Signs Of A Controlling Spouse

Signs of a controlling spouse can come in many different ways, and often times it can start out quite meaningless, but then it can grow to where the victim is no longer to do anything on their own.

Often times the circle of controlling behavior can go around and around. Here is a quick example of what happens a lot in a controlling relationship;

1. The controlling spouse treats the victim nicely at the beginning of the relationship.
2. The controlling spouse then starts controlling the victim more and more.
3. The spouse apologizes and tried to make up.
4. The relationship is good again for a little while.
5. Then the circle continues with more controlling behavior.

If you are not sure if your spouse is trying to control you, here are a few things to think about. Understand that all relationships are different, these are just examples and are not meant to be definite signs of a controlling spouse.

Does your spouse allow you to use the car? What about credit cards and money? Are you able to use a cell phone to call other people besides your spouse?

A controlling spouse will often start controlling the victim slowly, but then build up to never trusting the spouse and always being suspicious of them. Many times the controlling spouse will let the victim use a cell phone, but only so that they can call them to make sure that the victim is where they are suppose to be, or to find out what they are doing.

If you feel that you might be in a controlling relationship, be sure to seek advice from professional qualified doctor or educator. Knowing the signs of a controlling spouse is the first step in getting help before the situation gets any worse.

If you are in an abusive relationship, I strongly suggest that you leave your partner.

You may not need to leave for good, but do not stay in the same house with them until you are 100% sure that they will not abuse again.

If your partner tricks you or acts like any of the following situations, then these can be signs of a controlling spouse.

1. Controlling people will often guilt you into doing things for them.

2. Many will put conditions on how they treat you if you do not do something for them.

3. They might threaten you or someone/something else if you do not obey them.

4. Those that control will often make you feel that you owe it to them to do something for them.

5. If you do not do what they want, they may make you feel incompetent at past or current activities.

6. Intimidation is also a tool that controlling spouses often use.