Save My Marriage Today

It's not easy airing your dirty laundry in public of course, but sometimes it's necessary to keep others from going down the same rocky paths that you go down yourself.

If I could save every marriage I would, but of course that's impossible.

Of course there are some marriages that can't and even shouldn't be saved, but the ones I'm concerned about are the otherwise healthy relationships where two people actually really love and care about each other, but can't seem to get through those little nuisances that keep the marriage in trouble.

Save My Marriage Today helped me and my wife's marriage in a ton of ways. I can't so much speak for my wife, but the ways that it helped me were very revealing of my own personality traits and showed me that I can only control one part of the marriage - MY OWN!

That's the bad news if you want to blame your spouse for everything. I certainly did, and really didn't want any part of someone telling me that I couldn't change the things about her that pissed me off.

I knew that I had flaws, but if she would just stop nagging my flaws wouldn't come out right. Well, it sort of does work that way, but it works the other way too.

Here's what I mean.

It seems that when you stop trying to change your spouse, and actually work on some of the things about you that aren't quite perfect (I know, I was perfect before I got married too) then mysteriously a lot of the things about your spouse that you wanted to change begin to change all on there own.

Not every little thing of course, but in the meantime you realize better ways to deal with those things that make it much better in dealing with her/his imperfections (again, I'm not fully convinced that I ever had these until my moved in with my wife...it's like she brought them into the relationship:)

So, in the long run, I begrudgingly started using the strategies in Save My Marriage Today and ended up really enjoying the process because frankly I (and of course I can't promise that the same thing will happen for you), but I started to see some really great results. I was honestly amazed. It almost felt like I was using some Jedi Mind Trick Reverse Psychology.

It was fun!

We've established that marriage is tough. No duh! But when you don't understand simple strategies to changing your marriage, such as those that are revealed in Save My Marriage Today, then it gets infinitely harder and stays hard.

There were many things that caused my marriage to pretty much suck.

My wife and I got married young, I was from a marriage with a divorce, we had trust issues because of a long distance relationship, etc, etc. Oh yeah, and my wife was very stubborn...oh wait, or was that me?

Yes I had my moments!

Now one of the things that Save My Marriage Today helped me see is that I had this thing where I had to be right all the time, and even if I wasn't right, I would find a way to argue the point to where I was right. Sound familiar?

Almost like a trial lawyer.

I must admit that my wife had a bit of that in her too, and so with the two conflicts of interest at play (both having to be right) with the fact that I REALLY had to be right, it made for very frequent (okay, daily) argument. Sometimes the stupidest little things, and you know what happens with the stupid little things. That's right, they turn into big stupid arguments.

I would sometimes find myself fighting to be right and forget what I was trying to be right about. That's bad.

So why do we do that? Why did I do that? One thing is pride. Here's a really good and another personal article about pride. Pride gets in the way much too often. It's basically as Amy Waterman puts it in Save My Marriage Today "a marriage killer".

When you can't concede to be wrong, or at least agree to disagree nothing ever gets solved, and everything just gets worse and spirals more and more out of control.

Are you the type of person who always has to be right? If so, there are probably other things that you'll discover about yourself and your marriage in Save My Marriage Today.