I want you to stand there and really look deep into your own eyes. I want you to see the soul deep inside and maybe for the first time, discover the real you behind all the stress and negativity. There is a special, powerful, and precious soul inside of each and every one of us......can you see it? It's that sparkle of light deep in your eyes. That sparkle is your soul. Your soul is the most beautiful, powerful, and wondrous entity in the Universe. Fueled by imagination and given strength through the power of creation, the soul is an unstoppable force of energy that you possess. Keep looking in the mirror.....keep looking......keep looking until you see it. Keep looking until you feel it. You will know the real you.......

When you have to ask about your spouse's bad behaviors, keep sending the letters.......I love to help. But address the letter to yourself and you'll make a powerful and worthwhile change in your life.

When we grew up, we were exposed to all sorts of examples of relationships and romantic ideals from television shows, movies and music. Media has a big effect on how we think our relationships should be like. The most pronounced of these ideals is the "one true love". We tend to believe that there is only one true love for us. This is a big disappointment to the people who have already believed that they have had the "one", only for that relationship to end in divorce or break up. Alot of these folks really think that their shot for eternal love is over, and now they must resort to settling with a new partner........ a comfortable companion, but who will never match up to their lost love.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Any one of us has the possibility to connect again with another soulmate. There is not just one soulmate for each of us, but the real chance to know another soul as intimately as we did our true love. A soulmate is a person that you connect with on a spiritual level. Another person whose soul touches yours. It is not a lottery or crapshoot that you touch the soul of another, but a choice you make to do so. Too many people believe that they are not in control of whom they fall in love with, but like leaves in the wind, just end up where they may. A soulmate is a person that on one hand you may have known before in another life and you may instantly recognize, or on the other, someone you choose to reach out spiritually to and get to know on that level. Anyone around us has the possibility of being a true love. I don't believe there is just one of anything that beautiful.

If we do believe that there is only one true love, then we run into the possibility of becoming obsessed with that individual. You may end up sacrificing any part of you to be with or hang on to this lover. As we have discussed before, obsession is not an ingredient of a strong relationship. There is nothing more uncomfortable than thinking that we could lose forever the one and only love we can experience in our lives. That would make me a nervous wreck and I would not fully enjoy my relationship. I would put pressure on myself to be the best I could be. I may sacrifice interests, hobbies, friends, and beliefs to make sure the relationship stayed on a smooth path. Being the best you can be must be a choice you make, not a fear to be otherwise. It is all about choices. We have endless choices for happiness as long as we know it is up to us, and not at the whim of chance. We have all the power to make ourselves into anything we want to be. We have choices to discover, get to know better, touch their soul and fall in love with another person. We can heal from bad relationships knowing full well that the world is wide open to us and that we have learned many lessons that give us the wisdom to find an even stronger relationship.

Believe that if you made the choice, anyone around you could be the "one" if only you gave them the chance. Remember this......99% of the time we are only judging potential partners on how they look, what car they drive, how much money they have, quirks that get on our nerves or any number of risky first impressions. Why is looking at the soul of another only count for 1%? It should be the FIRST thing you look at in a potential lover and let the three dimensional chips fall where they may. Again, even if you believe that you have met your "one and only", do they really believe that of you? Relationships are funny in that one partner typically loves the other more. It is not equal in its intensity. Be careful that your perspective isn't running away with your sensibilities, meaning that from your perspective you know you have found your soulmate, but from his perspective you are just the "comfortable companion". Most couples can't communicate good enough to make it clear to themselves which is which. They keep their feelings to themselves because they are content with the status quo.......until they are gone. You have all the choices. Make the choice to look at the soul of anyone that may be around you. Give potential mates a chance. Even if no one else will do it this way, know that you will rise above the fray and express your power and belief that you will be happy. You will no longer be in the dark. Make your power of choice the shining light that illuminates your world for all to see. Light the path for others and inherit your reality. Make sure that you are "The One"........

Your friends are alot closer to you than you think! I really cherish my friends, and some of them I am so close to that it sweeps me away with joy. How is it that I could have found in some of my friends a connection so tight that I feel as if I have known them before? How could seemingly total strangers become people that I love so dearly? In my line of beliefs, I know that I am closer than they may ever know. In Jane Robert's many books on this subject, Seth (an entity "no longer focused in this reality", whom Jane channels) tells us of Reincarnational Dramas.

