Say Something Nice
Compliments. It is a simple word and a simple concept, but one that many people have trouble with. They find it difficult to give a compliment and even harder to accept one.
Compliments are powerful relationship building tools and that in of itself is an excellent reason to master the skill. But there is a bigger, more compelling reason to offer a compliment, it makes you feel good. You are connecting with another person. Offering a compliment is a simple skill that can change the way you view yourself and the world around you.
Another Perspective
Why Offer Compliments?
The Answer is Simple:
It strengthens your relationships.
It boosts your self-esteem.
It increases your self-confidence.
It makes you feel good.
How does it work?
Every time you give a compliment, you are focused on the other person. You are actively looking for positive traits rather than focusing on the negative. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. I agree, yet I don't. If you truly look, you will find something positive to say. Look for ways to boost the spirits of those with whom you meet. Greet people with a smile. Acknowledge them and make their day brighter by saying something nice. Make it a habit and you will see the world in a different light. Develop the skill. Let it spill over into other facets of your life. The cloud of doom will lift. The obstacles that blocked your path yesterday just may become the possibilities of today.
Be a Beacon on Light!
Smile!
When offering a compliment, using the person's name adds to the effectiveness. Call the person by name and follow it with a smile. "Jenny, you wrote a wonderful story. It touched my heart."
Create a Booster Club of One.
Giving a morale boost to others is great and it makes us feel good as well, unfortunately changing bad habits, like focusing on the negative, takes time and effort. It won't happen overnight. It takes practice.
Practice!
Practice!
Practice!
With a little effort you can turn that frown into a smile. If you're having trouble coming up with something nice to say, listed below are a few praises to practice with. And if you're afraid to practice on a real person, I'm sure your dog would benefit from a compliment or two.
Don't Forget to Smile!
Compliments from Awesome to Zest.
At-A-Boy! That's the way to do it!
You did an awesome job on the project.
You are amazing!
What a beautiful picture!
You care, and that makes a difference.
I knew you were capable of doing it.
Beacons of Light (Kinkade, Thomas)
Be a Beacon of Light!
Attitudes of Gratitude in Love: Creating More Joy in Your Relationship (Attitudes of gratitude series)
Be thankful and don't be afraid to say it.
Your dedication is appreciated.
You have a delightful sense of humor.
Your energy and enthusiasm are contageous.
You tell a fascinating story.
Your presentation was fantastic.
Is Your Smile Famous?
What a gallant offer!
You are a gifted singer.
I commend your generosity.
Hello! I'm glad you're here.
You have been very helpful.
Food For Thought
The Power of Attitude
Attitude Makes a Difference!
Lord, Change My Attitude: Before Its Too Late
You can change your attitude.
I owe you an apology. I apoplgize.
I can always count on you.
I like being around you.
I like you.
I miss you.
I love you.
Bring Joy Into Someone's Heart
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We would love it if you would join us.
What a keen observation!
You are so kind.
You are loyal and I appreciate it.
You have the magic touch.
What a neat idea! Thank you.
Thank you for being open to new ideas.
Your patience is appreciated.
That was quite a presentation. Good job!
You are so right!
You are a savvy competitor.
Thank you.
It's All a Matter of Attitude
Jane Austen's Guide to Good Manners: Compliments, Charades & Horrible Blunders
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The Careful Use of Compliments (Isabel Dalhousie Mysteries)
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Your understanding made all the difference in the world.
Your valiant sacrifice paid off.
Way to go!
What a nice gesture!
It was a wonderful presentation.
You are a winner!
Look and You Will Find a Reason to Smile
You brighten my day!
I love your zest for life.
Do compliments make a difference?
Have you ever received a compliment that spurred you on when you were on the verge of giving up?
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sparklenz says:
Yes completely. Genuine heartfelt compliments reflect people's positive attitude and in times of need can be like shining a beam of sunshine into a shadow. It is so important to know that others believe in you especially if you've almost given up on something, and to let others know that you view them positively too.
Posted October 28, 2009
ronpass says:
Compliments help self-belief in the face of opposition and envy. I have been involved in major change efforts and I find a simple, genuine compliment can energize me as well as remove blockages. I had been working globally to advance action learning as a collaborative, empowering process but my University Dean was actively trying to sabotage my efforts. A newly appointed staff member publicly acknowledged my contribution and that compliment genuinely helped me in lots of ways (not the least, politically).
Posted July 29, 2009
StephanieB-Writer says:
Yes I think that compliments have helped. I go to school, work and live on my own so it's nice to hear that someone is proud of me. It makes me not want to disappoint them or myself. It reassures me that I'm doing the right thing even if I'm exhausted.
Posted June 01, 2009
Tuula_Olin says:
I know that when I have received unexpected compliments, I've felt so good that I've started giving others compliments as well! I think it makes the world a better place to live.
Posted May 17, 2009
No. Compliments make me feel all warm and fuzzy, but they have little impact on my goals and dreams.
KarateKatGraphics says:
I'm usually too stubborn to give up on something I really care about, lol, but like some of the others said, it's super therapeutic for me to *give* sincere compliments. Accepting compliments is a skill I'm still learning. All it takes is a smile and "thanks," right? Doesn't seem that hard...but sometimes it is!
Posted March 11, 2009
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tweety0126 says:
Your lens is great, love the photos. Compliants do go a long way in making a person's day a little brighter. I've received them at times when I really needed some encouragement. I've also given friends compliants when they've needed them and I didn't know until they say, "you don't know how much I needed that today".
tweety0126
Posted November 23, 2008
TrueFX says:
no, not yet :(
but that's why I've took the mission to be there for everyone I know.
I can, however, boast that I have received compliments from people who were grateful for my support and understanding at the moments when it was so important to them.
Posted November 23, 2008
EasyBusinessToStart says:
Not in an earth shattering kinda way. It has helped me have a great day though!
Great lens!
I love the positive vibes!
Joy
Posted November 23, 2008
aijadaina says:
Receiving a sincere compliment can set the tone for the rest of the day. Most of us don't expose our daily life's burdens to the public. You just reminded me not to be so critical of others...
Posted November 22, 2008
Try It!
Try handing out compliments instead of criticism for a day, a week, or even a month. See if it changes your attitude and the attitude of the people around you. I'm willing to bet that the world around you will be a little brighter. You may even find a reason to smile.
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LaraineRose wrote...
Thank you for visiting one of my lenses .. I have enjoyed reading this one and will try to put into practice some of the advice. 5*s and cheers!
Posted September 30, 2009
Pukeko wrote...
Thank You Lizzy. I am currently caught up in a small town and following your advice will say nothing else about it. I am going to try your suggestion for a week and see if my attitude improves. Thanks for visiting one of my lenses, as thats what brought me here to read exactly what I needed to today.
Posted September 22, 2009
puzzlemaker wrote...
Came here by way of Lenses We Like. And I'm so glad I saw it too! I'm taking your recommendations for complimenting others and will put it into practice more and more.
Posted September 14, 2009
Libby_Gill wrote...
This is a wonderful lens! You've share some beautiful artwork and compliments here. When you have a chance, I'd love for you to visit my You Unstuck lens. Be sure to say hello when you stop by!
Posted September 13, 2009
kimmanleyort wrote...
Saying something nice goes a long, long way. Thanks for the reminder!
Posted September 13, 2009
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