Should I Stay In A Sexless Marriage

1 - Sleeping Apart

Couples on the brink of collapse start to gravitate away from each other. This can be a defensive mechanism to protect oneself against confrontations. Those who find themselves avoiding their spouse are really avoiding the problems that are keeping them apart in the first place.

2 - Avoiding Contact

People need their space, but when the intervals of being apart get out of hand it's time to sit down with your spouse and talk about what is driving you apart.

3 - Verbal Abuse

Disagreements are part and parcel of married life. Being in a committed relationship breeds differences of opinion. There our boundaries and limits to these little spats. When your spouse is yelling at you and taunting you with insults they are crossing that boundary.

You must take stock of your arguments and how they make you feel. Are these disagreements turning into all-out attacks? Do you feel safe while they are happening? Have they ever escalated into something more?

This issue needs to be addressed. Pick a neutral time and place to broach the subject. Setting ground rules can help each person feel protected and appreciated. Seeking professional help may be needed.

4 - Fantasizing About Divorce

Any married person has had a fleeting "what if" thought every now and again. Marriage can become a routine, and the excitement can grind down to a rut. Are you dreaming of living another life, with someone new? Do you daydream about running off and starting over?

These thoughts can be normal, but if they start to dominate your life this can be a problem. Fantasies are perfect, they are idealized versions of how we wish things could be. Life isn't perfect. There are peaks and valleys all around us. Married people are very susceptible to "the grass is always greener" thinking.

Sharing your feelings with your spouse can be a wonderful first step to understanding where you both stand in your relationship, you may find that your have more in common than you thought.

5 - Lost Interest In Working On It

You feel at the end of your rope. You feel like you've done everything to make your marriage work. From your perspective it seems hopeless and that divorce is inevitable.

There could be legitimate reasons for feeling this way. A marriage is a commitment, and commitments equal hard work. People change over the course of a relationship, sometimes they can change so much that they find themselves incompatible. Communicating your true thoughts and feelings is the first step to getting your needs met. You'll never know until you try.

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