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  • kat Jul 20, 2009 @ 11:26 pm | delete
    I married my husband mistaking obsession and control for love. I was given anything I wanted as long as I walked his tight rope. I wasn't allowed to take breaks at work without spending every second on the phone with him. If I was a few minutes late in calling( ie having used the restroom), I heard about it and instructed that I MUST call as soon as I go on break. He inquired on everyone I spoke to and followed up by cross interrogating the person and me to validate if our conversations matched.

    All my friends and family were called names and my association with them was always scrutized and criticized. Even my children from a former marriage were routinely targeted
    for critisism and his brutal judgment. In the end, after twelve years, he's isolated me from everyone. He controls the money.

    My cell phone records are fine combed and every number unrecognized questioned relentlessly. He shows up unexpectedly wherever I'm shopping.

    Will be away from this soon.
  • meesha May 14, 2009 @ 7:46 am | delete
    i dont know where i am in this relationship he doesnt beat me. he talks to me as if im hurting him. making him choose me over the wrong things that he do. he curse me out when things dont go right in his life. saying i dont love him at all. if i dont answer my phone or text message or take to long answering him im cheating. i really think he might become phyiscal.
  • Teresa J Apr 6, 2009 @ 11:05 pm | delete
    My husband doesn't want me to clean, was clothes, or vacuum etc., He comes in whenever he wants and he moved us 1200 miles from my family. I cant find a job. Sometimes I feel I cant do anything right. But then I think I took care of myself 39 years before I met him. My ex- husband was worse but at least he could take care of the bills.
  • martha Feb 24, 2009 @ 4:08 pm | delete
    a form of not communication with a partner, alienation,. change the situation, get out go to a friend house, or to a shopping center, spend the whole day, it has help me when he no longer
    want to take me anywhere on our cars. I have no license.
  • Sonya Aug 9, 2008 @ 7:36 am | delete
    some form of punishment for not complying to a request/demand or a "slight" felt by the partner.The punishment might be a hurtful act or verbal put down or a threat.
  • amanda Jun 23, 2008 @ 1:56 pm | delete
    get out it gets worse dont look back and use the no contact rule ur worth more

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