Spending Time With Lost And Forgotten Sisters

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Nothing Short Of A Miracle Is What I'm Calling My Life!

The year of 2013 was a year that I will never forget, unlike any of the past 25 years in my life this year brought surprises that will be cherished by me forever.

It didn't have many changes when it first arrived, in fact 2013 was moving along just like any year, there was work, bills, medical problems along with all of the other live challenges that come year after year. As the year was coming to an end I had no idea that this would be the year that would change my life forever.

I should tell you a little about me before I continue, something that most people even my closest friends and family don't know. I have a hard time showing my true feelings, I'm not an easy person to read and always come off like nothing matters to me. I've gone through my entire life with an I don't care attitude and this started around the year I was about fifteen. This attitude followed me throughout my entire adult life which caused me to have difficulty with relationships from men, my children and yes even my sisters.

Then one day without any warning what so ever I turned fifty and my attitude towards others changed, I wanted to show people that I really do care. I wanted to reconnect with family members that I had lost or forgotten about, people that had been a part of my life when I was younger and by that I mean sisters!

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This Is About Sisters


I do have three brothers actually four I've been told
A story for another time!

When Was The Last Time You Talked To Your Sister?

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If you have a sister this is the side to add your answer should you want to share with the world

flinnie says:

I talked to my sister about two weeks ago.

philipcaddick says:

My sister is in a different country, I see her as often as possible.

GimperBee says:

About a week ago via SMS.

says:

Today.............

WendyG43 says:

I try to talk to my sister at least once a week. I get a kick out of her.

If you don't have a sibling what about a best friend that you considered close as a sister

sierradawn says:

I talked with my best friend yesterday on the phone. We write online everyday. I don't have a biological sister to love but she is all the sister in the world to me!

LynnKK says:

No sisters but I have a sister in law I talk with several times a week.

gottaloveit says:

Sadly, my last conversation with my only sister was in December, 1989. She died in a car crash that December. I do though have a lot of sisters in my life - these are the women I've chosen to become closest to and consider them my own sisters.

katiecolette says:

I always wanted to have siblings, but, unfortunately, I am the only child of my parents :( I do have a couple besties and we are very close.

Margaret Brown says:

I don't have any siblings, but I talk to my best friends a few times every week.

 
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My name is Karien and I am the oldest of four girls, yes that's right my father didn't get what he wanted most a son!

My name is Karien and I am the oldest of four girls, yes that's right my father didn't get what he wanted most a son!

Living Without Sisters

How many do I have in my life, six to be exact and not all are related by blood

This is a little history about my sisters then I'll proceed to the rest of the story, it's important to note the first three are biological siblings with the last three being step sisters. I have never really used the word "step" they were always my sisters even if we did have different biological parents. My father and their mother (both have long since passed) were together for years as man and wife.

