Recovering Engineer's Lensography

About Guy Harris 

Guy Harris, The Recovering Engineer

This is information on Guy Harris. Guy is known by several titles:     — Conflict Resolution Specialist     — Trainer     — Professional Speaker     &m...

Principle Driven Consulting

Principle Driven Consulting specializes in working with leaders and teams to reduce unneccessary conflict that limits team performance. This lens contains information about Principle Driven Consulting and links to other lenses about or related to our...

Lens and Link Collections 

Positive Parenting Resource Center

This lens is a collection of positive parenting resources from across the web to help you find information about becoming the parent you want to become and raising your children in a positive, respectful way. Many of the resources come from other Squ...

Conflict Resolution Resource Center

This lens is a collection of resources about resolving conflict. It contains links to websites, blogs, articles, and books to assist you as you work to resolve interpersonal conflicts or to head them off in the future. The focus is on mid-level conf...

Leadership Development Resource Center

Leaders are readers. Leaders continually learn and grow. Leaders constantly seek input to become even better. They look for ways grow their leadership skills. They attend leadership training sessions. This lens is a collection of leadership resource...

Conflict Resolution 

The RESOLVE Mindset

The way we think, the mindset, we take into a conflict situation can often determine the outcome. When we choose a resolving conflict mindset over a winning conflict mindset, we improve the odds of conflict resolution. This lens offers insights into...

Seven Ways To Improve Your Communication During Conflict

When we find ourselves in conflict, we often communicate less effectively. Many of us resort to communication approaches that actually make the conflict worse rather than better. Fortunately, there is hope. We can learn to communicate in ways that b...

The Conflict Resolution Process

Stuck in a conflict? Don't know what to do or how to resolve it? Maybe you're not the one in the conflict, but you know two people who are. How can you help without getting drawn into the battle. This lens describes the conflict resolution process so...

How to Confront With Skill

Few people really like to, or feel comfortable with confronting issues directly. This discomfort usually comes from not really knowing how to confront the conflict situation without making it worse. I completely understand that concern. Still, we hav...

Conflict Can Be Good

Good conflict sounds like an oxymoron to many people. How can conflict possibly be good? When it helps a team identify the best possible ideas, conflict can be good. When people know how to protect their relationships during the conflict, teams can a...

More on Conflict Resolution 

Five Steps For Personal Conflict Resolution

When you find yourself involved in a mid-size conflict, what do you do? It's too big to ignore, and it's not really big enough to involve anyone else or to seek a formal solution. The good news is that there are some simple steps you can take to res...

Using The Power of Apology

Apologizing for your contribution to a conflict can have a powerful impact on a conflict situation. This lens is about this highly under used conflict resolution technique. Learn about the power of apology, and learn how to offer an effective one. Th...

Strategic Conflict Resolution

Many organizations have low-level and high-level conflict resolution processes. Few have a strategy for handling conflicts that fall in the middle ground between informal discussion and formal intervention. This lack of strategy can cost organizatio...

Working With Difficult Co-workers

Some people are just hard to work with. No matter what you do or say, they seem to argue with you, ignore you, or in some other way cause trouble for you. I call them difficult co-workers. While it can be really frustrating to work with difficult co...

How to Help Other People Resolve Conflict

At some point in time, you will probably find yourself helping other people to resolve a conflict between them. When that happens, you are acting as a workplace mediator. It's not necessarily a pleasant role. It is an important role. To do it well,...

Still More on Conflict Resolution 

How To Keep Your Cool During a Conflict

Have you ever gotten angry when you found yourself in conflict with a co-worker or family member? Did the rush of emotion happen so quickly that you had a hard time controlling yourself? If you said yes, you are just like nearly everyone else on the...

How to Stop a Conflict Before it Starts

Many potential conflicts can be stopped before they escalate by applying a concept known as preventative mediation. Learn how to stop conflicts before they start to escalate. Learn to recognize potential workplace and personal conflicts and to take...

Communication Skills 

Communicating To Create Peace and Harmony

If you communicate in a warm, friendly, and patient way; this lens is for you. If this describes you, you probably like to interact with people in a way that creates peace. You probably do not like intense or fast-paced conversations. This lens cont...

Connecting With People Better

Connecting with people can often be a challenge. This challenge increases when we attempt to connect with people who are significantly different from us. When you learn a few key communication tips and insights, you can connect with people much more...

Get Better Results From Your Communication With Others

If you communicate in a direct, bottom-line manner; this lens is for you. You probably want to get immediate results from your interactions. You probably get frustrated when other people do not produce results quickly. This lens contains communicati...

High Value Communication Skills

If you communicate in a factual, unemotional manner; this lens is for you. You probably like for people to communicate with you in a logical and straight-forward fashion. You may get frustrated when they do not deliver high value communication with y...

How to Have More Fun When You Interact With Others

If you communicate in a friendly, light-hearted way; this lens is for you. If this description fits you, you probably want to have fun when you interact with other people. You probably feel frustrated when other people do not engage with you. In thi...

More on Communication Skills 

Telephone Answering Skills

At home or at work, we all answer the phone. How we answer the phone often sets the stage for the direction of the conversation that follows. Unfortunately, many people either do not know or do not appreciate the importance of good phone answering sk...

All About Using or Applying the DISC Human Behavior Model 

Sell Naked On The Phone

This lens is all about Sell Naked On The Phone - the first book in the Sale Naked Sales System. This book uses proven principles of human behavior to teach you the sales skills to use the telephone effectively. Learn to book more meetings using tele...

Introduction to the DISC Human Behavior Model

Your leadership style, communication style, and parenting style are heavily influenced by your personality style. The same is true for other people. How you communicate with people, build relationships, raise your kids, network at business meetings,...

