A Failed Marriage: How Can I Save My Marriage?

Noooo....she yelled, and she was holding the $600 digital camera in her hands, the camera she was long waiting for, the camera I bought for her last Christmas.

I thought for a minute "Hope she would continue keeping that in her hands".....But not worried about it too much because Sarah wasn't an aggressive person and I never witnessed her chucking things around. But I was wrong..

"I don't want to stay in this city anymore"...."I don't like my job and my boss"..."I don't even know how to save our marriage, can't you see I have been desperately trying to save our marriage and you !.....Sitting in that couch and not even blinking and eye......

Well she was really right about one thing "Her boss was a sleazy bastard, I never liked him either". But also it was a mistake turning my head towards the TV for a second to take a sneak peak to that show. Now I don't even remember which show it was.

But to this day I still remember the pain I felt on my head and the sound of the shattering glass. The camera; after bouncing back from my head, hit the Chrystal vase on the coffee table and it was shattered into million pieces on the floor. My first thought was, "That really hurts and then oops, in-laws are going to be pretty upset". A wedding present worth almost a thousand bucks, an antique piece.

Sarah was wrong about blaming me not working on my marriage.

I remember my sleepless nights; and my days filled with stress and my levels of anxiety growing bigger each passing day. I was thinking over and over again about our failing marriage. I was caught up in a helter skelter and wanted more than anything to receive some marriage help. Deep in my heart I knew that I still loved Sarah and I did not want to be separated or to lose my relationship.

Few months after our breakup, and after the initial enjoyment of being a bachelor phased out, I started to research on my failed marriage.

It is difficult to admit but I was still in love with Sarah. It was kinda' exciting again, because I was back in the library and behind the laptop re-searching. My dear old college days....I was re-living a memory, but this time to work on myself and on my failed marriage.

I am going to enter my diary notes and my lessons learnt from my failed marriage on this web site, one at a time though.....

So My diary shall soon be discovered on this web site.

I also embarked upon sharing some of my views on the internet based on my research on How to save marriages and how to stop divorce. I don't claim to be an expert on the matter; I am just another drop in the Ocean.

I will keep adding sections to this website and continue on my research about why we behave the way we behave.

Sarah and I met at a friend's fifth year anniversary party. My friends were a happily married couple for five years and they were concerned about me still being a bachelor. What I did not know was that Sarah, also a friend of my friend's, was also single. We were matched, "Unknowingly and unmistakably" by our mutual friends.

We met that night and I enjoyed her conversation......Errr..Well very much I need to say. I was also very impressed by her, a confident and beautiful woman. Don't get me wrong she was not a catwalk model, and as a matter of fact she was carrying few extra pounds. When I met Sarah marriage was not at the top of my to-do list. I did not know how to marry someone? Sounds funny but that's how I used to feel.

Eight months down the track, I found myself at the end of the aisle waiting impatiently for her uncle to hand her over to me. We already committed ourselves for a new mortgage, a new car and a new life, but while standing at the end of that aisle the amount of debt was not the first thing in my mind. Life was perfect until....

That night she was the designated driver because I knew she did not like drinking. I like my red wine and I like drinking at least three glasses before I stop. At the end of the second, I heard this anxious voice "I think you had too much already don't get the third one"......Well I was pissed off and gave her "the look" and did not say anything and ofcourse I had the third one and followed by the fourth. Fourth one was just to prove her that I could drink as much as I like. This time it was her turn to give me "the look".



We did not speak until we get home. At the time she pulled up the driveway, I knew it was the calm waters before the storm

We argued as soon as we were inside the house. It was not pretty. She blamed me for being irresponsible and I blamed her for restricting me and claiming ownership on me..

How in the world I did not get that? How in the world she did not get that? We were married and we were in love but we did not blink an eye to dismiss each other like that and arguing to prove our own points. We were not a "unit", we were not a team.


This is possibly the first lesson, something I picked up while reading;

• You and your partner is a unit


• You and your partner is a team

Don't give up on learning new skills to boost your confidence in your marriage use the resources out there to learn easy to implement suggestions.

10 GREAT DATES: The Authors of this book is a married couple: Arps, who have been running Marriage Alive Seminars and this text is built around these seminars. It is filled with suggestions on how to increase communication between the spouses and also shows the ways to put your busy life aside for a few hours and to concentrate each other. It is a tool that helps you to bring closer.

SAVE MY MARRIAGE TODAY: This is an E-Book course easy to download with instant access material from Amy Waterman, an author specializing in attraction, dating, and relationships. Amy has extensive experience in helping thousands of people re-establish love with her insightful and powerful secrets into attracting love and making relationships work.