Free Relationship Advises: Why I Never Get Depressed After Breakup
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Not Your Conventional Relationship Advices
But i never get depressed because i have learned how to handle situations like that. I never feel like my life is over after breakup, no matter how much i loved my ex. It may be harder for a while, but i know how and where to find the strength to move on.
So if you are having a hard time getting over a breakup, read on. Those are not very conventional relationship advices, but hey! they are free, and if they work for me, why will not work for you either?
What Will You Get From This ?
I put together these free relationship advices because i would like you to never
-get lost
-lose hope
-feel worthless
-get depressed
-forget to enjoy life
-and give up your dreams...
Is a shame when it happens, and it happens much more than it should.
So here you can learn how to avoid that.
Nothing Lasts Forever
First of all i want you to get this very very deep into your system: nothing lasts forever! And i mean not even the stars, the planets or galaxies, not our small businesses here on earth, and certainly not our fragile relationships. All things are meant to come to an end someday, and this is a fact, not a philosophy. You, my friend, will get to an end someday.I know, is a very depressing thought that we badly try to forget. But is a fact of life. By all statistics is more likely that your relationship won't last. Just look around and tell me how many people with a life time partner you see.
Then you may ask what is the point to start a relationship if you already are thinking about its end? What is the point in doing anything at all?
Because the point is not to live with a nihilistic approach, on contrary. The fact that nothing last forever it just helps you putting things in the right proportions. I am not starting a relationship with the immediate thought that it will end somehow. But the POSSIBILITY is always there. And it keeps me from being totally lost if it happens.
When i am looking at the beautiful lady next to me, the possibility to lose her somehow keeps me alert. It won't let me take things for granted, but constantly trying to improve and enrich my relationship. It makes me feel grateful that she's still here, with me, and our relationship actually feels like a present.
So do yourself a favor and remember that from time to time; it will help you at the terrific moment of breakup and will make your relationship more precious and alive.
And then, of course, some things may last longer than other...
Relationships Are Part Of A Dynamic Process Called Life
Nothing lasts forever, and just the same everything is changing all the time. Especially our relationships.
You know, we are human, and hopefully alive, so we grow, we learn, we experience things, we change. Our priorities change from time to time. Think at your preferences only five years ago, and compare them with what would you like now. See my point?
As a couple we may not change at the same speed and in the same direction. We may not heading toward same goals. In time our own goals can suddenly change, and it feels like betrayal to our partner. It can happen even if we deeply love each other or no matter how strong the physical attraction is.
And most of the time the end of a relationship is exactly that: one of us is heading toward an unknown destination, and the other one is not ready to follow. Or don't know how. Is not making breakups any easier, but it can make them easier to accept. It help us live with them as part of life.
Before, During and After Relationship: I Know Who I Am!
From the inside out...
I cannot say nothing special about how i look, cause i am not even close to George Clooney or other hot guy out there. In my opinion i am okay. I'm not rich either, and last time when i checked out i didn't found the cure to cancer on my achievements list.But i know who i am. I am not defining my self as somebody's husbands or boyfriend. My relationship does not MAKES me what i am, but i am the one who make the relationship. You see, i was Jamie before my relationship, i am Jamie during the relationship and i will be Jamie long after the relationship will end. Maybe a little shuttered, but still Jamie...
People tend to be forget who they are in a relationship.Their partner gives them a sense of identity, they feel valuable because their partner values them. Then something happens, there is no partner anymore and they lose everything. Their sense of value, their self esteem, their identity.
How not to be depressed? They even go on living and getting into another relationship with this crippled sense of who they are, and they are all set for a failure. How can somebody else value who you are, if YOU cannot do that?
My friend, do not define yourself through your losses or your gains. Get this straight:is not that you are valuable because someone else appreciate you; SOMEONE ELSE APPRECIATE YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE VALUABLE.
And you will be valuable even if that "someone" will stop appreciating you! Got it?
Oh, and one more detail: being alone does not reduce your value, just like being with somebody does not add nothing to it. Some clouds on the sky do not reduce the size of the sun, just hide it for a while. You too have your cloudy days, but every day is a new day. And a new chance to shine through!
How Is This For A Free Relationship Advice?
I think it will help you get a sense of how you should feel about yourself.
But hey, don't just skip over this video, you will have to really listen the song and feel that feeling to understand what i mean.
How I Live My Life After Breakup
I don't start dating again right after breakup because i don't believe in this kind of cure. Is also not fair for my next relationship. But i do seek my friends company more than usual. I concentrate for a while on my hobbies, my work, i read, i go out a lot.
I give my soul some time to heal and forget.
And mostly i try to feel grateful for what i had instead of feeling sorrowful for what i have lost. Because-you remember the first rule?-nothing lasts forever...
A Last Question: What If...
What if it was really the love of my life? What if i cannot get over it and i am SURE that this is the person i want to spend my life with?...
I Fight For It!
There is nothing smart in suffering, and nothing glorious, sorry to disappoint you. And i am the last one who will advise choosing that road.
If it is the love of your life, then go back and fight for it. Do whatever it takes and get your ex back. While you should be sure of your own value in any life situation, the true love makes us bring forward our best qualities in a natural way. When we really love someone, we are the best of what we can ever be. You will find endless resources of strength, love and joy within yourself. You can even surprise yourself.
So yes, you should try and save your relationship if this is your most ardent desire. And to do it the smart way, here is a strategy to solve your relationship problems.
There is no shame in admitting you truly love someone. Or that you need it in your life. And i really hope you will be together with the one you love for as long as possible.
Some More Free Relationship Advices
- Should I Break Up?
- They say that in a relationship the woman is the deciding factor. But what a woman can do when there is a lot of pain and and confusion?
Here you can find relationship advices for confused women, but not only. - How To Get Back Together
- A step by step guide to get back together and what are is the best things to do after breakup.
- Best Signs Your Ex Still Loves You
- Not sure what your significant others feels about you and what to do next? Well, this great article can put things into perspective for you.
- Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back
- What if you would know the ONE thing that men crave for more than anything else, more than sex, food or sport ? And you will be able to give it to him? Getting your ex boyfriend back would not be as easy as giving a child his favorite candy?
- Can A Psychic Help Me?
- Sometimes the answer to your problems can come from the most unexpected sources. If you are looking for a reliable psychic advisor with 20 years of experience in relationship advises, check out Cherokee Billie's website. Amazing psychic readings that will answer all your questions.
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- CoolM CoolM Jan 1, 2009 @ 6:37 pm
- So many people think that their life ends with a relationship. This is such a great Lens.
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- justjamie justjamie Dec 26, 2008 @ 10:14 pm
- thank you for your comments, guys!
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- Isabellas-cabin Isabellas-cabin Dec 23, 2008 @ 8:52 pm
- Great advice!
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- Sylviane_Nuccio Sylviane_Nuccio Dec 23, 2008 @ 7:42 pm
- That is a lens that every broken harts should read.
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- Brooke1981 Brooke1981 Dec 21, 2008 @ 9:24 pm
- Great advice... thanks
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- Dec 21, 2008 @ 7:16 pm
- good presentation
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- ladyred129 ladyred129 Dec 21, 2008 @ 4:50 pm
- i lived a life that is full - "i did it my way" - Great Stuff!!!
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- tdove tdove Dec 16, 2008 @ 4:55 pm
- Thanks for joining G Rated Lense Factory!
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- -max- -max- Dec 12, 2008 @ 11:32 pm
- such a good lens, i can tell you have a lot of experience.
Good work!
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