Reincarnational Dramas are the acting out of our soul's wishes on Earth. Put more simply, we reincarnate over and over to experience all the wonderful feelings, emotions and behaviors that make us everything we can be here on Earth. But not only do we and everyone we know come back over and over again, we actually reincarnate together! Now how is that for closeness? Most of your closest friends and lovers that you share your life with, you have known many times before. Not only do tight circles of friends and lovers reincarnate together, whole cities, countries, and cultures reincarnate together as well. All of our souls already know each other in the above places. We are all interconnected together and the souls of each and every one of us is familiar and close. The real test is discovering those familiarities in our human selves here on Earth. It is such a wonderful feeling to know that your best friend and you have lived many lifetimes together, sharing a plethora of experiences and feelings. Go to your best friend, whom you care for so much, take their hand and look them deep in the eyes. Look very deeply into the windows of their soul and try to tell yourself that you haven't known them for hundreds, maybe thousands of lifetimes. There is no way you can deny it.

It is very important to our spiritual growth that our tight knit circle be with us as we go through our Reincarnational Dramas. There is strength in numbers when it comes to dealing with all of life's experiences. You are there for them as well. And each of us trade roles with each other for maximum learning effect:

*Who was once the Master has now become the Slave.

*Who was once the Enemy has now become the Friend.

*Who was once the Parents have now become the Children.

*Who was once the Female has now become the Male

and so on........

We will reincarnate together and fulfill our roles until we have learned, tasted, lived, and experienced all the Universe has to offer in the way of learning. The soul will yearn to learn...(cool.....I like that! lol). When we have tried every combination of interlocking roles to experience, then and only then will the soul be able to break free from the Wheel of Life and spend it's time in a state of eternal bliss. And your friends, co-workers, neighbors and countrymen have everything to do with this noble act. The next time you visit a friend for dinner or touch football or whatever.......think about how close you really are. Look at them as actors in your Reincarnational Drama Movie....where the sequels never end. To share something so important with each other and knowing that you are working as a team to reach the eternal Heavens makes your friends more special than anything you have ever known. As you lie awake on a Saturday night wondering where all your friends are and why no one has called you to go out, realize just how powerful your relationships with these people are..........and how you are never, ever really alone.

What really stops us from fulfilling our dreams?

What separates the people who know they want more out of life from those who have it all? It's as simple as believing in yourself. The concept of positive thinking is not a new one. I think deep down we all know that transmitting good thoughts will attract positive and promising situations in our lives. This is explained simply enough in many different belief systems such as the Law Of Attraction, The Seth Material, most major religeons and countless other lines of thought where an "instant kharma" effect takes place. Positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative. Sounds simple enough, right? It's just an easy thought process that is enriching, rewarding and does'nt cost a dime. So why is'nt everyone thinking this way? Why is'nt creating a positive reality for ourselves full of riches and opportunities "all the rage"? For some, thinking positive thoughts and believing in themselves can be next to impossible.

Why does it seem so difficult to think positive thoughts? Why is negativity so easy compared to positive thinking? The Law of Attraction states that positive thoughts expand energy attracting more positive influence from the Universe, and negative thoughts constrict energy reducing the flow of positive influence back to you. I believe that both positive and negative thoughts originate from the same part of the brain. Both take the same amount of energy to produce the desired results and outcomes. Heaven on Earth is a real place easily created with just a thought. It is just as easily created as the "Living Hell" that so many find themselves in everyday. Have you ever tried to make a miserable person happy? It is quite the task. Negative people make all the excuses in the world to hang desperately on to the negative thought process:

* "You don't know what it was like for me growing up"
* "No matter what I do or think, something bad always happens"
* "I always seem to make a bad choice, affecting my relationships, job opportunities, and personal growth"
* "You were just born happy......I'm not like that."
* "You are just lucky.......I'm not"
* "I used to be happy, but that person doesn't exist anymore"
* "How can I be happy after all that has happened?"
* "Easy for you to say.......you're not me."

Negative thinking people are in no hurry to change their thought process anymore quickly than positive people want to be miserable.

