How To Say I Love You (Before It's Too Late)
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Are We Afraid To Say "I Love You"?
"I love you" seems to be a "loaded" statement. It requires a form of commitment to say these words. We might have to overcome the fear of expressing our true feelings. Maybe we don't trust ourselves to follow up on our momentary emotional honesty. What does it mean for us to say "I love you"? What are the stories, the baggage, the duties we take on by sharing our hearts? What are different ways to say I love you? How to say "I love you" in different languages? Love Poems, Love Notes, and more on this page...
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What Might Happen When We Say "I Love You"
Our minds are sometimes a good thing to waste...
I want to look at the moments when we hesitate to follow our natural desire to say "I love you", or even abandon our initial intention because something scares us into a more "comfortable" silence.
Just as with so many other things in our lives - when we are about to say "I love you" - we take our past and put it into our future!
We quickly go back over our entire emotional history and think about everything that happened the last times we said "I love you", and we expect the same things to happen this time again. We subconsciously pre-load our spontaneous feelings and when we finally decide to express them they come out somewhat like this:
I love you because I usually get a great boost to my self-esteem from your positive reaction and we have a lovely time together until things start to cool off and it gets really awkward for a while and we call it quits and that hurts - and I better shouldn't have said I love you in the first place.
I love you but then you might want to get married and all of a sudden my money goes out the door for all kinds of clothing and furniture which we don't need if we don't move in together leave alone having kids and I work my butt off and have no more fun...let me just say - I really like you!
I love you but what if I'm not good enough for you and when we get closer you'll find out about all my bad habits and weaknesses and I'm sure your mother will have something to say about me that will influence you negatively towards me and I couldn't possibly survive a rejection of my feelings - why can't we just be friends for a while?
Funny, isn't it? Notice how the "I love you's" are closely followed by "I" or "me" references?
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"And I Love You So"
A very beautiful love song by Don McLean
Don Mclean - And I Love You So
Don Mclean preforms his beautiful song "And I Love You So". Cesarea, Israel. January 1979.
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Honestly, When I Say "I Love You" -
I think about me first...
When I say "I love you" - I automatically think of all the benefits I might get from that statement:- A really nice, warm and fuzzy feeling inside.
- A return assurance that you love me, too.
- A friend/partner for the future.
- A grateful smile of appreciation.
- A feeling of satisfaction through my "giving" gesture.
Actually, there's nothing wrong with this list, right? But...
Could it be that there is more to "true love" than an exchange of cozy feelings?
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Could it be that "I love you" means...
I am now committed to your well-being
regardless of my thoughts or feelings?
Questions...
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Could it be that we confuse "love" with "infatuation"?
Should we say "I love you" only when we really mean it? Mean what?
Are there any different degrees and definitions of love?
What is "true love"?
If love hurts - is it love?
Which is "blind" - love or infatuation? Or something else?
"DON'T YOU KNOW THAT I LOVE YOU?!" Hmm...really?
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"True Love" - By 9-Year Old Ben...
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True Love -Ben's Original composition
Ben's original composition at age 9 As tears now, fall from my eyes, The beauty of your composition, i cannot disguise. The breathtaking words and a delicate song, Touched my heart so, i just couldn't go on, Without telling you how much you have just done for me, Giving me hope, that i will find my destiny. Thank you. ~Jenny
We Say I Love You - How? When? Why?
Do we need instructions? Guidelines? Caution?
I've been there. I've said "I love you" and the person pulled away, shocked: "Why did you say that? It's too soon - you don't know it yet!"
Is it necessary - or even possible - to "know it"? Shouldn't "I love you" come spontaneously from the heart?
You say: I love you. How, when, why?
Fetching blurbs now... please stand byI let my heart speak. Whenever I feel like it - I say I love you!
sittonbull says:
I love you ChefKeem... but don't get the wrong idea!!!
How? From the heart... only way I know how!
Why? Your dialogue on this forum and in your blogs speaks from your heart and portray a kind, inquisitive, fun and considerate friend moving forward pro-actively on "The Great Mandela!" The pièce de résistance is your irresistibly clever sense of humor dipped in Agasweet flavored Agave!
Posted February 22, 2009
Joan4 says:
I love you and you are so special. Such an uplifting human being, Chef! I am thankful for you!
Posted February 22, 2009
dana says:
i love you
Posted December 07, 2008
Not so fast! I want to take my time before I say it. There may be consequences.
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Thanks for the inspiring lens--not sure how I missed it!!
Love and thanks!!
Posted May 17, 2009
PaulHassing wrote...
My Dad was married to my Mum for 42 years. In that time, he only said 'I love you' twice. When she died, he regretted this deeply. Now he tells everyone who comes in range. A sad mistake, but at least he learned. And set a very good example for me. Top lens! Thank you! P. :)
Posted April 18, 2009
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Hey BTW the first 2 Flickr pictures didn't work for me when I tried to expand them... Mebbie broken links? Gettin' old and can't see the fine print any more... eh? Can't hear either!....................................................................................
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Posted February 22, 2009
sittonbull wrote...
Well my friend you can look squarely into the mirror and receive the wonderful Karma back from the confident knowledge that you are universally loved on this forum and I'm sure among your family and everyday associates also. Those of us who have been fortunate to be the recipients of unconditional love understand that to be the most important treasure we have! To take that gift and give it away to others is the most important thing we can do... for those we care about, those we want to care about and ultimately for ourselves! It's not hard to see why your lensography is blessed by the Giant Squid Award! Hey it doesn't hurt your ability to write about love when you are in love with a beautiful woman, as you are, either! Congratulations on another wonderful lens! 5 bright stars and a favorite
Posted February 22, 2009
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This is so beautiful and it really makes me feel good. Lensrolling to My Friends. Thank you for this heartwarming read. Love you!
Posted February 22, 2009
Joan4 wrote...
Absolutely beautiful! We have never hesitated to say those three little words, especially with friends and family. In fact, I always grin when I hear hubby on phone with one of his buddies - and they always end the call with "Love ya, Bud" or Love ya, Man". maybe it is our age and we are more aware now of the importance of saying it while we have the chance. But it sure is nice to hear! I love you!
Posted February 22, 2009
Janiece wrote...
P.S. You, or some of your readers, might be interested in the following website: http://www.aletteroflove.com/ The guy who wrote this website was supposed to be at the World Trade Center in NY on 9-11-01...and his meeting was canceled. After this experience, he felt blessed simply to be alive. He wrote a letter to his daughters about how much he loved them and urges others to do the same...before it's too late. His letter is on his website, for those who would like to read it. (By the way, this is not my website, nor am I related to the guy who owns this website. I just thought some of you might enjoy this site!)
Posted February 07, 2009
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