The Relationship Artist

Women are inclined to describe romance as the things their mate does to make them feel loved, protected, and respected. Wives, especially those married to busy husbands, crave the excitement of romantic encounters.

They long for "some enchanted evening, across a crowded room." Flowers, compliments, nonsexual touching, and love notes are all steps in this direction. So is helping out at home. A man who shares in the duties of cooking, cleaning, and picking up the kids after basketball practice is much more likely to win the affection of his wife. Men, on the other hand, rely more on their senses in the area of romance. They appreciate a wife who makes herself as attractive to him as possible. A man wants to be respected - and even better, admired - by his wife. He likes to hear his wife express genuine interest in his opinions, hobbies, and work. Though romance can mean vastly different things to each of us, for most the word describes that wonderful feeling of being noticed, wanted, and pursued - of being at the very center of our lover's attention. Typically, most couples maintain this sense of romance throughout their courtship and at least through the newlywed phase of marriage. As the years go by and new duties and responsibilities pile on, however, that romantic feeling all too often begins to fade.

I believe that a solid relationship is one of mankind's greatest joys. It gives us companionship, love, tenderness, hope, playfulness, and someone to share our dreams with. For good or for bad, it gives us the most valuable education we humans can receive......we learn about others and we learn about ourselves!

Hi! My name is Colin. Together we will look at how to create the ideal relationship just like painting a picture.....a picture in your mind of how love is supposed to be! Whether you are in a relationship, between relationships or haven't yet ever been in love, I'll show you how to create a long lasting partnership that can move mountains. Besides, isn't that the way love is supposed to be?

I have given over 2000 life changing 1 on 1 consultations in 15 years. I have a unique ability to intuitively feel and understand a number of complex relationship situations that we go through everyday. Now I want to bring my unique set of beliefs to you.....to help you understand how you can turn any problem into an opportunity by changing the way we comprehend our realities. You can be anything or anyone you want to be. Let me show you how just a single thought can plant the seed of creation and set in motion a new existence full of opportunities and fulfilled dreams!

Change your core beliefs.....and change your relationships, opportunities, self esteem and life!

Write me today:

Colin Martin
relationshipartist@writeme.com

Add to cart

Every person has their own unique way of loving another and yet there are some laws that are Universal. No matter what age, language, color or sex, these laws govern the way we fall in love. They also govern the way we experience love. Two people can be happily in love, each with a different idea of what love is. Whether they stare 'into each others eyes' or 'out upon the world together', theirs can be true love if that is the way they choose to experience it. But, the simplest thing such as an unreturned phone call, or a glance in the wrong direction can turn off a potential mate in an instant. It can turn off that thing called love in its earliest stage of creation. So how do I avoid that from happening, you ask? It's simple when you understand THE 5 LAWS OF LOVE.

1. The Law of Attraction: A magnetic force, which draws two people together. Perhaps the heart beats a little faster, the breath catches in the chest, or there are shivers down the spine. In much the same way that a pile of iron filings reacts to a magnet moving over them.

2. The Law of Connection: When you find yourselves finishing each other's sentences or going "I know what you mean". You find out things about each other like: you were both a middle child, or you were born in the same year/month or city, you have the same favorite food or enjoy the same hobbies. This type of familiarity creates a connection between two people as if they know each another. It can feel very safe and comfortable. It is the experience of knowing and loving the soul of another.

3. The Law of Acceptance: When you can be totally yourself and feel no judgment.

4. The Law of Inspiration: When being with the other person, even thinking of them gives you a sense of wanting to be and do more, to be the best that you can be.

5. The Law of Trust: When you feel completely secure with your partner and do not question their sincerity, because 'as doubt creeps into a relationship, so love creeps out!' Due to social conditioning and different belief systems each of us has different values for this thing called love. Whatever your values are and whatever love means to you, there is one thing for certain: If you experience these 5 things with your significant other and them with you, you have a winning combination!

Relationships can be very complicated. The meshing of the complexities of two human beings can be overwhelmingly complex. Have you noticed the volumes of relationship books at Barnes & Noble? But one simple thing can make all the difference...being the best that you can be. Being a Superhero.

