Seduction

Most men live and breath to find the kind of woman who fulfills all their romantic fantasies, because this is the type of woman men will actively pursue for romantic reasons.

Most guys are afraid to show any type of romantic overtones to women - a subtle caress, or an off-color comment has become too much of a "risk." But to the average woman dying for romance, the most romantic gestures can be just as ineffective if not done right.

The art of seduction is more than a talent, or something some men are just more proficient at than others.

Seduction is at its best when you pay attention to your "target." Learning about her needs, passions, and desires will give you the leverage you need to make her attracted to you.

You need to start asking yourself the tough questions - who are you? Do you believe in yourself? Do you think you're attractive? Allowing yourself to be confident will help others to see that confidence in you.

The single best way I know of to step up your game is to build your own confidence. Women find confident men irresistible, and the less confident you are, the harder it is to seduce a woman.

A 'strong' man needs approval from no-one. He is confident in his convictions and knows when to back away without losing face. If you can remain cool and unruffled in the face of failure you will have an advantage not many other men have, because many will turn tail at the first sign of rejection, and some women have programmed themselves to play 'hard to get' without even trying.

Remember: Brave men won't wive forever, but cautious ones won't live at all!

Try and figure out what about you is attractive. Everyone has something they can point to and say "Yes, this is attractive."

Think about the nicest parts of yourself, whether those parts are inside or outside, a kind heart, a winning smile, a good physique - you need to learn how to capitalize on this.

We are always more critical of ourselves than others are of us. Think of what women have previously found attractive about you. Whatever it is you settle on, make that the forefront of your seduction. If you have a great smile - smile at the girl a lot. This can mean the difference between a successful seduction and a failure.

After you have pegged down your greatest assets, its time to bring them to the forefront and use them to seduce the girl you desire. While interacting with her, draw attention to them. Smile at her, make strong eye contact, throw out a joke or two - whatever you've determined are your most seductive attributes, use them!

Romance was mentioned in the beginning, and it's not something to be taken lightly! Some women just love romantic gestures and others don't.

Don't be too obvious or aggressive in showing your attraction for another woman, but don't act like you're not into her when you really are either. Seduction is about subtlety.

When seducing a woman, you have to be willing to take a chance at failing. Often times, being brave enough to flirt or say an off-color joke will give you the edge in making you stand out and heat up the interaction.

Seduction is about creating an atmosphere where words, gestures, and emotion all combine to create an inevitable outcome.

Don't leave anything to chance. Plan ahead as much as possible. Look at what your lady is responding to and what she isn't. Pay attention. Go with the flow, but stick to a game plan. Don't force the seduction, but don't allow it to happen without your influence either.

Last, but not least, take action to close the deal. If you've done your job right, you'll know when its time to get physical. Don't be afraid to make your move and complete the seduction.

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