Single Moms Journey

To build your own network, you will require a willingness to learn new
things, to change, and to meet new people. With a willingness to learn, opportunities
will come that will present themselves in different and unexpected ways.
Also, receiving help allows us to give support to others who may need it. It is contagious.
Networking is all about creating a circle of people who can influence others
and situations in ways that we never thought possible.

Again quoting The One Minute Millionaire, Hansen and Allen state that
any one person in the world is only six-people deep. If you need help or support
in parenting, then network. If you need some help in business, then network. If
you need financial backing or clothes for a new career-or help in training for
your dream job-then network! The only requirement is that you step out in
faith and not worry about what others think of you.
Force yourself to go out if you must
I know that I make this sound simple, but it has not always been that way
for me. I remember going to meetings alone; sometimes seminars, sometimes
church, and frequently Chamber of Commerce meetings or study groups. At
first, there were many times I didn't really feel like going anywhere, but I did anyway.
So should you. Inside I am shy, but I force myself to become an extrovert so
as to not isolate myself and to let myself feel more alive. I have met many interesting
people and the more I step out to network, the less scary it is. Somehow it
provides me with more of life's tools on learning how to live and how to heal. By
reaching out into the community-even in small doses-you can become part of
the whole. You'll find that you will believe in yourself more and more and your
opportunities will soar!

Be selective about who you let into your circle. This is not meant to be a
snobbish statement but rather for you to be aware that not everyone is trustworthy,
and some people can drain you of your valuable time and energy. The old
saying Birds of a feather, flock together is truer than you think. There are plenty of
networking groups you can join. The Chamber of Commerce in your area probably
holds monthly mixers, and there are book clubs, churches, and seminars held
on all types of subjects. If you like sales, find a product and try network marketing.
Just step out and start somewhere.

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

Unlock your mind and be free

Self-love puts us at peace. It can break the chains of abuse, addiction, self-condemnation,
illness, guilt, mental confusion, and despair. An affirmation from
Louise Hay's book is I love and accept myself. She says to write it 500 times (she
likes to write, too) and say it over and over until it sinks in. This is one way to help
the chains of your past fall off, whether you are a millionaire or are in prison.
Trusting in the process of life also helps us break free for good. At the
beginning of this book, we went over the beginning steps of letting go in the healing
process. Then we went into all of the actions we could take for change to happen
in our life. In this chapter, trusting in life's process might seem redundant,
but the trust process is at a different level every time we encounter change or
growth in our life. Every time we think we have it all worked out, life may throw
us a challenge or two, bringing us to the next level of trust.

Life is a continuing cycle and each achievement or milestone in life brings
us to a higher level of confidence. It's at a level that allows us to do our parenting,
or to accomplish whatever it is that needs to be done at the time. During the
tougher times we were forced to only be and trust so that we could just make it
through. The more we trust, the less a crisis can take hold of us, and the more we
are able to break free from the shackles of fear.

By now, we probably have fewer control issues and probably are more at
peace with ourselves and with our children. We look at our kids with joy. We
trust God to provide for us and for our needs. Now, if we get laid off or lose our
jobs, we know we can find another one. We also know that if we lose our house,
we can find another home, because we have done it before. If our children chip a
tooth, we can get it fixed, and if our children are sad, then we allow them to
express these emotions, knowing they will soon come out of the sad feelings. We
trust that the love we have for them will make up for any inadequacies and they
will grow up OK.

We know that whether we are sad, excited, or feeling chaotic, there is now
an underlying feeling of peace and contentment. At the beginning, when we were
first separated, we felt so scared and alone. If you are still at this fearful place in
your life, relax and know that it is not forever and you can arrive at a place of
trust and peace. Knowing this fact is instrumental in allowing you to break the
chains.

If you are still on the bridge and are balancing all of the aspects of your life,
you probably have sporadic moments of peace. The further you go on in your
journey, the less sporadic these peaceful times will be and you will start to trust
that the bridge will hold you and bring you to the other side.

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"