When we were children, we imagined only the best for ourselves. We couldn't wait to grow up and be firemen, astronauts, doctors, actors/singers or even the President. We were always looking forward to a future where we were powerful and courageous. We never thought of ourselves as lesser people and if we did, the "future" would take care of that. When I was a kid I never remember my friends saying: "I want to be miserable" or "I want to be a cocaine addict...stripper...a criminal or work in a stressful, thankless job." We wanted to be Superheros. Why can children see the potential of all they can be? And why as adults can we not?

The stress of growing up can destroy our hopes, dreams and abilities to see the full potential of ourselves, I know. You can't just tell your boss "Shove it" if you have not pursued more education. Financial limitations, abusive parents, conditioned fears, accumulated guilt and less than stellar growing environments are just a small part of why we have trouble seeing our greater powers. But in your relationships with others, you have a choice. You choose to get to know someone better. You choose to date, have sex and fall in love. Relationships are freeing. They are far more liberating than almost any other aspect of your life. If there is no other place in your life where you can tap into the hidden dreams, hopes and potential of all that you can be, then relationships are a good place to start. Giving someone the very best of yourself will all but guarantee a successful relationship.

Make the choice to look within yourself for the Superhero. When you stand bold, proud and strong, the love you share with another person will move mountains. Be the epitome of "that someone very special" and you will be rewarded. And go back and read some of those old comic books...the Superhero always wins...

The Relationship Artist! Blog
FREE Tips To Make Love Last!
World's Best Romantic Ideas!

Only you know for sure, but it does take some time for you to figure this one out. In the days and months following a bad break up, it seems as if your ex is doing everything they can to ruin your life. And you are extra sensitive to all the little things that can push your buttons. After all, who knows you better than your ex? They swore an everlasting love to you, and suddenly they are your worst enemy. Nothing really hurts more than a trust betrayed. But you know deep down in your heart that you can get through this. The doors to start a new life will swing wide open.

You really have no choice than to start anew.

The time the two of you spent together will now have to be filled with activities of your choosing. Half-heartedly you will look for "something to fill the time"...to take your mind off of the pain. But these activities are the start of your new life. You have the freedom to do anything you now want to do. There will be no more asking for permission, no judgments or having to explain to anyone what you want to do or where you want to go. You can afford to take risks, find your niche in life and follow your dreams. There will be no more "That's stupid", "I don't understand why you would want to do that" or the ever popular "who's going to take care of the house?"

The biggest reason why couples fight is over money. But the biggest reason couples divorce is over one or the other partner losing their identity.

Having the freedom to do the things you want in life will be what matters most at the end of your life. Too many people say "I wish I had done (fill in the blank), but now it's too late." Couples that support and encourage each other to find activities, together and apart, will be the ones that stay together.

Your new post break up activities will be the creation of your new life.

In your attempts to find peace, you are unwittingly creating the new you. A wiser you. A more fulfilled you. A freer you! No one can ruin your life but you. Giving someone else that power is not "freedom." You are in control even if it doesn't seem like it sometimes. Whether or not you realize it, your soul is healing itself every moment. Your new life has already begun.

For some of us a relationship without sex is nothing more than a friendship. But there are many long-term and very successful relationships that do not include sex. So the question becomes whether sex is a necessary component at all or if it is simply a fulfillment of lust.

To begin this discussion I would like to explain that many relationships are started out of a physical attraction for one another. Some people would say that this phase is a period of lust. In essence, the partners may find that they not only enjoy each other's company but also that they have a desire to have sex.

During such a stage in the relationship it is likely that the couple will have frequent sex and that it will be both fun and exciting. This stage usually lasts for a few months.

Then the couple is likely to move into the second stage of a sexual relationship which is designed around romantic love. For many couples this stage will last from about six months to two years. During the time although some of the lust may taper off the sex remains frequent and very enjoyable.

For many people this phase is optimal because the love relationship seems to deepen and a real connection between the partners becomes apparent. The bonds strengthen and the relationship acquires a comforting element which lends itself to longevity.

As time goes on the couple is likely to experience the next stage in their sexual relationship. During this period a mature love develops. The sex may diminish a little or a lot and some of the excitement may be missing.

It is during this period that problems often develop. As the break down in the sexual relationship happens there may also be problems with the communication in the relationship. The lack of communication coupled with the decline in sex can result in trust issues.

Some couples progress to the point that their relationship is built on dynamics more commonly associated with roommates or brothers and sisters than that of a couple. Although relationships go through various phases it is important to maintain the appropriate dynamics if the relationship is to continue to blossom.

