self test should i get a divorce ?
This test serves as a brainstorming aid, and will not provide you with
a yes or no answer. No test will tell you whether your marriage can
be saved, only you know.
Self Test Should I get a divorce ?
Take your time to think these questions through.
question 1:
Are you happy with your marriage as it is right now?
question 2:
Is your marriage giving or taking emotional energy?
question 3:
Can you see your self and your partner growing old together?
question 4:
Are you or your partner feeling victimized?
question 5:
How do you think your partner would have answered theese
questions?
Are you happy with your marriage as it is right now?
question 2:
Is your marriage giving or taking emotional energy?
question 3:
Can you see your self and your partner growing old together?
question 4:
Are you or your partner feeling victimized?
question 5:
How do you think your partner would have answered theese
questions?
The Facts of Life
And why there is still a very good chance you could save your marriage
If you are having these thoughts, there is a very good chance your marriage can be saved. Reading this proves beyond doubt that you are motivated to make an effort to save your marriage. Otherwise you wouldn`t have bothered to search the Internet for answers.
The question is this: Are you the only motivated person in your marriage?
Recent studies have proved that in spite of what is commonly believed, it is very possible to save a marriage when only one spouse is motivated. Not only is it possible, but with this new approach the success rate is actually significantly better than with traditional marriage counseling. Having both husband and wife at the same sitting can be useful, but more often than not it takes up valuable time to break down barriers in order to get to the problem. The way counseling works is by opening the couples eyes, making them see how they affect their spouse. It is always easy to see what is wrong in other peoples marriage, but when you are stuck in the trenches it is impossible to see what is what, and who is to blame.
The new approach is to work with only one spouse, the motivated one. Why waste valuable time on the one that is not ready yet? When the motivated spouse comes home full of insight changes will happen. Nobody is asking you to be the only one to change, it is never the individuals who got it wrong. It is the dynamics between the partners that has gone wrong, and it takes very little to change this pattern.
An example of a pattern could be the husband always avoiding certain issues, much to the wifes distress. No matter how much she probes, he just gets more and more defensive.
In his mind, she is a relentless inquisitor always wanting answers.
In her mind, he is one of those silent husbands who never share their feelings.
They now each have a mindset that the other person always acts in a certain way, and this will influence all their interactions.
What was the problem in the first place?
Chances are they will never know, unless the tension is lifted. Maybe it was just a silly thing he didn´t feel comfortable to tell her, too embarrassing perhaps.
The above example is illustrating the core mechanics of how patterns in a marriage develop over time, and how they affect the dynamics in the family. Now, as I stated earlier it only takes one motivated spouse to make things change. If one gains the insight to spot these faults in the dynamics they can be attacked sideways so to speak.
It is not easy to do without guidance, as all married couples have a tendency to look for faults, either in the other person or in themselves. Even marriage counselors break up and psychologists get divorced.
To read more about this newly developed counseling system, and get a free email consultation click here.
Save the marriage
The question is this: Are you the only motivated person in your marriage?
Recent studies have proved that in spite of what is commonly believed, it is very possible to save a marriage when only one spouse is motivated. Not only is it possible, but with this new approach the success rate is actually significantly better than with traditional marriage counseling. Having both husband and wife at the same sitting can be useful, but more often than not it takes up valuable time to break down barriers in order to get to the problem. The way counseling works is by opening the couples eyes, making them see how they affect their spouse. It is always easy to see what is wrong in other peoples marriage, but when you are stuck in the trenches it is impossible to see what is what, and who is to blame.
The new approach is to work with only one spouse, the motivated one. Why waste valuable time on the one that is not ready yet? When the motivated spouse comes home full of insight changes will happen. Nobody is asking you to be the only one to change, it is never the individuals who got it wrong. It is the dynamics between the partners that has gone wrong, and it takes very little to change this pattern.
An example of a pattern could be the husband always avoiding certain issues, much to the wifes distress. No matter how much she probes, he just gets more and more defensive.
In his mind, she is a relentless inquisitor always wanting answers.
In her mind, he is one of those silent husbands who never share their feelings.
They now each have a mindset that the other person always acts in a certain way, and this will influence all their interactions.
What was the problem in the first place?
Chances are they will never know, unless the tension is lifted. Maybe it was just a silly thing he didn´t feel comfortable to tell her, too embarrassing perhaps.
The above example is illustrating the core mechanics of how patterns in a marriage develop over time, and how they affect the dynamics in the family. Now, as I stated earlier it only takes one motivated spouse to make things change. If one gains the insight to spot these faults in the dynamics they can be attacked sideways so to speak.
It is not easy to do without guidance, as all married couples have a tendency to look for faults, either in the other person or in themselves. Even marriage counselors break up and psychologists get divorced.
To read more about this newly developed counseling system, and get a free email consultation click here.
Save the marriage
Useful links
- Save the marriage review
- A review of the best selling e book "save the marriage".
