Stay Happy in Marriage With These Tips!

Despite the misgivings of these people i know you can have marital bliss through following a checklist of tips to stay happy in marriage. These are three of my favorite that YOU can do even if your partner doesn't that will promote love and you will be amazed to find is reciprocated as well!

1. Respect

How many items have you been frustrated with your spouse and their decisions or points of view? How often have you come to roll your eyes or violently disagree with them and show it?

These are just some cases of disrespect which seems to thrive in modern marriages. Some use it to try to dominate the other person to make themselves feel superior or in charge and others just have an attitude of being right all the time no matter what. It does not matter .... even if you ARE right showing disrespect in the way you interact with your lover is a good way to build a wall of resentment.

Here are two good tips to avoid this:

• When you are right SHUT UP! Saying 'I told you so' does nothing.
  
• When you are wrong ADMIT IT! Nothing is worse that knowing you are wrong but letting your ego get in the way.
  
• When there is conflict that the outcome is uncertain. Never lose your temper and always be as respectful as if you were talking to someone you respect enormously ... this should in time BE your spouse!
  

2. Throw Away The Scorecard

Do you keep a loose list of wrongs your partner has done to you over the years? Do you bring them up when arguments arise to 'prove a point' or to counter one of their stinging barbs? Marriage is not a battle, it is not a game nor a sport ... there is no point in winning an argument if it is at the detriment of happiness!

It can be hard sometimes not to defend yourself when attacked verbally or to forget some wrongs from the minor (leaving the socks on the floor) to the very major (infidelity) but using these things as leverage is pure manipulation which again adds more blocks to the wall of resentment.

Forget them, do not retaliate and you will find your spouse will abandon this practice too.

3. Have a Date Night

Ok, that last two tips were a bit depressing so lets also look at something FUN that every couple should do every few weeks at least! To stay happy in marriage you need to always remember what made you first fall in love in the heady days of dates and courting and with the regularity of life as usual this can be lost.

Make sure to set up a proper DATE night to liven things up and to remember those early days. Do not just make this a trip to the movies wearing your oldest ripped jeans and sweater ... dress up! Look good! Treat it like the dates of old where you wanted to impress each other!

This can seem like a chore when life is so busy but once you are there and both of you are looking amazing all life's worries can be set aside for just that night where the two of you can focus on each other and fun exclusively. We need to impress each other again and again ... fall in love AGAIN every day or the passion will be lost.

These are just a few tips I applied to my failing marriage that turned things around almost like magic but there are many more things that can create marital bliss for you and your family.

One such resources i found that opened my eyes to the possibilities of change was an amazing guide i downloaded one Sunday night after and especially spiteful argument about something so petty i do not even remember it which i highly recommend.

Not only has it improved my marriage but allowed me the confidence, freedom and support to change my job, my finances and my entire outlook on life.

If you want to know more about this follow the link to stay happy in marriage.