Over a period of time sex can decline to the point that the couples feel uncomfortable with the topic. One is afraid to approach the other so sex becomes a missing component in the relationship. Even if the desire for sex is there it may seem to be completely out of reach.

Couples in that situation probably need to start slowly. Jumping into bed to have sex may not sound appealing. I suggest that the couple work on less threatening ways of building that intimacy level back up first. To begin I suggest that the couple spend time cuddling. I know, that sounds trivial but it really is important.

Simple steps like including a few hugs throughout the day can make a difference. Then progress to holding each other and gazing into the eyes of your partner. Soon you should spend time holding one another in bed. If you do not start this way then progress to holding each other while you are naked. By taking things a step at a time you are likely to freshen some of those feelings and desires that were once so natural and compelling.

Get Your FREE Ebook "101 Facts You Never Knew About Soulmates"

Keep The Sexual Fire Burning!

I want to talk about the "L" word for a moment. Right, you guessed it........love. No three little words in human history have shaken the foundations of our emotional state as I Love You. Have you heard those three little words lately? When you did, how did it make you feel? Every one of us are in one level or another of love. From head spinning ecstasy to just a care above mowing the grass, love affects us in a way that is profound. What exactly is this powerful force?

I've read all sorts of psychological journals trying to figure it out, but end up more confused than ever. Deep down, it is something that really can't be cubby holed with definitions and psycho babble. Love is the state of oneness with a supposed stranger..... a person who maybe only a few short months earlier was completely unknown to us. Is it possible to be swept into a whirlwind of emotions by someone we have just met? Does "love at first sight" really exist or is it just our own wishful thinking to be cared for unconditionally by another? I believe it does.

I've always believed that love is the energy that drives Heaven. Just as we have oxygen and light and food to live on here on Earth, love is the driving force for our souls to live on. It is the most powerful of all emotions. I think when you feel real love; you have connected with another soul in Heaven. It is the crossing of two paths. The path you share is intertwined with everyone else on Earth, but some you can recognize more than others. Why is it that when you fall in love someone you seem to have instant familiar feelings? You finish each other's sentences, and feel like you have known them your whole life. They complete you as if you were never quite finished until you met them.

Attraction.....yes. Caring for each other......yes.

But what is with the feeling of overwhelming familiarity? It is because you do know them. And you have for a long, long time. The great thing about falling in love is that it is not just a happenstance of luck. It is a reconnection, if you will. The soul in another that you have finally reconnected with that you have been searching for. You cross paths with people everyday. We eat together, work together, and play together. We have many acquaintances and friends........but love is always a surprise. It seems to come out of nowhere. But love is no accident and there is no real surprise.

When you finally touch base with the soul of another, you know it. The search comes to an end, but the real connection begins to unfold. There is everything in the Universe to be happy about. What seems like a one in a billion chance has just come true. I Love You has alot of meanings. When you hear it do you believe it? What does it mean to you? You need to know just how precious and rare reconnecting with the eternal soul of another is. And when it happens, you need not fear it. Make it the most worthwhile activity and nurture it as a delicate plant. Know that you have been given the greatest gift of all and make it your priority number one. A heavenly gift?

Absolutely!

When you find someone that you really like, you can use the term "this one is a keeper." Well, once you find someone you really love and that someone is really good to you want to hold onto that person and you don't want to lose them. But what can you do to hold on to them. There are no rules and no guidelines to help you hold on to them. All you can do is do what you are doing. Treat them with respect and love them as you want to be loved yourself. You know the saying do unto others as you would have done unto you. This applies.

If you are dating someone for a long time and the relationship seems to be progressing then just keep on doing what you are doing, if it's not broke don't fix it. Let things go on the way they have been. Don't think about how good things are just live your life and let the relationship progress. Don't do anything that you know is going to make the other person mad. We are not saying walk on eggshells we mean, don't commit the relationship no-no's . Don't lie, cheat or steel or do anything that you know is going to cause problems.

Holding onto someone you love is a lot of work. Making a relationship work is hard. If you have a job that requires you to spend a lot of time in the office, plan a special day where you and your partner spend all day together, no cell phones, no computers just the two of you. Spending quality time together will keep you together. Keep the relationship fresh, do something romantic, have a nice home cooked candlelight dinner with flowers and their favorite meal and then a special night with candles and soft music, you can fill in the blanks.