Personality Profile Tests For All Ages

Personality Assessments provide objective and descriptive rather than subjective and judgmental ways to understand our behaviors and behaviors of other people. Taking an online personality assessment gives you the opportunity to learn more about your...

Teen Personality Test

This lens is about the Get Real! teen online personality style assessment. Using this assessment, you get access to a whole range of resources to help you understand your teenager or to help them pick a career that fits them. Completing an online pe...

Kids Personality Tests

As parents, we often struggle to really understand our children. One problem we often face is putting our perception of normal on our kids. Normal usually means: like me. So, what happens when your child is not like you? Does that mean that they are...

More About Applying The DISC Human Behavior Model 

Strengths and Blind Spots for Each DISC Style

When you work with other people, your personality style will interact with their's in some pretty predictable ways. As you build a team, these interactions can have a major impact on team effectiveness. Everything from what job requirements feel comf...

Leadership Skills 

The Top Five Ways To Motivate Behavior

Whether you are a manager, a supervisor, a little league coach, or a parent; you probably interact with people that you would like to inspire to take action. This lens contains five specific ideas you can apply to improve in this area. Many people t...

The Coach - A Leadership Book Written As A Story

I am passionate about leadership and leadership development. I believe that the health of businesses, non-profits, classrooms, sports teams, and families all hinge on the quality of their leadership. Using a story based approach, I have described key...

Building High Performance Work Teams

Your effectiveness at building a strong business team will often determine your success as a leader. Improving team performance depends on having great performers on the team. It also depends on putting people in the right role so that they can work...

How Smart Leaders Improve Change Acceptance

At some point in time, you will have to change something in your organization. When this happens, you will have to face the common problems of organizational change - resistance and fear. Using good leadership skills and a thorough understanding of...

More on Leadership 

How to Conduct Great Hiring Interviews

As a business leader, hiring employees is one of the most important things you will do. Conducting great hiring interviews and developing good interview skills will help you build a stronger business team. One concern many employers have is conducti...

Motivation Principles For Leaders - Team Building

When you lead a team of any kind, you will be faced with the need to work with and through other people. If you do not understand a few basics of motivation, you could easily go wrong in trying to inspire high level performance. When you understand...

Assessing a Job to Match it With a Person

Role assessments are designed to objectively evaluate a job to determine the task and interaction environment that describes the position. By assessing a job, business owners and employeres gain better understanding of the type of person they should...

How To Hire The Best People For Your Team

If you are a business leader attempting to build a high performing team, you want to find the best people for your team. This process starts when you hire your employees and continues as you learn to work with them in a team environment. This lens co...

Profiles and Lessons From Legendary Leaders 

Ernest Shackleton: Leadership Lessons

Ernest Shackleton was a British explorer of the Antarctic in the early 1900's. He is best remembered for his expedition from 1914-1916 in the HMS Endurance. During this journey, his ship got stuck in the ice near the Antarctic continent. He and his...

Abraham Lincoln: Leadership Lessons

Abraham Lincoln was the 16th president of the United States. His story is one of the most told stories in American history. He served as president in an incredibly unsettled time. He had victories, and he had defeats. He did things well, and he did t...

Building good relationships 

What's In It For We?

All about learning to ask yourself better questions to silence the negative dialogue in your head and to achieve greater success with other people. This lens offers communication tips to assist in leadership, team building, and sales.

How to Build Rapport With Other People

Rapport is the deepest level of relationship, and different people move from initial connection to rapport in different ways. Since different people reach rapport by different routes, your success at building rapport with someone can be somewhat hit-...

Five Ways to Become a Great Listener

Great leaders. Great parents. Great supervisors. Great team members. They are all great listeners. Lots of people are great at hearing. Fewer people are great listeners. Listening is a skill, and skills can be learned. Learn great listening skills b...

4 Sure Fire Steps to Connecting With People

Connecting with other people is the first step in building a relationship with them. Whether you meet people at a business networking meeting, the grocery store, or in your office; you have to connect with them to build a working relationship with th...

Good for Parents 

How To Understand Your Child's Behavioral Style

One key to successful parenting lies in your ability to understand and work with your child's behavioral style. In order to do that effectively, you must also know your behavioral style. The DISC Human Behavior Model is one very powerful way to gain...

How to Become A More Consistent Parent

"How do I get my kids to..." is a common parental lament. Part of the answer lies in understanding one key concept in human motivation theory. Motivation theory teaches that consistently matching consequences with behaviors tends to either reinforce...

The Behavior Bucks System

This lens contains information about a positive parenting system that my wife and I developed based on a structured, token economy system for our kids. This lens also contains links to other relevant lenses, websites, and books to help you become a b...

The 5 Bs of Effective Parenting

This lens outlines five key principles for influencing your child's behavior. Successful application lies in both the intent and the behavior behind their application. My intention in offering these lessons from my experience as both a parent and hum...

For Building Stronger Families 

Loving Your Wife

Want a great marriage? Want a healthy family? Love your wife. To build a strong marriage and a heathy family, men need to show their wives love. This lens contains articles, tips and links to other resources to help you learn how to love your wife b...

Understanding The Power of Commitment

Commitment fuels businessess, relationships, sports teams and non-profit organizations. The level of commitment people have to a cause, to a person, or to organizational goals will often make the difference between success and failure. Demonstrating...

Dads Are Leaders

I have a passion for leadership and leadership development, and I have a passion for family. Both passions were planted in me and have been fueled by two examples in my life. This lens started as a tribute to my father and grandfather. I would like...

Some Lenses My Family Helped To Build 

These are a little more personal and less business.

The Cat's Meow

Our family loves cats. We love everything about cats from the way they talk to those times when, like all pets, they get on your nerves. This lens is all about our cats and why we chose cats as our family pets. While some people really love dogs, we...