Sometimes it is hard to be romantic.

It's even harder when you don't know what your spouse thinks is romantic, or when your ideas of being romantic or different.

Just imagine how you would feel if you tried to do something that you thought was incredibly romantic for your spouse, and they weren't impressed.

If only you had a way to know exactly what your spouse considered romantic...

Well you can!

So make a list of things that you think would make you feel loved, cherished, and romanced, and ask your SO to make a list as well!

Ask your SO what they think is romantic, and ask them what you can do to keep the romance alive, and make your SO feel loved.

Your spouse might think a suprise fresh bouquet of flowers is the most romantic thing ever, or they might not.

Maybe your SO wants you to tell him/her that you love them more often.

Maybe you want your SO to touch you more, hold your hand out in public, or actually listen to you when you tell them about your day.

Although sitting down and making lists doesn't sound very romantic, once you have the list it will be so much easier for you to romance your spouse, without wondering whether your idea of romance and their idea of romance is the same.

So go ahead!

Make your list, and ask your spouse to make one as well.

PS - And don't get to upset if they don't want to make the list at first, because that would defeat the purpose.

Take care of yourself!

In order to give your SO the love and support they need, you must first take care of yourself.

Believe in yourself.

You are beautiful.

You are strong.

You can do anything, even though it may not always seem like you can.

Nourish yourself not only physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well.

If you take care of yourself, you will be strong enough so that when your SO (or your friends or family) comes to you and needs to be nourished, you can nourish them as well.

Take care of yourself.

You are worth it!

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday's
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, --- I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! --- and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.