As for my biological sisters you should know that I am the oldest of the four of us and I'm sure I have some form of guilt hidden deep inside, being the oldest I should of been there for them.
  1. Patricia - was born a few years after me and I'm the first to admit that growing up as children I was not very nice to her, in fact I was a mean older sister. We drifted apart in our teens and after we had children of our own we tried to have a sister relationship but it didn't last. Jumping ahead to the last couple of years we have been trying hard to reconnect and even though we only live about 45 minutes from each other we only get together a couple times a year.
  2. Noel - being a few years younger than Patricia was annoying she always wanted to tag along with me and my friends as children and it seemed that my parents thought I made the perfect free babysitter. Again as teens we drifted apart and as adults in our early 20's we just couldn't make the sister relationship work. Noel than soon dropped off the face of the earth disappearing for 25 years with no contact verbal or otherwise. This haunted me for years I even had the terrible thought that she was deceased and that I would never know the truth, when I turned fifty I went on a crusade to find her.
  3. Donna - is the youngest and was born with "Cerebral Palsy" and severe "Intellectual Disability" she was not predicted to live past the age of two. Didn't she fool the doctors Donna has lived in a special home all of her life and this year 2014 she will be celebrating her 50th birthday. I don't see her much in fact I only visit once a year at Christmas time, she doesn't talk but seriously I do believe that she knows it's me especially when I sing to her, for the two years that she was a part of our family I sang to her when she was a baby.
  4. Laara - is the oldest of my step siblings to clarify I mean when it comes to sisters, she has been in my life for most of the time, in fact she is godmother to my son. When our parents first got together I was a rebellious teenager and Laara was already married with two sons of her own, she treated me as a sister right from the first day we met. My fondest memory of this amazing sister was the time she tried to teach me how to make strawberry pie even though she did most of the work. Laara had more patience than you could imagine and she never gave up on me as a teen, when I had my first born (Angie) Laara was there to help this young teen mother. Over the years we have stayed in contact via Facebook but sadly we haven't seen each other since the day my son graduated grade twelve in the year 1999.
  5. Linda - lived a few blocks away from me when I came to live with my father and her mother as a teen in Willow River, BC. she too was married with two sons of her own at that time. I don't really have many memories about that time except I do know that I would visit from time to time and if Linda reads this maybe she could share stories that she remembers. We lost touch over the years and reconnected on where else, yes that's right Facebook we communicate with each other once in awhile.
  6. Vicki - was married to a man that I grew up with as a child, in fact his parents and mine were best friends from the time I was about two until my parents divorced around the age of twelve, talk about a small world. When I met Vicki she too was a mother of a young son and they lived in my hometown Terrace, BC in fact if memory serves me well I think that's where I first met Vicki. I never saw her much after meeting her the first time they lived quite far from where we were living so if we did get together it was for a holiday like Christmas as an example. We are friends on you guessed it Facebook (who isn't on there) and talk from time to time, until recently and I should mention that we had not seen each other for something like twenty years or more.

My Sister My Friend

This song goes out to each and everyone of you

I may not of wrote this song and I’m sure that won’t matter when I say this speaks from the heart.

A Sister's Love

Great ideas for showing that you care about them

Reunions Last A Lifetime

When your past catches up to your present life

I was so happy to see Vicki this past December I’m just sad that it had to be under the circumstances that brought us together after all those passing years. Vicki maybe a step sibling but to me she will always be family and when I found out that she was coming to Vancouver for a life altering surgery I just had to see her. She was scheduled to be in the city for something like three weeks, one of which she was to spend in the hospital. On the first visit I took Patricia and her daughter (my niece) Pearl with me, I thought it was important for Patricia to realize that we still have siblings that aren’t related by blood but still do matter in our lives. It turned out to be a very pleasant night and we even got to meet Vicki’s new love in her life which was a long time coming, in fact I found Don to be a very funny guy. We spent a few hours hanging out, drinking coffee and chatting up a storm and you gotta know that Don was the only guy surrounded by four women talking, talking and talking some more.

The next time I saw Vicki was after her surgery when her and Don came out to my house to spend the evening. I was happy to learn that after spending the week in the hospital Vicki had become a non smoker, now if only I could follow in her footsteps to quit. Anyways they had dinner here, we ordered out for home delivery and not sure why Don insisted on picking up the tab, but he did (and for that I’m still very thankful for). I would of gladly paid the bill they were my guests in my home next time I guess. I had offered to let them stay here but when I found out they were coming they had already made other arrangements which was to bad for me, catching up on the past had to be stuffed into a few hours whether I liked it or not.

I am ever so grateful to have had the opportunity to visit with Vicki, it was along time coming in fact I’m going to say it was close to twenty years maybe even twenty five since I last saw her, heck it might of been even longer.

A Siblings Love Never Ending

Whether she's your true sibling or a best friend you consider as one

There's no greater love than knowing that you have someone in your life that you can count on. Of course if you've been following along you know that I haven't always been there like I should of been.

The Year For Sisterhood

2013 was one perfect year for reconnecting with the lost and forgotten sisterhood of my past and it will never be forgotten!

Lost But Never Forgotten

What happens when someone you love goes missing for years

Now if your still with me then you know that Noel disappeared from my life twenty five years ago, that was a long time to go without any form of communication. When I turned fifty I made it my life’s goal to try and find her and even though some people told me that she could be deceased I thought it was worth the effort on my part, after all what did I have to lose I had already lost a person that was an important part of my life.