Relationship killers are when you spend too much time working, too much time on the phone when you are together. If you want to have friends over for dinner, ask your partner first don't spring it on them that Tom and Helen are coming in 20 minutes. Always keep a good line of communication open. Always be considerate of the other's feelings and always say I love you at least 5 times or more a day. Send them an I love you text message. Write a note and leave it in their car so when they get in to go to work they will see it. Try to do something romantic as often as you can. Once you start doing it they will start and you will have romance everywhere.

There often is not a lot of romance in relationships especially when you have kids. Hire a babysitter and go out or send the kids to Grandma's and have a romantic night at home. You do what you can as much as you can as long as the love is there you don't have to worry.

I have noticed something a bit odd lately and maybe you have
as well. An inordinate
number of new relationships seem to change gears right around the
four month mark. For
myself and many others, our relationships seem to reach a point of
critical mass that requires some heavy decision making either for
good or for bad. At that time we start to take the rose colored
glasses off and ask ourselves "is this the right relationship for
me?" It is a time that needed communication must take place to ensure
a problematic union doesn't drag us too far down the road. The
initial waves of infatuation subside and we ask ourselves these
typical questions:
·
Is my new partner contributing to the relationship as much as I?
· Is the time we are spending together as quality as I need?
· Do I seem to be getting along with his/her children?
· Do we see eye-to-eye on politics, religious beliefs or moral bearings?
· Am I getting the needed amount of affection to keep me satisfied?
· Is the sex still interesting, fresh and fulfilling?
· Can I deal with his/her career and the time that they spend at the office?
· Am I still attracted physically to this person?
· Have I found any secrets/hidden truths that I may have not seen in
the beginning?
· And the biggie: Is this really the right mate for me at this time
in my life??

Human nature dictates that asking these questions are completely
normal and healthy for us to get the proper bearing about a decision
so huge. Love is unlike any other kind of life decision. Sometimes we
take jobs we don't like for awhile just to pay the bills. Sometimes
we move to cities or neighborhoods just because we need to have a
place to settle down for awhile. Sometimes we have to kiss the boss's
ass to move to a position that will benefit us. Sometimes we have to
show our children some "tough love' to set them straight. But we DO
NOT have to be with someone that is not right for us emotionally. So
what is the problem with all these questions that can make or break a
new relationship? Most of the time ONLY ONE OF THE PARTNERS ARE
THINKING OF THESE QUESTIONS! And when they are, the other partner
may not even realize it. In a new relationship, it not only critical
to ask yourself these questions, but to make sure you communicate
fully your concerns to your new love
interest. Your partner cannot read your mind even if it seems like
they can. Without proper communication, you may decide to end your
relationship and your lover will have no idea what happened or have
the chance to correct things. If you can't express these concerns to
your partner then the union is doomed for failure by your own hand.
And you do not want to be the unsuspecting partner either! Do you
want to be the one that gets "that phone call" just when you thought
everything was perfect? Lying around at night wondering "what the
hell happened?" Questioning our new relationship's status is healthy
and natural but without COMMUNICATION it will all be meaningless.

When determining if you should let things get serious, remember: actions speak louder than words. With that being said, here are ten dating red flags. If you see any of these, do yourself a favor and reconsider if it's worth it for you.

1. You are not on the VIP list for breaking news

Were you the last to learn about this person's job promotion or newborn niece or nephew? Once things are serious, you should be among the first to know about exciting news, or bad news.

2. They avoid meeting your family or friends

If they are shying away from meeting your friends/family consistently, then there are problems. Even if they are very shy, they should want to meet those who are important to you.

3. They don't make any sacrifices

Healthy relationships don't require bending over backwards all the time, but a certain amount of sacrifice is necessary in a selfless union. When two of my friends first started dating one another, she demanded that he go to Farm Aid for her birthday, which was also the opening NFL football Sunday. While all the guys gathered to watch the games, he was sweltering on some field attending Farm Aid -- an event he never would have gone to if she hadn't have invited him. Now that's sacrifice.

4. They can't fit in your future

I admit it. When I meet girls, I envision future moments I may some day share with them. Most of my scenarios are her with me and my family at a Thanksgiving holiday or at a summer crabfeast. If I'm really into her, I usually relish the thought. If not, I kinda cringe.

5. They are too controlling

It's scary but I've seen many relationships where guys forbid girls to hang out with certain friends, or wear certain clothes. Major problem if someone is controlling you and not allowing you to be who you want to be within a relationship.

