Romance - Keeping The Fires of Love Burning

You may be in a loving relationship, but maybe you don't know the first thing about how to romance from the heart. Sure, you can say, "I love you," just fine, but all those wonderful, romantic ideas just seem to escape you.

Below are a few ideas that might help you in the art of romance. You could simply follow the these suggestions, but it would be much better to adapt them to suit your own nature. Either way, you will be well on your way to being the true romantic!

Day 1:
* Leave a love note for your partner to find during the day. Put the note where it will be found easily. Try their briefcase, the driver's seat of their car, in their coat pocket, in their lunch bag, taped to the receiver of the phone, taped to their computer, or left taped to a doorknob; in fact anywhere they will find it during the course of their day.

* As soon as you arrive home for the day seek out your partner and offer a big, loving kiss. Tell your partner how much you love him or her and ask about their day. Make this a new, daily habit.

* As an alternate idea, when your partner arrives home for the day, take their hand and pull them towards you aggressively. Offer a huge hug, kiss and say, "I missed you today!"

Day 2:
* While your partner showers, heat up his or her towel in the dryer.

* Have flowers delivered to partner at work.

* Surprise your partner by arriving home with their favorite drink, snack, or ice-cream.

Day 3:
* Arrange to take your partner out on an intimate lunch date.

* Afterward, send a virtual card. Tell them how much you enjoyed lunch together.

Day 4:
* Call your partner in the middle of the day to discuss your romantic plans for that evening.

* Print out some love coupons (find them on-line) and present them to your partner. One might say: this entitles ------ to a full-body massage, and sign your name.

Day 5:
* For the kid in all of us! Use multi-colored, sidewalk chalk to draw a BIG heart in red and write the words, "I love you" in the middle of it. Do this someplace that is prominent such as on your driveway so when your partner comes home he or she will see it.

* Cook a favorite meal for your partner and eat it together, slowly, by candlelight.

Day 6:
*When the weather is good, take a brisk walk along a nature trail with your love and talk about all the reasons why he or she is so special to you.

* If the weather is dreary, have an indoor picnic. Spend the time together, inside enjoying your favorite board games and just relaxing and talking.

* Cuddle up in your PJ's and relish a romantic movie together.

Day 7:
* Just sleep in and cuddle together. Call into work and explain you are "under the weather" and need to rest a bit more before coming in.

* Make a long list of the many reasons why you love your partner as you do and then have them framed and present it to him or her.

How often have you heard the statement, "The passion is gone?" Perhaps you feel you are more like roommates, than lovers. Once the excitement in a loving relationship goes out the door, so can the passion.

Once you have experienced distance in your relationship, and affection starts to wane, you can feel great sadness. When you begin to lose all the important things that mattered to you when you first met, it can be difficult to begin again.

You can breathe new life into your love life! It is time to pour new energy into showing your partner just how much they mean to you.

Even Before you Begin....

**Resolve to never give up! Have a plan and then see it through right until the very end. A good relationship is worth every minute of your efforts!

**If you are feeling you are the only one doing all of the work in this relationship and you just want out, think again! Your interpretation of your relationship will color how you act next.

You need to be positive to move forward. Don't make a rash decision in the heat of the moment. Take some time to cool off, to re-group and then to remain committed. You are going to learn how to enhance your love life!

**Forget about the idea of making another relationship work when the one you are in now needs work. If you are not willing to do the work needed in your current relationship, remember that a new relationship will be even more difficult to work through.We carry the baggage from our unresolved relationships right into the new ones

**Think that the upset you feel now will bring about the wisdom necessary to grow in your relationship, despite the situation. You will be stimulated to face what comes next. Enhancing your love life takes work!

**Fixing a relationship that involves two, takes two. You must both agree to this, otherwise, the relationship will end when one partner refuses to do the work.

**Once the decision to move forward is clear by both parties, enhancing your love life will take both partners working together, making new promises and beginning with a first step.

**There needs to be action now. You both want to be making new choices such as changing your thinking, engaging in new behavioral patterns and changing your relationship from one that is just so-so into one filled with love and promise.

**Remember -- it is much wiser to learn to remake the future than to continue to relive the past. Tell yourself this truth, over and over.

**Rebuild your love life - Work on yourself first. The relationship will follow. Two broken people cannot fix each other. Do something loving for yourself today, and then come back and do something loving for your partner.

**Be honest with yourself - Only you can do the work that you alone need. Learning to love yourself first teaches you how to love others. Learn to love you. Only then will you have the kind of love your partner needs.

**Begin all over again - Begin with a fresh start. Remember when you first met and everything was great? Each of you seemed to know what to do. The relationship was everything you wanted, right? Become re-acquainted. Get to know each other all over again. Begin by wooing each other like you did back then. Think a minute on those special moments. Think about those moments again.

**Resolve now to recreate those good times. You can begin your fresh start in your love life any moment you choose. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. It's time to move forward and without regrets.

**Establish a love life enhancement goal - What is your relationship goal? What is most important to you and to your partner? Spend quality time together talking about what is important to both of you. Set some love life goals. Write them all down on paper. Setting goals will allow you both to control the direction of change you wish for. To follow a new path without knowing where it leads is like walking into a maze.

**Develop a sense of humor - Laugh about anything or nothing at all for 1 minute of each day. Show your loved one your lighter side. Smile and then smile again. It's very catching. Cultivate the positive by only looking at the bright side of things for a change.

**Claim your bliss - Be happy now! It's your choice. Live and love to your absolute fullest and watch as the sparks start to fly.

**Cultivate togetherness - Plan to spend time together. The key now is to "plan." Stand by what you plan. Keep your commitments to be only with your partner. Work on this together and you will accomplish much more.

**Cultivate calm - Don't let disagreements spoil your love life. Freely offer words such as, "I'm sorry," when needed and then put it behind you. Don't waste valuable time nursing a quarrel. Someone has to be first to back down -- might as well be you. Your love life will not thrive in an atmosphere of discord.