So my crusade began I wrote a webpage and started sending it out to every place on the internet I could think of, I knew in my heart that someone, somewhere knew who she was and where she was living, at least that’s what I kept telling myself. I can’t count the number of times I put it out there on Twitter hoping that someone would post it and eventually it would make it’s way to where it was suppose to go. This may sound easy but take it from me it wasn’t I got a lot of spam, people claiming to be Noel and even a few that said they knew her but in the end they were nothing but a hoax.

Then on September 9, 2013 I got a friend request on Facebook from a woman going by the name Christine Woodard, whom by the way I didn’t know. So I had to ask “I would accept your friends request but I have no idea who you are, sorry don’t know you although my memory isn’t what it used to be. Maybe you could tell me how we know each other, thanks.”A few days went by and I got aother message saying Seen as how you are filling up the internet about me you should know me, haven`t you talked to Patricia lately? i contacted her also.”This puzzled me since Patricia and I don’t talk on a regular basis so I just had to say “I know who your saying you are, but there’s no proof of that I’ve had many emails from people saying their Noel your not the first so unless you can tell me something that only she and I would know I have no reason to believe you. I don’t mean to be rude but there has been lots of Noel’s and not one could supply proof, maybe you are her and then again maybe not!”

That was the beginning of what would have a turn of events, after I asked her a few questions about our childhood back when we were all still in grade school which she either answered with the right answer or couldn’t remember, she would then come up with her own memories that I did remember. This went on for close to a month with us sending messages back and forth to each other, then on October 7, 2013 I realized that I was indeed talking to my missing younger sister, after I read her last message that helped me realize that it was truly her I just sat there staring at the screen for the longest time pretty much in a complete daze.

I must admit that after I accepted the fact that it was really her I didn’t reply back for almost a week, now I had nothing to say or maybe I just didn’t know what to say after all I had been searching for her close to four years by then. Twenty five years was along time to go without talking so really what was another week or so that’s just how I felt at the time it’s a huge culture shock to finally find the person that you’ve searched for over the years.

Fifties Bite Us Back

When we were younger we did look alike as you saw earlier in the 60's image, but what about now

Do You think that me and my biological siblings look alike?

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What's Next For Us

Will we ever have that relationship that we had as kids

Months have gone by now and we talk on a regular basis, in fact we no longer spend hours typing with one another we have finally graduated to video chat. I do have to say that the first time we decided to video chat it was a little awkward, after all what do you say to a person that’s been missing out of your life for twenty five years.

In the beginning we talked mostly about our childhood way back before we became teenagers I think that might of been how we broke the ice between us, nothing uncomfortable just a few funny stories to ease the tension. Then we slowly progressed to the unsaid conversations the things that we never talk about with anyone else in our worlds. Once we were past all the terrible things that had happened in our lives we began building a new relationship, one that we should of had all these years.

It’s only the start of the new year and already we are having conversations about the future and really who knows 2014 might even be a better year than 2013 was, maybe this is the year that we finally get to have that long awaited reunion, the day that were both sitting in the same room after a 1/4 of a century!

Countdown to National Sisters' Day

National Sisters' Day: August 3, 2014

Now You Know How I Feel About My Sisters

What are your thoughts do you have any in your family?