Who in the world wants to feel the hurt, guilt, and depression of a "Living Hell"? I know I don't. But for some, it is a comfort zone. Negativity is a valid and viable emotional thought process that is equal in its power to positive thinking and its need to be expressed. The Universe is made up of light and dark, yin and yang, up and down, back and forth, negative and positive. It is perfectly and completely balanced. On an atomic level, negative and positive ions are the perfectly balanced building blocks of life and matter. They attract each other for a mutual gain. Negativity is a valid expression of thought. And negative people are expressing an important and valid emotional process that they have to experience to be balanced. Not just balanced within themselves, but balanced with all the positive expressing people they share this Universe with. If everyone all thought the same way, how would we realize how precious and needed our own thinking would be? More easily put, how would we appreciate all the good things if there were no bad things to compare it to?

In our enlightened, yet desperate attempts to spread the word of positive thinking, reality creation, and attracting happiness, we need to understand our whole selves. There is no right or wrong thinking.......we are just expressing whichever thought process that we have to in this life, at this moment, and in this incarnation to be balanced. Our soul has to experience every aspect of the human condition to be whole and complete. Opposite energies create the precious opportunities to appreciate all that the Universe has to offer. Negative thought need not be changed, but embraced. All thoughts, good or bad, are equally powerful and need to be experienced for completeness of soul. Negative people are attracting negative energy to themselves, it's true. But when the pendulum swings on it's own to the other side, which it always does, the same people will have new experiences to learn, to live, and to complete their "Earthly duties." Their souls will be more complete and make our Universal awareness and appreciation that much sweeter. Embrace whichever thought process you are experiencing in the Now, revel in the power of reality creation, and paint your next moment of where you need to go to make your life complete and perfect!

You have been given the gift of creation. Each new thought creates the next moment you step into. Your earthly existence is made up of blank pages or better yet, undeveloped individual frames of a movie of your life. When you picture the next step in your reality, imagine a concept, make a choice, or dream of what could be, you have created the snapshot of the next second of your life. We do this thousands of times a day without even realizing it. We are unwitting directors of our life's cinematic masterpieces. At the end of our lives, we will have created a film of our existence that the whole world can easily watch and appreciate. This is our legacy and this is how we connect to our fellow men. This epic is precious, unique and cannot be repeated. Direct your film however you see fit and reveal your one-of-a-kind box office hit to the Universe for all to see and learn from. With each one of us creating our next moments of reality together, we have created a universal staging area where all this takes place. We call this area Earth.

I like to call the Earth the "Soul's Playground". On a Heavenly scale, we have all agreed to come together and create this place to express our dreams, exercise our creative energies, act out our reincarnational dramas, and live, work and play with our fellow man. There is no more beautiful of a place in the Universe. It is mind boggling to realize the billions of realities being created every second and how delicately they all intertwine with another. Considering the complexity, it is a wonder how it all stays so perfectly simple. So simple in fact, that most of us do not even see the universal workings in action. It is a behind the scenes power that gives us all the freedoms and choices that we need to be complete in our souls. But why exactly is this whole process important? Why are we trying to recreate the perfection and simplicity of Heaven here on this Earth when Heaven already exists? We are always in connection to Heaven and our souls already reside there in harmony with everything in the Universe, so why bother to create?

The answer is because we have to. Our Earthly counterparts, or incarnations, are how our souls express themselves. Just as it is important and automatic that we create our realities here on Earth, our souls are expressing a part of themselves as well from above. The soul creates the Earthly body so it can love, play, hurt, and feel and express every experience and emotion that it has to to be complete and balanced. Our souls as a collective create our existence and we in turn create our realities in that existence to keep the whole energy flowing in a full circle. Heaven only exists because we believe it and create it. Without our beliefs in Heaven, there would be no Heaven for our souls to reside. So powerful and important is your ability of creation that your own soul cannot exist without you, and you cannot exist without your soul. It is a symbiotic relationship on a Universal level.

"As Above, So Below" is also read as "As Below, So Above". Our playground called Earth is the place, just like in Heaven, where all creation takes place. We cannot live in one without the other. Our souls need us to believe in them and in Heaven. And if only one person believed that Heaven exists, it would be enough to keep the whole thing going. It is a perfect circle of belief creationism. A direct line to the mind of God. Reality creation doesn't mean creating your reality just on Earth, but creating the Universe and Heaven as well. How deep is your belief system really? Will you be the one called upon to keep the whole circle going? Can you be strong enough to support the belief in Heaven and Earth all by yourself if you had to? I know that you would.......it is your calling. It's easy. This is why you are here.......