6. The "what are we" conversation fails miserably

Almost every relationship hits that crossroads where you both decide if it's worth taking the plunge into being exclusive and calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend. If they are confused and surprised that you're ready to get serious, the timing is not right, and you should try to figure out how long you want to wait around until they are ready.

7. They talk about plans that don't involve you

My sister has major wanderlust. She's always talking about heading off to Chicago or living in London for a year. She often talks about these things with no regard for the fact that she has a boyfriend at the time. If you find that someone is making plans or talking about far off places without inviting you along for the ride, don't let yourself get too into this person.

8. Your friends or family don't like them

Remember that your friends and family know you best. Don't take their thoughts with a grain of salt. It's one thing if a person or two don't get along with your significant other, but if a lot of them are saying you should reconsider, then do it. Unfortunately, we often find out about how much our friends hated that person after this person is gone.

9. They violated your trust

Whether it's cheating or a little lie that they got caught in, it will be hard to regain trust. Trust is something we don't give away easily, and once it's gone it's hard to get it back. We'll always be wondering about that lie, and doubt will creep in more and more as our minds fixate on that lie. Too often, people take trust for granted and once they lose it they never get it back.

10. You practice "unbalanced dating"

Are you always seeing his friends or doing things that he wants to do? Do you just let him pick the restaurants and events? Or is it the other way around? Relationships are fun when you are both able to contribute. If you're not taking turns creating fun times together, it will most likely fizzle out.

Unconditional love is given without any expectations, limitations or any other definitions.In other words when you love someone unconditionally you do so without expectations that the sentiment will be returned, without placing restrictions or conditions under which the love will be expressed and without establishing defining parameters for when, where or why the love is felt or expressed. There are many examples of relationships where the love is unconditional. The love between romantic partners, parent and child, siblings and even friends can all be examples of unconditional love. The most important factors of unconditional love are that it is completely free of restrictions or expectations.

In giving unconditional love, it is important that you have no expectations of reciprocation. You offer your love freely and do not demand that the feeling be returned. Unconditional love is about you and your feelings and does not involve trying to create the same feelings in another person. While you may hope and wish that the feeling is returned, truly unconditional love does not hold any expectations that a mutual feeling exists. If you hold the expectation that your love for the other person is going to eventually be reciprocated and your love endures based on this expectation then it is not truly unconditional love. One example of unconditional love without any expectations is the love between a parent and child. A parent may love their child unconditionally and while the feeling may be reciprocated by the child, the parent's love will endure regardless of how the child feels. Your unconditional love exists even if the other person does not have reciprocal feelings towards you or any intentions of ever having such feelings.

Unconditional love also exists without any restrictions or limitations under which the feeling will remain. Truly unconditional love endures any transgression imaginable. When you give your unconditional love, you do so knowing that the actions or words of the other person will not result in this loving feeling being revoked. Even intentional acts meant to hurt you are overlooked when they are inflicted by someone with whom you have an unconditional love. Also, unconditional love is not used to attempt to control the actions of another. Telling someone that they will lose your love if they do things you do not approve of is not unconditional love. Romantic partners often have a feeling of unconditional love. When this exists in the relationship, neither partner uses their love to control the other or threatens to revoke the love if their demands are not met.

Truly unconditional love is given without any defining parameters. When unconditional love is given, it is done so without the understanding that the love will only endure as long as certain conditions exist. Unconditional love exists without thought of setting definitions or other limitations on the love surviving. Siblings are good examples of unconditional love that exists without any definitions. While siblings may fight throughout their lifetime there is a bond that is present always and is never challenged. Siblings may become angry with each other but their unconditional love transcends all boundaries and survives through countless arguments and misunderstandings.

Those who have an unconditional love for another always want the best for the one they love and allow them to be free to seek what will truly make them happy. Unconditional love involves wanting the best for the person you love and understanding that they need to be free and make their own choices to achieve this level of happiness. While you may believe that you know what is best for your loved one, it's important to let them learn things on their own and pursue opportunities and experiences that they believe will make them happy. They may end up making wrong choices but if you love them unconditionally you will always be there for them and will not judge their actions.

Unconditional love is truly free of any expectations, limitations or definitions. This is a love that holds your loved ones best interests and happiness above all other things including your own happiness. When you offer your love unconditionally it is important to realize that you have no right to expect that your feelings will be returned or that your loved one will act and speak according to guidelines you set forth.

