The Relationship Whisperer: Getting the Love You Desire

How many single women do you know? Everyone has someone in their life (maybe even you) who can't seem to find the right man - someone who has that perfect balance of nurturing and humor with rustic manliness and Tarzanian behavior that initially attracts us.

You may have set out on a quest to invade every singles site on the 'net to pinpoint Mr. Right, or perhaps you hound your BFFs to set you up with every single guy they know. Or worse - maybe you've given up completely and don't know what to do about your love life anymore.

Jackie Mahaney can help. The Relationship Whisperer has been there, done that - and exited the grueling dating scene with a wonderful man on her arm. She's going to teach you how to do the same.

You won't have to plunk down a month's salary to access dating sites or harass your friends and family to find you a date. Mahaney wants you to do the work yourself. Like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, she believes you have had what it takes all along - you just need to unlock it and learn how to use your inner voice to zero in on the right kind of man.

Meet Delaney may be a fictional account of a single woman who rebounds from a failed relationship, but it's a story that almost any woman can relate to. It's not a frivolous novel that meets your usual "chick lit" standards - it's a realistic accounting of what it's like to be a single woman in today's real world.

Mahaney's first book, Meet Delaney, is being followed up by a sequel that she's working on titled, "Looking for Tarzan." But she's also working on a non-fiction book for single women known as "The Relationship Whisperer - Trust Your Inner Voice and Discover the Love You Desire."

Why is she targeting single woman? There are over 100 million singles in the United States, and 51% of all American women from age 28-38 are single! It can riddle you with anxiety, be extremely lonely, and wretchedly emotional to ride the roller coaster of love in today's world.

Meet Delaney is similar to a Bridget Jones storyline but there's a little Sex in the City mixed in for good humor. The book is for single women who want to start listening to their hearts but married women love it, too (not to mention a few men who like to learn what women want).

Meet Delaney...A Single Girl's Story

I have not met Mahaney. I can hardly wait to meet her. I loved her book....Meet Delaney...A Single Girl's Story.

I am far from a young, attractive, single girl. Yet, I could identify with this delightful story from beginning to end.

Warning: Do not read this book on an airplane, unless it is a private jet. After laughing my way across the country, a fellow passenger said..."I'll have what she is reading."

Actually, I read Meet Delaney twice. The second time was with a friend. We read it together, commenting on every amusing and sad experience. When we finally glanced at the clock, it was 4:30 a.m. Do not read this book the night before an 8 a.m. meeting.

Mahaney is not afraid to take on big, controversial subjects, such as dating a married man and one night stands. I read these chapters with curious trepidation. Somehow, while never passing moral judgments for others, the author was able to write about life's personal difficulties with honesty and integrity.

The chapter, "Advice - gratuitous and hard-earned," which every woman, especially married women, would be wise to read, is worth the entire book. I recommend that this excerpt be reprinted in every national woman's magazine.

I read the part about granny pants and foul language to my son, a single man. He howled with laughter, told me that it had happened to him, and asked for a copy of the book.

Meet Delaney transcends all ages, stages and genders of readers. This book is realistic fiction at its best.

I am a professional book reviewer, formerly with a national magazine, now with a literary publication. I usually advise new, talented authors to keep their day job. I am suggesting to Jackie Mahaney that she get started immediately on a sequel to Meet Delaney.

Brenda Hill, Reviewer
Longboat Key, FL

Click here to download the first two chapters of Meet Delaney.

You think you will "just know" when you have met "the one" for you? I wouldn't be so sure.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but that initial attraction we have when we meet someone that we are wildly attracted to is mostly out of control pheromones causing us to falsely believe we are in love.

Although attraction is important for the mating process, there are other qualities that are equally, if not more important- and if you can recognize them, perhaps you will know you have met the one%u2026 for you!

#1. "The One" Shows A Genuine Interest In You

How many dates have you been on where all the guy or girl does%u2026 is talk about themselves? When someone is really ready for a relationship, they begin to ask questions. They inquire about you because they want to know if you share enough common interests with them, that a relationship could be a possibility.

"The One" will want to know about your life, your hopes, dreams and ideas about the future.

#2. "The One" Doesn't Play Games

"The One" will call you when he says they he is going to call. He will ask you to spend time together. You won't have to worry that you'll never hear from him again because you know that he likes you.

He will be honest and upfront about where he is at in life. If he isn't ready for a serious relationship, he will tell you. If he is ready for a serious relationship, he will tell you that too! "The One" is not going to lie to you or play games with your heart.

#3. "The One" Won't Rush A Relationship

Most people who are serious about finding a mate, realize that the process takes time. Getting to know someone and care about them is not something that should be rushed.

Often people rush into relationships because they fear that the relationship will not last. They want to have everything NOW and don't take the time necessary to build trust, friendship and love.

#4. "The One" Will Honor Your Existing Relationships

So often when people meet someone that they want to date, they let go of existing relationships with friends and family members. While it is natural to want to spend your every waking minute with the person who holds your infatuation%u2026 "the one" will recognize that you had a life before they came into it%u2026 and they will want you to make time for others that love you.

Balancing time between friends, family and love relationships can be a challenge- but it is important to do so. "The One" will respect that.

#5. "The One" Will Share Many Similarities

Opposites might attract, but typically not for long! Studies show that couples who do not share common goals and interests are not as happy as those who do.

Issues of particular concern are:

Religion: Opposite religious beliefs can exist in relationships as long as the differences can be tolerated and respected. The best case scenario is when couples share in their spirituality%u2026 this can often draw them closer and give their relationship a sense of higher purpose.

Money: This has less to do with how much money each person in the relationship makes%u2026 and more about the value that each person puts on the green stuff. Figure out what money represents to you and then find out what it means to your partner. Does money equal security or does it give you the opportunity to buy cool stuff? Being on the same page financially will lead to a better relationship down the road.

Children : Obviously, "The One" for you should agree with you on whether or not children will be a part of your future. You should also agree on how they should be raised and cared for.

Education Level : Typically, couples who have a similar education level are more compatible over time as well. If you have a doctorate degree and your love interest has a high school diploma, chances are your goals and values may be off when it comes to valuing education.

#6. "The One" Will Be Your #1 Fan

People naturally gravitate toward what feels good. Nothing feels better than being with a partner that believes in you and supports your efforts in life. We all need a cheerleader and "The One" for us, should hold the biggest pom poms!

When I finally met my husband, I was at a place in my life where I really wanted a life partner. I wasn't looking for the hottest guy on the block anymore. I wasn't looking for the richest man in the world, either. I was looking for a nice guy. A true partner, someone I could count on, a man with honesty and integrity, values similar to mine and life goals that fit with mine too.

I didn't know my husband was "the one" when I first met him. In fact, I didn't even consider dating him. Not because I didn't find him nice and attractive (which he is, by the way) I just didn't take notice.

Who do you know that you have not "taken notice" of? Who have you met lately that seems to be a quality person? Is there someone that you find attractive and who shows an interest in you? Maybe it is a "friend" who you have not considered dating. Perhaps you should take another look. Maybe, "The One" is right in front of your eyes!