Reasons Why A Woman Cheats In The Marriage

There are more women cheating in a marriage than statically calculated and that is because woman cheat differently than men and the men that woman are cheating with are less likely to blow their cover.

If the woman can keep her emotions in check with the man that she is having the affair with, he will most likely not pressure her to get out of the marriage or cause a problem in the marriage for her. Women are capable of this type of relationship, but typically when this happens she will also begin to emotionally leave the marriage as well. A man can have an affair for the sole purpose of having sex, where as some woman might be able to do that, but normally a woman is more at risk for getting emotionally involved. Men are much better at placing their feeling aside and getting on with their day, whereas a woman will allow her emotions to take over and the relationship she is having outside the marriage can eventually consume her thoughts.

The other problem that takes place when a woman is having an affair is that she will emotionally leave her marriage while in it, meaning that she is capable of ending the marriage in her mind while still in the marriage. With this in mind when a man does finally take notice that his wife has become distant and aloof and then suggests marriage counseling nine times out of ten it will be too late to save the marriage.

When a woman cheats in a marriage it is typically much more devastating on the marriage than when a man cheats because of the emotional attachment.

There are five main reasons why a woman will cheat in a marriage.

1. She is lonely:

This woman may be married to a man who travels frequently for work, or in the military. He may also be just a man that is not emotionally available and unemotional in the marriage. The wife feels all alone and will look for someone who she can connect with on an emotional level. Eventually this may lead to a sexual affair, but even without the sex the emotional cheating has already begun.

2. She is not longer attracted to her spouse or never was:

This is a woman who probably has an active sex drive and needs to find enjoyment outside of the marriage. She could have possibly married her husband for money and not for love and has gotten board with the relationship and is looking to have a little fun. This type of cheating is most likely less emotionally involved and more about the excitement and sexual pleasure. This type of cheating is not one that is going to end a marriage and she may have numerous affairs through the life of the marriage. This type of woman is crafty and capable of emotionally shutting down when she needs to and unless caught will continue to casually cheat.

3. Her husband puts her down:

This is a woman who has been beaten down by her husband; he may be controlling over her or overly critical of her. If this woman worked outside the house she may look for a man that can save her, and she could actually be prey to another controlling man if she does not deal with her insecurity issues and problems at home. This can be a very bad situation when children are involved.

4. The woman who needs to escape:

This may be a woman who is over whelmed with her life, too much responsibility, kids, home, husband, work, no time to herself, always giving and not getting in return. She may look to another man for distraction from her life, a way to slip out of reality and into a fantasy world. This could involve chatting on the computer, intimate phone calls and last minute get aways. This can be both an emotional; and sexual type of affair. The warning signs of this happening are usually quite evident if a man pays attention.

5. She is living in a sexless marriage:

Women have a sex drive too!!! The fact that women are still looked at as not enjoying sex or wanting to have sex with their husbans is not based on any facts. There are just as many women as men that enjoy a healthy sex life. When a husband is no longer wanting to have sex with his wife or sexualy pleasing her, then she may go outside the marriage for a sexual relationship. She may still be in love with her husband but is tired of living in a sexless marriage.

There are of course other reasons why a woman my cheat but most woman will fall into one of these five categories.

So how does a husband contribute to the happiness of his wife? Well for all of you men out there, staying home all day and taking care of children is a lot harder than you may think and the women out there that are doing both work and taking care of the kids are even more exhausted.

One solution is making sure that your wife knows that she is appreciated and loved. When men get overwhelmed in their lives some men have a tendency to shut out their wives instead of asking for their help and this can really damage a marriage.

A husband can also be aware of when his wife just seems to be over worked and needs a break, so allowing her to get some much needed R & R once in awhile can make a big difference in her outlook on the marriage.

Lastly and most importantly if you see your wife starting to change or slowly shutting down do something about it immediately, because when this happens it usually means that a woman is in the process of emotionally leaving the marriage and it is extremely hard to get her back.

The only thing that a man can't do is try and change a woman who was the wrong choice to begin with,.

James A Watkins
Thank you for this fine article. Who knows what evil lurks in the hearts of women? They are sneaky, that's for sure. :)

ip:
I agree. Need to know how to communicate with each other.Good hub.
ChrisAdkins

As hard as it is to find the times couples also need to make sure they still go out and have fun together because so often your only time together is spent doing chores or mundane errands to keep your family and house running.
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katiem
dawnM, great facts and very helpful for all to realize and understand. The reasons why a woman cheats are clearly defined here and can be a useful tool applied to ones knowledge. Thanks :)

wingedcentaur
Good Day dawnM

I was glad to see point #4 included as part of your assessment. You know what they say: A man works from sun to sun but a woman's work is never done. Amen!

Good hub.

Greek

You are so spot on, Young Dawn :-))
Imagine a woman who is in love with her husband and with whom she is sexually attuned. Two to tree hours of sex EVERY day for years. He travels abroad to support his family and as soon as the airplace wheels leave the ground, she is at it. And her position is that she loves her husband, but has sex with you because she likes you too! How do you explain that? Does it fall into "The only thing that a man can't do is try and change a woman who was the wrong choice to begin with, a true Bitccccccch!!!!!!" :-))))

Mighty Mom
Great insights. Women do seem to be more emotionally complicated even when it comes to their reasons for seeking attention/sex elsewhere.

I find the whole topic of monogamy very interesting. In many cultures home/family and sexual filfillment with a lover or mistress are the norm. Although it seems to be more acceptable for men than women.

77Rebecca 5 months ago

I feel it is between the spouses, whether they stay together after an affair! Sometimes people make this mistake....but,if the husband & wife, I ment to work it out....nothing can pull them apart!!!

dragonChefI agree with your points there. But there are also guys that women simply can't resist.
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MagicBoy 2 months ago

Hi Dawn, women representing the characteristics of the last line mentioned are the most dangerous to men..no amount of love, emotions, care or even money can change a woman who has a 'Bitchy' character..I believe it is nearly impossible to change them..also a woman who seeks other men for fun and excitement are the ones who land up committing adultery and shattering the relationship..the point made on kids being the worst hit in such scenarios is very true and the saddest part..Thanks for sharing the 'scary thoughts'..Cheers
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