"No More Broken Hearts!"

Dating is a beautiful way to find a partner. Dating gives us an opportunity to know our prospective partner better and vice versa. With dating, we can decide if we are made for each other? If we succeed in taking a proper decision we will have a smooth life ahead that will have no pot holes on the way. Before we begin dating, should we not know ourselves better? Our personality, our strengths and weaknesses and what are we seeking from our partner?

Do you want to find someone who you can love as much as you want, or are you looking for someone who will love you to satisfy your need of being loved? This is important to know. Some of us never got as much love as we wanted, so we look around for a partner who will make us feel satisfied and worthy of love. Or we may wish to find a person who we can love to our hearts desire. This is important distinction and please look into your motives before searching for a dating partner. In either of the cases you will be looking forward to a different kind of person to succeed.

Are you confident about yourself? Do you feel threatened if you commit? Does the thought of living with someone you know only for a small time fill you with anxiety? Many of us are not ready to commit at all. After some time of dating, such people break the relationship because they feel threatened. If you are such a person, think about your mental makeup carefully and better talk about this to your dating partner or a friend in whom you have faith. Feeling threatened will always make you back out at the last moment and your efforts will always go waste without your realizing the real reason.

Are you looking for a partner who will protect you from this world? Like a little kid, do you want to go back to Mom and feel safe. If that is the case, please search for someone who wants to protect his/her beloved. To know about yourself and to find out what you are seeking in a relationship that will make you happy is essential to find out who fits the bill for you. Please find out more about yourself before entering the beautiful game of dating.

Get more great tips on dating and making the most of your romance here!

"No More Broken Hearts" The Relationship Artist!

That's right. You are not for rent.
What I mean is that you have to stand up for your values and your beliefs. You own those things..no one else.
Just because you enter into a relationship does not mean that you give away everything that you are. Take a long look at your relationship.

How much are you giving away?

Not only am I talking about posessions such as your money, your car, and your living space, but intangibles such as your emotions, your energy, and your beliefs. Throw in your time, your love and your trust, and it becomes a very empty situation. These are valueable things that we spend most of our adult lives building and refining. They make us feel secure and comfortable and when all the small pieces fit together, define who we are.

We need to understand the difference between sharing and giving away. Of course we want to share the things we have with someone we love, but when do we start to give and give to either fill the percieved voids we think we see in others, or worse yet..to try and keep someone in our lives.
Your life is not for rent. Your not going to let just anyone move in.

Two individuals that are whole and complete share all the wonderful things that they value with each other. They share stories and secrets. They share experiences and dreams. They are building something very powerful together. They learn so much from each other that they feel enlightened and happy. As each individual grows, the more they have to share with their loved one. This is the kind of relationship that's important to you and it's the kind of love that will last.

All to often, we give to try to make someone happy. We give to show them that we care. We give because the better we get to know someone, we begin to see the imperfections we did'nt pay attention to when we fell in love. In a gesture to 'get back' to the way we felt about them when we were in the throws of love, we give to try and patch up the voids we see and to 'fix' the situation. This can seem basically harmless at first until we feel the drain. Financially, emotionally..it does'nt matter. We are pulling from ourselves to fill the holes we see.

I know we are brought up to care for people. Especially those we see that are not as fortunate as us. But you have to learn to say "NO." You can't fix people. Why would we think that we can? It is up to them. If they really care, they will look inside themselves and find the strength to make changes. A beautiful, caring relationship is a rare thing. You know that. We spend a majority of our lives looking for that elusive unshakeable love.

If your partner does'nt see the beauty and rarity..they are not for you. If being the best that they can be is not priority number one they are not for you. If you are too busy babysitting your partner's problems, issues, and feelings, you may be missing out on meeting the love of your life. Your relationship will be a disaster and it's going to hurt.
And remember this...don't believe that you are so smart as to have all the answers to fix someone's life long problems. It is a struggle for trained psychologists to even begin to help, and that can take years of therapy with no guarantee of results. First and foremost, it is up to each one of us to address our own issues and find the help we need. Playing "Doctor" was fun when we were children, but it is a whole different ballgame now.

Your life is not for rent. You own it. All the good, and all the bad. It is YOUR life. No one elses. Stand up for yourself, your values, your beliefs, and your dreams. If someone who has'nt earned your love is trying to set up house in your life, just tell them "NO"....