Share a little about your family life if you like, or just say how many siblings you have and whether there brothers or sisters it don’t matter.
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  • Ladymermaid Feb 14, 2014 @ 10:56 am
    Wishing you a very wonderful love filled Valentine's day. Hope it is filled with all kinds of sweet ooey gooey good treats.
  • flinnie Jan 18, 2014 @ 1:57 am
    Hi congrats on finding your sisters again and your lens LOTD. I am happy for you.
  • dudexyx Jan 13, 2014 @ 1:14 pm
    I have a younger brother and sister. They can be a pain in neck but still love them. ))
  • philipcaddick Jan 12, 2014 @ 3:39 pm
    I have a sister and two brothers, I am the youngest.
  • GimperBee Jan 11, 2014 @ 11:04 pm
    We have enough sisters in our family to make up a netball team :)
  • Rolezhan Jan 09, 2014 @ 3:06 am
    I have one younger sister, I like your point of view
  • sierradawn Jan 09, 2014 @ 2:37 am
    I was separated from my daughter when she was 3. I had to wait until she turned 18 to be reunited with her. I knew the day would come and it did. Now we are sharing the rest of our lives together.
  • dariencmf Jan 08, 2014 @ 8:56 pm
    It good to get hear that you are able to get connected with your love ones. I am hoping for the same miracle as well.
  • rauspitz Jan 08, 2014 @ 7:21 pm
    Very cool story. Congratulations on getting LotD!
  • veryirie Jan 08, 2014 @ 6:32 pm
    No sisters, just brothers. They live in the mainland. I usually get to see them once a year.
  • TanoCalvenoa Jan 08, 2014 @ 4:07 pm
    I have two younger sisters, and see them or talk to them regularly.
  • Graceonline Jan 08, 2014 @ 4:03 pm
    What wonderful gifts you and your sisters are giving to each other in reuniting and spending time together after all these years. I am touched especially by your story of finding Noel after such a long time. I pray that your healing, and the healing of your sisters, continues until your hearts are completely at peace and filled with nothing but love, all the hurt vanished and forgotten.

