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Say Something Nice
Compliments. It is a simple word and a simple concept, but one that many people have trouble with. They find it difficult to give a compliment and even harder to accept one.
Compliments are powerful relationship building tools and that in of itself is an excellent reason to master the skill. But there is a bigger, more compelling reason to offer a compliment, it makes you feel good. You are connecting with another person. Offering a compliment is a simple skill that can change the way you view yourself and the world around you.
Another Perspective
Why Offer Compliments?
The Answer is Simple:
It strengthens your relationships.
It boosts your self-esteem.
It increases your self-confidence.
It makes you feel good.
How does it work?
Every time you give a compliment, you are focused on the other person. You are actively looking for positive traits rather than focusing on the negative. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. I agree, yet I don't. If you truly look, you will find something positive to say. Look for ways to boost the spirits of those with whom you meet. Greet people with a smile. Acknowledge them and make their day brighter by saying something nice. Make it a habit and you will see the world in a different light. Develop the skill. Let it spill over 
into other facets of your life. The cloud of doom will lift. The obstacles that blocked your path yesterday just may become the possibilities of today.
Be a Beacon on Light
Smile!
When offering a compliment, using the person's name adds to the effectiveness. Call the person by name and follow it with a smile. "Jenny, you wrote a wonderful story. It touched my heart."
Create a Booster Club of One.
Giving a morale boost to others is great and it makes us feel good as well, unfortunately changing bad habits, like focusing on the negative, takes time and effort. It won't happen overnight. It takes practice.
Practice!
Practice!
Practice!
With a little effort you can turn that frown into a smile. If you're having trouble coming up with something nice to say, listed below are a few praises to practice with. And if you're afraid to practice on a real person, I'm sure your dog would benefit from a compliment or two.
Don't Forget to Smile!
Compliments from Awesome to Zest.
You did an awesome job on the project.
You are amazing!
What a beautiful picture!
You care, and that makes a difference.
I knew you were capable of doing it.
Beacons of Light
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Be thankful and don't be afraid to say it.
You have a delightful sense of humor.
Your energy and enthusiasm are contageous.
You tell a fascinating story.
Your presentation was fantastic.
Is Your Smile Famous?
You are a gifted singer.
I commend your generosity.
Hello! I'm glad you're here.
You have been very helpful.
The Power of Attitude
I can always count on you.
I like being around you.
I like you.
I miss you.
I love you.
Lord, Change my Attitude
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You can change your attitude.
What a keen observation!
You are so kind.
You are loyal and I appreciate it.
You have the magic touch.
What a neat idea! Thank you.
Your patience is appreciated.
That was quite a presentation. Good job!
You are so right!
You are a savvy competitor.
Thank you.
It's All a Matter of Attitude
Your valiant sacrifice paid off.
Way to go!
What a nice gesture!
It was a wonderful presentation.
You are a winner!
Look and You Will Find a Reason to Smile
You brighten my day!
I love your zest for life.
Do compliments make a difference?
Have you ever received a compliment that spurred you on when you were on the verge of giving up?
Fetching blurbs now... please stand byYes. It was a pivotal point in my life.
howards522 says:
Yes they are amazing! I love complimenting strangers! And making them smile!
Posted October 19, 2011
dannystaple says:
Definitely. If you are at a low point, then a compliment can give you the energy to keep going, to realise it was worth bothering.
Posted September 04, 2011
thebarefootwriter says:
Absolutely. People that don't give compliments either have no goodness or not life at all inside them.
Posted August 19, 2011
Bella_Stella says:
Yes, I still rememer such a moment that did change my life! This is a pleasant lens. Thank you for sharing it with us!
Posted April 19, 2011
No. Compliments make me feel all warm and fuzzy, but they have little impact on my goals and dreams.
bejeezers says:
Absolutely. Encouragement is always a great spur to better things.
Posted February 07, 2012
TheAngelLadies says:
No, but we have received many that gave us a new shot of confidence when we needed it badly!
Posted February 02, 2011
The_Idea_Gal says:
No, because I don't believe in giving up...just moving on with my personal goals. However, compliments about my integrity, values and kindness mean something to me. Compliments about things like driving a nice car or wearing an expensive piece of jewelry don't have as much value.
Posted October 04, 2010
KarateKatGraphics says:
I'm usually too stubborn to give up on something I really care about, lol, but like some of the others said, it's super therapeutic for me to *give* sincere compliments. Accepting compliments is a skill I'm still learning. All it takes is a smile and "thanks," right? Doesn't seem that hard...but sometimes it is!
Posted March 11, 2009
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tweety0126 says:
Your lens is great, love the photos. Compliants do go a long way in making a person's day a little brighter. I've received them at times when I really needed some encouragement. I've also given friends compliants when they've needed them and I didn't know until they say, "you don't know how much I needed that today".
tweety0126
Posted November 23, 2008
Try It!
Try handing out compliments instead of criticism for a day, a week, or even a month. See if it changes your attitude and the attitude of the people around you. I'm willing to bet that the world around you will be a little brighter. You may even find a reason to smile.
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DebMartin
Jan 23, 2012 @ 10:27 am | delete
- You made my day!
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ForestBear
Nov 19, 2011 @ 3:43 am | delete
- Wonderful lens, I really enjoyed my visit. Thank you
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pawpaw911
Oct 24, 2011 @ 6:46 am | delete
- Excellent advice. Great lens.
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CherylK
Sep 29, 2011 @ 1:53 pm | delete
- Lizzy, this is just a wonderful lens! Full of warm fuzzies and everyone can use a warm fuzzy from time to time. Thank you for this. I've always loved the little phrase, "A smile is a silent hello."
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dannystaple
Sep 4, 2011 @ 2:28 am | delete
- This was a really awesome lens - and I will try to give more compliments as it suggests, see how things turn out. Saying something that makes someone smile, does make you feel happy, and I suspect that those who are more likely to give out compliments, are more likely to get them, as long as they are sincere and without sarcasm or flippancy. Blessed!
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