Click here for instant relationship improvement tips!

Get The Relationship Artist Newsletter straight to your mailbox every two weeks. Want to see what you have missed so far? Check this out!

* The Soulmate Recognition Project!
* Article: "Don't Lose Yourself In Your Relationship!"
* Dating Tune-Up Tips!
* Mind Mapping for Relationship success!
* Free teleseminar information!
* Be The Super Hero!!
* 6 Relationship Killers!
* Your Questions Answered!
...and much, much more!

Listening is one of the most important skills you can learn in life. Whether it is with your family, work or with your friends, listening is the key to find out and understand information you need to know.

There are different kinds and levels of conversation. There are conversations that are like ping pong, a natural back and forth exchange. Some are light and some more in depth interactions.

These tips will facilitate a more meaningful conversation as well as show respect to someone who wants to share something significant with you. These skills will work in casual situations with family and friends or more formal situations at work.

1. Allow the person to fully express themselves and their feelings without interrupting. This takes responsibility on our part and humility. We humble ourselves when we set aside our own desire to be heard and listen to someone else. The interesting thing is when you are willing to listen to someone else, they usually return the favor and show interest in listening to you as well.

2. Be present with them. If you are in person, look them in the eye.

When you walk or eat together or on the phone and it would be awkward for continual eye contact, make sure you simply let them know you are with them. Let it come natural but be present.

3. Listen with your heart, not just your mind. Get a feeling of empathy for what they experienced or felt.

When you develop listening skills, you will have power in your relationships. There are many more tips to effective listening and ways to work though conflict and have peace in your relationships.

Get more great tips for a powerful relationship!

Visit: The Relationship Artist!

So we have talked about what constitutes a powerful relationship. You should be able to see love for what it really is and to recognize it when it happens to you. You know what your responsibilities are and the responsibilities of your partner. You should know why we fall in love and how to keep the magic on track. But how exactly do we create a relationship that is right for us. It is more than just luck. It is more than a chance meeting in a coffee shop. You create every moment of your life and reality. You have to learn to paint a picture of your future. You need to visualize, build, and accept whatever reality you want to be a part of. You are the artist, and your life is the canvas. Let me show you how.

Have you ever woken up feeling a certain way about the day......perhaps your stressed and feeling very anxious and negative. Your having "one of those days" and your neighbor or friend wakes up and thinks to himself, "this is the best day ever." It is the same day to you both, is it not? Not exactly. Whether we realize it or not, each of us is constantly in progress of creating our reality from moment to moment. We are not truly aware of what someone else's world really looks like and they are unaware of ours. How we think of our lives, how we see ourselves in the mirror, and what we believe is happening to us at any given moment will be the reality that will come true.

You know the old saying: 'you are what you eat'. The truth is that we are what we believe we are. Great people don't believe they are great just because they are told that all the time. They believed they were great first. Before anyone else ever noticed. If they believed they were losers, they would have never stepped up to the plate and gave it their best swing. People who believe they are losers hide in the background.....never even bothering to give it their best shot. How many truly great people are only great for a moment? Typically, when they are told they are great, they begin to know it's true. They visualize themselves differently and become even greater. Society takes notice and we bestow accolades which only reaffirms the greatness that the person feels and believes. It then begins to multiply. If you believe you are a loser then society will think that of you as well.

This is an example of believing, visualizing, and creating the next moment of your reality. Which way do you want your future to go? It can be hard to believe in your greatness, especially if we were verbally abused as children. For some of us, believing we are someone very special can be uncomfortable and frightening. It can be very difficult to pull yourself up out of the dirt and believe you can do anything. But taking it slowly, you can visualize in your head a completely different person. You can do this in private.....know one ever has to know.

What makes you happy? How do you want to look? And what kind of relationship do you want to be in? Visualize yourself in each of these situations and paint the picture of your next moment. Think about these snapshots as much as you can, everyday. I know, our third grade teacher told us to stop 'daydreaming' in class, but what you may not realize is that those dreams shaped much of our future. Daydreams feel good to us.....they are comfortable and fun. But let's turn our escapism into something constructive. Let's turn those fantasies into realities. You don't have to wander off inside your head and neglect your responsibilities, but when you picture yourself, which we do dozens of times a day, think of the "you" you want to be. Choosing an image of yourself and seeing your life in a different light will begin to change your future. Your body, your world, and your attitudes toward yourself will be how you want them. Tell yourself "I'm beautiful" and visualize how you want to look. Tell yourself "I'm great" and picture yourself as great. Tell yourself "I know that I can do anything" and visualize what you want to do and what you want to be. Your reality will change accordingly. You are in control of which way your life will turn. That's the real beauty of being human. We have the power of creation.