    Thank you for blessing all families, especially those with lost loved ones, with your story, and a huge congratulations on this lens being featured as Lens of the Day. Well deserved honor!
  • LynnKK Jan 08, 2014 @ 3:40 pm
    Congratulations on LOTD. Positive thought to you as you continue reconnecting.
  • d-artist Jan 08, 2014 @ 2:54 pm
    Congratulations on LOTD! What a great and interesting story...thanks for sharing! I have one sister (my twin) She is the only living relative in the US. I know how you feel about a live changing event, how that can become an obsession for closure.
  • Papier Jan 08, 2014 @ 2:40 pm
    How rewarding for you to have made the effort and now reap the rewards of reconnecting with your sisters. I can just imagine what a girl-only reunion weekend would be like at a cabin up in Banff, for example. Never had a sister, myself, and the one woman who proclaimed herself my 'real sister' just announced at a gathering that her friendship with me is no different from that with any other person and has almost disappeared out of my life. I say, your earnestness is a treasure and may you all be blessed in reconnecting.
  • ElaineMarlowe Jan 08, 2014 @ 2:15 pm
    I have 3 sisters and 1 brother, another brother died 7 years ago. My brothers and my two older sisters are half sisters but like you I have never thought of them as anything other than full siters.
  • susan-zutautas Jan 08, 2014 @ 1:14 pm
    What a wonderful story. Thank you for sharing this. Congrats on your lens being chosen as LOTD!
  • esmonaco Jan 08, 2014 @ 12:42 pm
    Good for you, reuniting with family, My family is so importantat to me, my brothers live in a different state but we do stay in touch and up to date. Congratulations on LOTD!!
  • RenaissanceWoman2010 Jan 08, 2014 @ 11:42 am
    May you continue to be blessed as you come to know family members in deeply meaningful ways. Life can be pretty empty without close family connections. Congratulations on Lens of the Day!
  • Merrci Jan 08, 2014 @ 11:40 am
    What a great lens. Thanks for letting us read about your journey! Congrats on LotD.
  • DaisyDixon Jan 08, 2014 @ 10:53 am
    Very touching! I have 1 younger sister, and 6 older brothers! Thank you for sharing!
  • DaveStone13 Jan 08, 2014 @ 10:23 am
    Our parents broke up when we were all very young, and although each of us (5 altogether) grew to be very different, we've kept the links open, some stronger than others. But in general, probably because we are all but one boys, the bonds are not what they are between you and your sisters.
  • Evelyn_Saenz Jan 08, 2014 @ 9:50 am
    I have a sister and a brother. My sister and I are always in contact with each other, my brother not so much. Facebook has been wonderful for keeping us in touch. I even connect with my brother more now because of Facebook. Congratulations on Lens of the Day but even more so on connecting with your sisters. There is no bond like the bond of family.
  • RuchiK Jan 08, 2014 @ 9:48 am
    Nice to read this Lense !!!
    I have one sister today we just met & had snacks together & enjoyed a lot discussing our old memories
    We both are married & now actually we are more close to each other ... Just want to say I love my Sister a lot :)
  • flora-crew Jan 08, 2014 @ 9:35 am
    I enjoyed your story. I had only one sister growing up. We fought a lot and in adulthood did not see eye to eye on much but I have missed her these last eight years - she died of lung cancer.
  • gottaloveit Jan 08, 2014 @ 9:29 am
    I have two brothers; the eldest, who is 18 years older than I are the closest. My other brother? That relationship died the day of my Mom's funeral. Quite sadly, I'm fine with that.
  • Susan52 Jan 08, 2014 @ 8:27 am
    I'm so happy for you, that you were able to reunite with your sisters. I don't see my siblings very often, but, thankfully, we do stay in touch on a regular basis. Congratulations on your very sweet and touching Lens of the Day!
  • StephenJParkin Jan 08, 2014 @ 7:31 am
    I have two sisters and a brother, and we really do not often get together. Funny how life drives you apart I am in Canada and my big sister is in Virginia, whilst my younger brother and sister are in England still. Life is a struggle and leads us all in different directions. We are still family though and are in touch via Facebook etc.
  • favored1 Jan 08, 2014 @ 1:27 am
    What a blessing to be reunited with your family. I hope you all get to make new memories together for many years. Congratulations on LotD as well.
  • nancycarol Jan 08, 2014 @ 1:08 am
    I've been searching for a granddaughter who was adopted when her mother (my daughter) was only 15. I also wrote a lens about the search. We have no clue as to what her name is, or where she may be, only her birthdate and place of birth is known to us. I'm happy for you that your search was successful. Enjoy getting to know each other again. :-)
  • peppypatricia Jan 08, 2014 @ 12:47 am
    Hey there sister congrats for making Lens of the Day.
  • Brite-Ideas Jan 05, 2014 @ 2:15 am
    I have an amazing story myself, similar to this except for one detail - I found out I had a sister when I was 30 - and she's a wonderful person, loved by all of us, loved deeply. So glad you're reconnected, after all that's what really matters in life isn't it.
  • vallain Jan 04, 2014 @ 11:53 pm
    I'm pleased for you that you've reconnected with your sisters. It really weighs on me being estranged from one sister this year.
  • shoputopian Jan 05, 2014 @ 12:58 am
    I know just how your feeling it tears at your heart like nothing else. I hope that you are able to reconnect with her somehow this year for both of you.
  • wiseriverman Jan 08, 2014 @ 2:43 pm
    Imagine how it would weigh on you if something were to happen to her. Life is too short, turn the other cheek and make friends while you still can. Daniel

What About The Author

A little about me Karien...The oldest of four girls

Click here for my full profile and see the things that interest me the most As you can see I live in B.C, Canada and in fact I love it so much I even did an article on it Why I Call British Columbia Home. I enjoy writing online and lately I think to be honest I’ve become addicted to it, especially when it comes to sharing here on Squidoo.

I am a mother of two, both my son and my daughter are adults now with lives of their own and I never see them, I guess somewhere in their lives they may have to start writing their own stories about how they have forgotten their mother.

I have two dogs that are seven years old and two cats one is on his way out (old age) and it’s just a matter of time. Actually it’s me that has to make that decision and quite frankly I’m not ready to let him go just yet, I did a story about him here When You Cross Paths With a Black Cat are the Superstitions Fiction or Fact. I have a loving husband who simply adores me I couldn’t ask for anymore than that, my life may not be perfect but it’s getting better as each year passes. There’s not much more to say about my life, I’m not that exciting in fact most of the time I’m usually at home trying to come up with more topics that I should share with the world. If you’d like to see the things that interest me the most just click on my ID badge and it will take to my complete list of topics that I have written in the past.