Over time, you will begin to wholeheartedly believe it. You will see the changes in your life, your job, and your social life. You will see changes in the way you speak and feel. You will see someone different in the mirror. You know you can do anything you want and be anything you want to be. You will be the whole and complete individual that's important to a solid relationship. Of course, when you believe it's true, so will everyone else. You will be great and the world will know it. When all the pieces fit together, the beautiful landscape of your life will be there for all to see. Someone else with similar beliefs in themselves will take notice. They will be attracted to your great attitude, positive outlook, and completeness of soul. They will find you a "kindred spirit" and want to be closer. This is how you will create the relationship you need.

Feel free to contact me for speaking events and seminars.

Colin Martin
relationshipartist@writeme.com

Let's break down negative core beliefs and open up our receptiveness to positive thinking! Thinking happy thoughts are not enough....you have to know deep down just how special and powerful your life is. Can you change the long standing beliefs about yourself and pave the way to realize that YOU are the higher power?

Absolutely!

I have delivered over 2000 personal, life changing consultations and I want to help you any way I can to see you live the life that's possible and live the life you deserve!

"Knowing is the most profound kind of love;
giving someone the gift of knowledge about yourself."
- Marsha Norman

While we are hard at work becoming more improved individuals, our relationships will improve only when we actually share who we are with our partners. Two souls in love will hunger for the knowledge of each other. Everyone knows that trust is very important in a love relationship, but the trust we expect when revealing our darkest secrets to our partner is unprecedented. It is very difficult to bestow that kind of trust on anyone. It is an important step that has to happen for love to take hold. Realizing that you can tell your lover anything about yourself is liberating and attractive and that's the kind of trust that makes you feel safe and wanted. Each one of us is special and unique with precious experiences that makes us a whole being. Share those feelings with your partner. Explain your beliefs and your values with your partner. Share with them all the things that make up the individual you are: your strengths, your weaknesses, your dreams and your fears. Tell them about your childhood and your spiritual beliefs......share your one deepest secret with your lover that you have never shared with anyone before. If this is a little uncomfortable for you or your partner then there is a reason why.......Fear.

It is a natural human condition that love creates fear. Fear of being hurt and the fear of commitment are strong, but the fear of letting someone in who will know all about us is the strongest. We know that we cannot hide who we are from our lovers in a successful relationship. Our lives are made up of moments that are like puzzle pieces that fit together just perfectly to make up the big picture of who we are. If we hope to be known and accepted by our partners, we have to show them the entire portrait of ourselves. When you make that choice, they will see all the pieces of you. There is no hiding it. Whether good or bad, this is who we are. For true love to exist we have to let go of our fears and self judgments. Every piece of your life's puzzle is a beautiful and cherished moment that you should have no fear in revealing to your partner and they should have no fear revealing themselves to you. Share with your lover the truths of who you are. Let go of the fear. Be yourself. And you will be loved.

When two souls fall in love, they know everything about each other. It's our human side that wants to hide things from our partners. We want to look as perfect to them as we can. We believe that sharing too much will drive our lovers away or scare them off. It's not fair to our relationships to try and keep secrets from our partners that our souls already know about each other. Where is the trust in that? You can't believe that you will be judged negatively by your partner if they are the one for you. If you believe that your partner is so blind and stupid as to never see the real you, your relationship will head for a quick demise. When you meet your soulmate, there will be nowhere to hide. Ironically, we fear judgment by our lovers, but it's somehow OK to judge ourselves as negative or bad. Good or bad is your own perspective........your lover will see something different. You have to unconditionally trust your partner and reveal the entire picture of you to them. Knowing is the most profound kind of love.

You are beautiful. You are precious. Every little piece of your life fits perfectly together. Be the best that you can be and you will proudly stand up to reveal yourself to your lover, your friends, and the world. The picture of you is like no other. It is unique and you will embrace it. Sharing yourself with your partner is the greatest gift of love and respect and trust that you can give. And put that credit card away.......this gift is free.